How are we meant to bless our enemies?

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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️


The greatest blessing is that they get saved. If they're genuinely saved they will stop being your enemy.


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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️

Rom 13:10 Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.

There is no difference in loving people whether good or bad that we want the best for them regardless of how they treat us.

The world tells their enemies go to hell.

But a saint tells their enemies go to heaven.

Mat 5:38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:
Mat 5:39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

Rev 13:10 He that leadeth into captivity shall go into captivity: he that killeth with the sword must be killed with the sword. Here is the patience and the faith of the saints.

Contrary to what some people believe a saint is not to fight back when attacked because then they are acting like the world which is not love.

Mat 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.

Mat 5:46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
Mat 5:47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
Mat 5:48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

Rom 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Rom 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Rom 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

We are to want the best for our enemies wanting them to have their needs met and eternal life and not want evil to befall them.

Rom 13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.
Rom 13:2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.

2Ti 3:12 Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.

No power can rule unless God allows.

People will be persecuted which God is allowing it.

If God is allowing it who are you to fight against it.

Isa 31:4 For thus hath the LORD spoken unto me, Like as the lion and the young lion roaring on his prey, when a multitude of shepherds is called forth against him, he will not be afraid of their voice, nor abase himself for the noise of them: so shall the LORD of hosts come down to fight for mount Zion, and for the hill thereof.
Isa 31:5 As birds flying, so will the LORD of hosts defend Jerusalem; defending also he will deliver it; and passing over he will preserve it.

The 6 day war, 1967, when Israeli fighter pilots paved the way to win the war and take control of Jerusalem.

Luk 3:14 And the soldiers likewise demanded of him, saying, And what shall we do? And he said unto them, Do violence to no man, neither accuse any falsely; and be content with your wages.

Some people justify war as being from God because of David and Goliath and He allowed Israel to fight physically.

But the truth is Israel is the only nation that is justified to war if it is to protect their land and people.

If they do abide by the New Testament then they cannot fight.

John the Baptist told the soldiers to do violence to no man.

Heb 12:14 Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.

Rom 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

We are to follow peace with all people.

But there are levels of love that we will show for not all people will get equal affection but we still have to follow peace with them.

Some people we can hug.

Some people we can shake their hand but do not want to hug them.

Some people we can say hello but do not want to shake their hand or hug them.

Some people we cannot get along with them but that is on their part or at least should be.
 
The world tells their enemies go to hell.

But a saint tells their enemies go to heaven.

I am learning something new. I have fallen into this error. Telling my enemies to go to hell. I will change this right now, I will tell them to go to heaven. I will pray for their salvation.
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️

Usually you pray for them so they can have an encounter with God so they can feel loved.
 
I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️


There's more than one time David blessed King Saul by saving his life when he could have killed him.
 
There's more than one time David blessed King Saul by saving his life when he could have killed him.

I know something about this too, is King Saul was the daddy of King David's wife. Plus, it's written to not touch God's anointed. Then we see in the end of the story, someone killed King Saul, and David had he's head cut off for doing it.
 
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I know something about this too, is King Saul was the daddy of King David's wife. Plus, it's written to not touch God's anointed. Then we see in the end of the story, someone killed King Saul, and David had he's head cut off for doing it.


Yes, the classic example of someone forgiving their enemy was David towards Saul.
Yet, David killed the enemies of God and executed judgement as king.
What was the difference?
David's personal enemy was Saul, but he wasn't an enemy of God. Goliath was an enemy of God.
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore.

Romans 12:14 says, "Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse." It may be hard at first to actually wish for a blessing on them, but start with not cursing. I don't understand this to mean if someone pushes me down in a mud puddle I have to get up and say "bless you my child." To me it just means don't hate them or hold a grudge; try to love them. That doesn't mean you have to intentionally put yourself in harm's way, just don't go out of your way to do them harm. If later you cross paths, and you see they're in need of something, do what you can to help; don't cross the street and say to yourself "serves 'em right." The only way I've been able to make progress on this myself is praying every day for help with it.
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️
If someone is deliberately very mean to u , u don't have to have anything to do with them . Unless it's a person that u cannot escape from , a family member or work colleague . All u can do is b polite and don't allow them to bait u into behaving mean back at them .
With regards to blessing them . It helps to recognise that a lot of mean people r mean because they r unhappy for some reason . Maybe they r jealous , they don't have much love in their lives etc . A big reason for meanness is because they r atheists or idolators .
My mum is a psychopath and has always been very mean to me . Just this past year ( I'm 58 ) for the first time , she has softened a tiny bit . I think this is because I have spent a lot of time helping her and no one else has bothered with her . I have done my best to b a good daughter to someone who has abused me all my life . I guess this could count as me blessing my mum but really , it's God , blessing my mum through me . The first thing u need to do is to not exclude people from your prayers just because they r mean to u , in all honesty , these people need your prayers more than most . God is very precise in dealing with us , where He puts us , who He puts us with etc . Everyone in your life is there for a reason . We don't know these people intimately but we know that God does so , when I pray I say something like : please bless ( name ) in all the ways that You Dear Heavenly Father , know that ( name ) needs Your blessings most .
Also , u have to b prepared to ALWAYS b kind to everyone . This isn't always easy but it should b your default setting : kindness . Especially to someone who comes to u in need of help , whatever they need , it might just b they need someone to listen to them . God brings people into our lives and He does so for a reason , He is watching how u treat them ! Never forget that . Now go out there and show people the love of God that is in u ! ❤️
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️

I'm living somewhere that almost everyone (family, neighbours, authority, ...) see me as an enemy, and will have me dead if they find out I'm a Christian. Everyday when I do my daily things, I walk with them and having conversation with them, in my mind I imagine how they gonna react when realize I am a Christian convert. And it is scary at first. But the only way that I am not afraid of them and gives me courage to continue my way as someone who helps people to know the Lord and being saved, Is to pray for all those who want to persecute me, to be saved. I see them as lost souls who need light of Jesus in their lifes, And they will be different people for sure. In that way, even when I see scariest people that see me as an enemy and a threat to their faith, I do not afraid of them or I don't see them as my enemies. Because Jesus' name is above every other name.

Don't come up with reasons to not pray for your enemies. Just do it from bottom of your heart. And you'll see miracles. Have faith in Lord's words. [Matthew 17:20]
 
I'm living somewhere that almost everyone (family, neighbours, authority, ...) see me as an enemy, and will have me dead if they find out I'm a Christian. Everyday when I do my daily things, I walk with them and having conversation with them, in my mind I imagine how they gonna react when realize I am a Christian convert. And it is scary at first. But the only way that I am not afraid of them and gives me courage to continue my way as someone who helps people to know the Lord and being saved, Is to pray for all those who want to persecute me, to be saved. I see them as lost souls who need light of Jesus in their lifes, And they will be different people for sure. In that way, even when I see scariest people that see me as an enemy and a threat to their faith, I do not afraid of them or I don't see them as my enemies. Because Jesus' name is above every other name.

Don't come up with reasons to not pray for your enemies. Just do it from bottom of your heart. And you'll see miracles. Have faith in Lord's words. [Matthew 17:20]

Do you mind me asking what religion they are?
 
Do you mind me asking what religion they are?

Pagans, my friend. Islam is a religion of Paganism. They worship stones, shrines, buildings, peoples, books, animals and everything else but God. And kill the righteous in the name of their Gods and offer those sacrifices to them. As told before [John 16:2]. In fact they are spreading their influence in least expected nations. There will be times, that all Christians and people of God will go to suffer like us in here. [Matthew 24:9]. No community, no church, isolation and shadow of persecution. Families going to stand agains their members. As my father threated to kill me, And my mother disowned me [Luke 12:51]. At the end, "the one who stands firm to the end will be saved" [Matthew 24:13].
 
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I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️

Evil, hates truth of God being exposed. The people that see it formed by God in and through them, know truth over error and can stand in the face of death or any adversity. At least learn to over time in experiences, not ever denying God Loves them no matter what, Yet feelings in our bodies say differently, See Proverbs 23:1-7
Evil wants fear to control people to do as evil wants, to subdue people and make them not stand up. So evil can continue to do as evil does wanting to have puppets under them as does to this day so far still, until Father and Son show up in revelations to stop evil finally.
I see the challenge by Satan in Job 1 that Job, now us all the people will go through troubles as evil hates God the only one good to this day.
Son for us all Won 1 John 2:1-27, will you, me and all stand as in Col 1:21-23
 
I have never really understood this. It's not that I personally go out of my way to make or even attack my enemies, they usually come after me to pick a fight or try and trip me up and I just avoid them. Is this blessing them? I do what King David did and run because they have been mean. But if I were to bless them, like actually bless them, then I guess I would have to know what they want first. but they want me dead or destroyed. I cant do that! LOL.

Can anyone explain what it means to bless enemies.? especially as I just cant trust them enough to even have a conversation with them anymore. ☹️

This be a trust to God the Father of risen Son, that will not quit, and it is not easy at first try ever.
 
Pagans, my friend. Islam is a religion of Paganism. They worship stones, shrines, buildings, peoples, books, animals and everything else but God. And kill the righteous in the name of their Gods and offer those sacrifices to them. As told before [John 16:2]. In fact they are spreading their influence in least expected nations. There will be times, that all Christians and people of God will go to suffer like us in here. [Matthew 24:9]. No community, no church, isolation and shadow of persecution. Families going to stand agains their members. As my father threated to kill me, And my mother disowned me [Luke 12:51]. At the end, "the one who stands firm to the end will be saved" [Matthew 24:13].


I read that Muhammad chose the moon god out of the many pagan idols. Once he gained power, he forbade open worship of the other false deities. This is why it evolved into claiming to be a monotheistic religion. Their one god is certainly not the true and living God described by the Bible.

I'm sorry that you lost your parents. I know how that feels.
 
I read that Muhammad chose the moon god out of the many pagan idols. Once he gained power, he forbade open worship of the other false deities. This is why it evolved into claiming to be a monotheistic religion. Their one god is certainly not the true and living God described by the Bible.

I'm sorry that you lost your parents. I know how that feels.

Thank you my friend. Yes, losing family is hard. But knowing that you are on the right path, heals the wounds.

And about Muhammad and Islam. Yes. And if you dive deeper in Islam's rabbit hole you would be amazed how Satan influenced humanity for generations by this religion.

God bless you