Searching for male advice

Hello,

I just realized - I have absolutely nobody to talk to. No (older - or someone longer and stronger in the faith as I am) brother I could contact and ask.
I have been born again almost exactly 3 years ago and since then I'm pretty much on my own, because I couldn't find a suitable fellowship yet.
I know one, where I originally come from, but that is 500km away.
I spent my vacation on a tent evangelisation in my home region and that was prime Christian fellowship like I never experienced, a really very blessed time, BUT - I now face a challenge or rather question, because I encountered something.

At one point in those years I worked through the topic of divorced and re-marriage. (I'm divorced twice...)
And - although it included some sorrow - I came to the conclusion, that it is not for me any more. Although I know the argument, that some people think everything is washed clean through the new birth - I couldn't see that. We have to live with the consequences of our former decisions. And a walk with JESUS is not pain free and we are not guaranteed happiness.

The LORD freed me from any pain or difficulty to fight desires or lustful thoughts - it is really easy, I'm celibate and 100% chastely since then.
And reading Paul I see, I might be one of the blessed, for whom being alone is quite possible without pain or strain. I've always been a loner anyway and the worst and challenging times in my life have been relationships. So - that might be my path.

BUT I encountered something. A woman, a possibilty. It is not that I fell in love or was smitten. I don't look for suitable women for marriage and what I like I dismiss very quickly anyway, because that is always only rooted in beauty.

But I became aware, or rather was made aware that this woman likes me.

And now here I am, thinking about it since then and having no one to talk to, no advice from someone with a truly Christian perspective.

Thank for everything and God bless all of you!

Hello,

I just realized - I have absolutely nobody to talk to. No (older - or someone longer and stronger in the faith as I am) brother I could contact and ask.
I have been born again almost exactly 3 years ago and since then I'm pretty much on my own, because I couldn't find a suitable fellowship yet.
I know one, where I originally come from, but that is 500km away.
I spent my vacation on a tent evangelisation in my home region and that was prime Christian fellowship like I never experienced, a really very blessed time, BUT - I now face a challenge or rather question, because I encountered something.

At one point in those years I worked through the topic of divorced and re-marriage. (I'm divorced twice...)
And - although it included some sorrow - I came to the conclusion, that it is not for me any more. Although I know the argument, that some people think everything is washed clean through the new birth - I couldn't see that. We have to live with the consequences of our former decisions. And a walk with JESUS is not pain free and we are not guaranteed happiness.

The LORD freed me from any pain or difficulty to fight desires or lustful thoughts - it is really easy, I'm celibate and 100% chastely since then.
And reading Paul I see, I might be one of the blessed, for whom being alone is quite possible without pain or strain. I've always been a loner anyway and the worst and challenging times in my life have been relationships. So - that might be my path.

BUT I encountered something. A woman, a possibilty. It is not that I fell in love or was smitten. I don't look for suitable women for marriage and what I like I dismiss very quickly anyway, because that is always only rooted in beauty.

But I became aware, or rather was made aware that this woman likes me.

And now here I am, thinking about it since then and having no one to talk to, no advice from someone with a truly Christian perspective.

Thank for everything and God bless all of you!

And - although it included some sorrow - I came to the conclusion, that it is not for me any more. Although I know the argument, that some people think everything is washed clean through the new birth - I couldn't see that. We have to live with the consequences of our former decisions. And a walk with JESUS is not pain free and we are not guaranteed happiness.

Hello,

I just realized - I have absolutely nobody to talk to. No (older - or someone longer and stronger in the faith as I am) brother I could contact and ask.
I have been born again almost exactly 3 years ago and since then I'm pretty much on my own, because I couldn't find a suitable fellowship yet.
I know one, where I originally come from, but that is 500km away.
I spent my vacation on a tent evangelisation in my home region and that was prime Christian fellowship like I never experienced, a really very blessed time, BUT - I now face a challenge or rather question, because I encountered something.

At one point in those years I worked through the topic of divorced and re-marriage. (I'm divorced twice...)
And - although it included some sorrow - I came to the conclusion, that it is not for me any more. Although I know the argument, that some people think everything is washed clean through the new birth - I couldn't see that. We have to live with the consequences of our former decisions. And a walk with JESUS is not pain free and we are not guaranteed happiness.

The LORD freed me from any pain or difficulty to fight desires or lustful thoughts - it is really easy, I'm celibate and 100% chastely since then.
And reading Paul I see, I might be one of the blessed, for whom being alone is quite possible without pain or strain. I've always been a loner anyway and the worst and challenging times in my life have been relationships. So - that might be my path.

BUT I encountered something. A woman, a possibilty. It is not that I fell in love or was smitten. I don't look for suitable women for marriage and what I like I dismiss very quickly anyway, because that is always only rooted in beauty.

But I became aware, or rather was made aware that this woman likes me.

And now here I am, thinking about it since then and having no one to talk to, no advice from someone with a truly Christian perspective.

Thank for everything and God bless all of you!

Hello and welcome to CC!

I've been a Christian for over 30 years, and was a Christian when I first married almost 30 years ago. That marriage ended; her choice to walk away and commit adultery (yes, in that order, as far as I know). I wrestled through the question of remarriage and concluded that for me, it was permissible.

Well, I've been married 5 times, so never say never...

When you say you're "thinking about it," what do you mean? You mean you're thinking about the fact that she "likes" you? And what does that mean? Are you thinking about a possible romantic relationship with her?

Hello,

I just realized - I have absolutely nobody to talk to. No (older - or someone longer and stronger in the faith as I am) brother I could contact and ask.
I have been born again almost exactly 3 years ago and since then I'm pretty much on my own, because I couldn't find a suitable fellowship yet.
I know one, where I originally come from, but that is 500km away.
I spent my vacation on a tent evangelisation in my home region and that was prime Christian fellowship like I never experienced, a really very blessed time, BUT - I now face a challenge or rather question, because I encountered something.

At one point in those years I worked through the topic of divorced and re-marriage. (I'm divorced twice...)
And - although it included some sorrow - I came to the conclusion, that it is not for me any more. Although I know the argument, that some people think everything is washed clean through the new birth - I couldn't see that. We have to live with the consequences of our former decisions. And a walk with JESUS is not pain free and we are not guaranteed happiness.

The LORD freed me from any pain or difficulty to fight desires or lustful thoughts - it is really easy, I'm celibate and 100% chastely since then.
And reading Paul I see, I might be one of the blessed, for whom being alone is quite possible without pain or strain. I've always been a loner anyway and the worst and challenging times in my life have been relationships. So - that might be my path.

BUT I encountered something. A woman, a possibilty. It is not that I fell in love or was smitten. I don't look for suitable women for marriage and what I like I dismiss very quickly anyway, because that is always only rooted in beauty.

But I became aware, or rather was made aware that this woman likes me.

And now here I am, thinking about it since then and having no one to talk to, no advice from someone with a truly Christian perspective.

Thank for everything and God bless all of you!

You are possibly settled on living where you are at the rest of your life.
There's nothing wrong with that. I have no plans of moving and am content. Some may suggest looking for the best church you can find and moving to that community. A lot of people do that. I just wouldn't expect that the pastor will necessarily want to be close friends. There's likely others who will though. Just a thought of one option that comes to mind.

I'm not thinking about a "possible romantic relationship", I'm thinking about marriage, of course, because that's really the only way a man and a woman should relate to each other.

I'm not thinking about a "possible romantic relationship", I'm thinking about marriage, of course, because that's really the only way a man and a woman should relate to each other.

I may stay single the rest of my life and serve the Lord full time if He makes that possible. I've wanted to marry since high school and probably should have às soon as I found a virtuous compatible woman. However, I focused on school, ministry and work as much as I had time for thinking the relationship would come later. As things worked out I never married.

I came close to marrying a lady who was divorced and believe that I came under severe discipline for considering violating the Multiple times Jesus warned against it.<
Just a friendly reminder that Jesus gives us all. I came close to dying for that and God showed mercy when I repented as a Believer who might have left this world early.

I did not repent of that sin to be saved, but rather because I was saved so I was treated accordingly. A lot of preachers mix those two things up, so I have to mention for those who read this.

I understand, I was just wondering if you were thinking along those lines; that is, something more than friendship. If you've been celibate for awhile and are at peace with it then you're in a pretty good position to take things slow and get to know this woman as a person. I'm assuming from what you've said, your previous marriages were before the Lord found you. If that's the case, I see no reason why marrying again would be a problem. However, in 1 Corinthians 7, Paul advises believers to stay in whatever state they were in when called. Not as a command from the Lord, but as wise advice. Personally, as someone who has been blessed with celibacy, I would find it very hard to give it up and get involved again. But you have your own life to live, so I pray the Lord will give you wisdom.

Yes, I can see that very much. We are not only to keep his commandments to be save(d), but also having a good life, as HE intended us to have.
My questions would be: Was that a woman saved after her divorce? Would it still be tempting someone to commit adultery?
I'm liking your orthodoxy btw. Most of the times I'm the one being strikt with others. I seem to need it right now.
My loneliness makes me open to temptation, seemingly...