Seoulsearch Tries To Date Multiple People At Once -- Ending In Epic Failure!

Aw, that's so kind of you, thank you so much!

A hammock sounds perfect.

I have a CC friend in Maine -- I'm hoping it will be an excuse to cause mayhem, er, I mean, take a tour around the Eastern USA.

where is everyone from here anyway....im from Pennsylvania here.

@Susanna is from Wisconsin.

Just kidding! (Don't hurt me Susanna!)

Susanna is a proud Southerner -- and I'm her Yankee counterpart.

Tennessee here.

Georgia.. The state not the republic.

Yeah, that one confused me for a while. I was very young when I first played Splinter Cell, and the main character was infiltrating Georgia. Landscape didn't look a THING like the South.

Je suis cajun avant tout.🤗

En effet. 🥰

no fair i dont know that language. Good things theres google translate

I don't either -- I cheated and used Google translate.

From what I can tell, @Susanna said, "I am first and foremost Cajun."

To this I replied, "Indeed."

Hopefully she'll come in and correct me if I'm wrong.

I checked your right.

No, I am not concerned about that; like I'm not concerned about being attacked by a polar bear. If I was reporting back to civilization, I would document that around 2000 all women were infected with a disease that prevent amorous attachment. For utilitarian purposes they mimic attachment behaviors to create an illusion of fidelity, friendship, admiration, dependency and attachment... Just Kidding I really mean some people, males and females, do this. Genuine love searchers must guard their hearts and be critically discerning.

As long as people are upfront and honest, adults are fully responsible for their hearts.

Perhaps so. Most women seem "exceedingly practical" to me. My mom told me, later in life, that women choose men based on the life they will give them. This "practically" likely developed from historic lack of opportunities. Thankfully, that systemic lack of opportunity is almost entirely gone in the western world; but the "practicality" maybe imbedded much more deeply culturally, or some hypothesize genetically.

Perhaps "romantic attachment" before established compatibly and friendship is folly. The various ways someone feels may be real but also fleeting and rootless.

In short, you knowing yourself, and being discerning, I think you're doing the right thing. I'm not sure what you mean by "pushing him away"... but to reiterate, with up-front honesty, setting boundaries and expectations, I think you can keep a "good guy" on a healthy relationship course with you, without "pushing him away" if that takes unhealthy forms that would cause distrust or derail a promising relationship.

Yes, too true! LOL! That might make a good thread. It's a big subject. It probably mostly comes down to doing what you know you should. What someone finds attractive is likely partially subconscious; information worthy of bringing into the light. And probably requires a therapists.

Mais oui, c’est juste, mon ami.😊

French is such a beautiful-sounding language, like a song you don't want to end.

If I ever met a French-speaking guy, it might be all over!

I remember seeing an interview with Jane Birkin, the British/French actress/singer, and the studio had arranged a surprise visit from her daughters. She was so surprised to see them and they were all speaking to each other excitedly in French -- it sounded like an amazing harmony. ❤️

Susanna, if we ever hung out I'm sure I would annoy you to death -- I would demand that you speak French around me but then also have to constantly ask what you were saying.

watching hell testimonies on youtube....so many similarities Heavenly ones are too.

Do you forget me so quickly mi amour? Am I merely another drop in your bucket of captured tears?

Hmmmm, you say something happened around the year 2000, huh? . I was a high school junior that year, and I recall that the hottest trend in Christian dating was to kiss dating goodbye. All the good Christian girls I knew were adamant that they were only interested in a man who would "court" them. I looked into courting and it seemed dreadfully serious; if you began a courtship then you were expected to marry the guy unless something terrible happened to prevent it. It seemed like way too much to try to figure out before you even had a chance to get to know him. I had no idea what to even look for as far as compatibility goes, either. So I decided to be a rebel and just recklessly date every man who asked . NOT!!!!! I was a "Good girl" who was trying to follow the "rules", so I shot down every guy who showed interest in me if I wasn't comfortable with the thought of marrying him. Which was all of them .

Courting worked out ok for a lot of my friends, but I wish I had the self-awareness at that age to realize that it was a terrible fit for me personally. I realize it now, but I'm still finding my way through all the mental roadblocks I constructed in the meantime.

I have come to realize that what you said in bold is definitely the case for me personally. But for some reason it's still not well accepted in Christian circles.....people say it would lead to sin, or pain, or it's just plain wrong becasue the only reason men and women should be spending time together is to work towards the ultimate goal....marriage. But if a guy can't put up with me until we figure out if we're even possibly right for each other, then how the heck is he going to put up with me for the rest of my life?!? I can be pretty dang weird, I'd need him to know what he was getting himself into lol.

But yes, you're right that what I might think is being considerate or conscientious could actually be something unhealthy and unkind.......that's probably what I need to watch out for the most, really.

I have a crazy idea. Don't worry though; all my best ideas are crazy . Oh crap, wait......all my worst ideas were also crazy . Hmmm. Well, I guess we won't know which category this one fits into unless we try it out . Anyway, here it is: We can start a thread where members can each post 3 fake dating profiles, and you can tell us which one of the 3 you would choose. Then all of us dime-store therapists can analyze your choices and try to pick up on patterns of self-destructive tendencies! . Hmmm...ok now that I've typed it out, I'm pretty sure that one falls under "worst ideas" . But maybe I will start a thread on the topic, IDK...or you could, since it was your idea in the first place .

Giiiiiiirrrrllll, do NOT tag me with this responsibility, you a handful!!

Many of my posts are short... especially in the BDF. Concise.

Hey, didn't I design a panel for you way back when? I can't find it now...

Just went looking for it and came across this one:


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