Seoulsearch Tries To Date Multiple People At Once -- Ending In Epic Failure!
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I don't either -- I cheated and used Google translate.
From what I can tell, @Susanna said, "I am first and foremost Cajun."
To this I replied, "Indeed."
Hopefully she'll come in and correct me if I'm wrong.
From what I can tell, @Susanna said, "I am first and foremost Cajun."
To this I replied, "Indeed."
Hopefully she'll come in and correct me if I'm wrong.
I don't either -- I cheated and used Google translate.
From what I can tell, @Susanna said, "I am first and foremost Cajun."
To this I replied, "Indeed."
Hopefully she'll come in and correct me if I'm wrong.
From what I can tell, @Susanna said, "I am first and foremost Cajun."
To this I replied, "Indeed."
Hopefully she'll come in and correct me if I'm wrong.
So it doesn't sound like you are trying to keep the ladies from getting prematurely attached, interesting .
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If I was reporting back to civilization, I would document that around 2000 all women were infected with a disease that prevent amorous attachment. For utilitarian purposes they mimic attachment behaviors to create an illusion of fidelity, friendship, admiration, dependency and attachment... Just Kidding I really mean some people, males and females, do this. Genuine love searchers must guard their hearts and be critically discerning.As long as people are upfront and honest, adults are fully responsible for their hearts.
On my end of things, I really only worry about the guys getting prematurely attached . Not that I'm incapable of reckless dreaming/hoping; I'm just pretty quick to slap myself back to reality. If anything I'd be more likely to drag my feet than get ahead of myself. Perhaps it's just the difference between men and women?
. Not that I'm incapable of reckless dreaming/hoping; I'm just pretty quick to slap myself back to reality. If anything I'd be more likely to drag my feet than get ahead of myself. Perhaps it's just the difference between men and women?
My mom told me, later in life, that women choose men based on the life they will give them. This "practically" likely developed from historic lack of opportunities. Thankfully, that systemic lack of opportunity is almost entirely gone in the western world; but the "practicality" maybe imbedded much more deeply culturally, or some hypothesize genetically.
I guess I would define inappropriate attachment as too short of a time, therefore not knowing me well enough for it to be anything beyond superficial reasons (and also refusing to take "no" for an answer). Yet I, myself, have experienced what I can only describe as "love at first sight", and it wasn't based on looks at all....it was like I instantly saw into his soul and liked what I found. I don't know any other way to describe it, but it was incredibly strong and powerful. I know the feeling wasn't anything sinful and really it felt like it was spiritual . So I don't see any reason why a guy couldn't have the same experience upon meeting me but the thought is still kinda scary. So maybe that is an issue unto itself.
. So I don't see any reason why a guy couldn't have the same experience upon meeting me but the thought is still kinda scary. So maybe that is an issue unto itself.
In short, you knowing yourself, and being discerning, I think you're doing the right thing. I'm not sure what you mean by "pushing him away"... but to reiterate, with up-front honesty, setting boundaries and expectations, I think you can keep a "good guy" on a healthy relationship course with you, without "pushing him away" if that takes unhealthy forms that would cause distrust or derail a promising relationship.
I think this one was supposed to be rhetorical? If not I'd be happy to give a shot at answering, but my guess could be dreadfully off the mark! If I were to try to answer, it would be helpful to know more about your selection process/criteria .
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French is such a beautiful-sounding language, like a song you don't want to end.
If I ever met a French-speaking guy, it might be all over!
I remember seeing an interview with Jane Birkin, the British/French actress/singer, and the studio had arranged a surprise visit from her daughters. She was so surprised to see them and they were all speaking to each other excitedly in French -- it sounded like an amazing harmony. ❤️
Susanna, if we ever hung out I'm sure I would annoy you to death -- I would demand that you speak French around me but then also have to constantly ask what you were saying.
If I ever met a French-speaking guy, it might be all over!
I remember seeing an interview with Jane Birkin, the British/French actress/singer, and the studio had arranged a surprise visit from her daughters. She was so surprised to see them and they were all speaking to each other excitedly in French -- it sounded like an amazing harmony. ❤️
Susanna, if we ever hung out I'm sure I would annoy you to death -- I would demand that you speak French around me but then also have to constantly ask what you were saying.
French is such a beautiful-sounding language, like a song you don't want to end.
If I ever met a French-speaking guy, it might be all over!
Susanna, if we ever hung out I'm sure I would annoy you to death -- I would demand that you speak French around me but then also have to constantly ask what you were saying.
If I ever met a French-speaking guy, it might be all over!
Susanna, if we ever hung out I'm sure I would annoy you to death -- I would demand that you speak French around me but then also have to constantly ask what you were saying.
Do you forget me so quickly mi amour? Am I merely another drop in your bucket of captured tears?
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No, I am not concerned about that; like I'm not concerned about being attacked by a polar bear. If I was reporting back to civilization, I would document that around 2000 all women were infected with a disease that prevent amorous attachment. For utilitarian purposes they mimic attachment behaviors to create an illusion of fidelity, friendship, admiration, dependency and attachment... Just Kidding I really mean some people, males and females, do this. Genuine love searchers must guard their hearts and be critically discerning.
As long as people are upfront and honest, adults are fully responsible for their hearts.
If I was reporting back to civilization, I would document that around 2000 all women were infected with a disease that prevent amorous attachment. For utilitarian purposes they mimic attachment behaviors to create an illusion of fidelity, friendship, admiration, dependency and attachment... Just Kidding I really mean some people, males and females, do this. Genuine love searchers must guard their hearts and be critically discerning.As long as people are upfront and honest, adults are fully responsible for their hearts.
. I was a high school junior that year, and I recall that the hottest trend in Christian dating was to kiss dating goodbye. All the good Christian girls I knew were adamant that they were only interested in a man who would "court" them. I looked into courting and it seemed dreadfully serious; if you began a courtship then you were expected to marry the guy unless something terrible happened to prevent it. It seemed like way too much to try to figure out before you even had a chance to get to know him. I had no idea what to even look for as far as compatibility goes, either. So I decided to be a rebel and just recklessly date every man who asked . NOT!!!!! I was a "Good girl" who was trying to follow the "rules", so I shot down every guy who showed interest in me if I wasn't comfortable with the thought of marrying him. Which was all of them .Courting worked out ok for a lot of my friends, but I wish I had the self-awareness at that age to realize that it was a terrible fit for me personally. I realize it now, but I'm still finding my way through all the mental roadblocks I constructed in the meantime.
I have come to realize that what you said in bold is definitely the case for me personally. But for some reason it's still not well accepted in Christian circles.....people say it would lead to sin, or pain, or it's just plain wrong becasue the only reason men and women should be spending time together is to work towards the ultimate goal....marriage. But if a guy can't put up with me until we figure out if we're even possibly right for each other, then how the heck is he going to put up with me for the rest of my life?!? I can be pretty dang weird, I'd need him to know what he was getting himself into lol.
But yes, you're right that what I might think is being considerate or conscientious could actually be something unhealthy and unkind.......that's probably what I need to watch out for the most, really.
Yes, too true! LOL! That might make a good thread. It's a big subject. It probably mostly comes down to doing what you know you should. What someone finds attractive is likely partially subconscious; information worthy of bringing into the light. And probably requires a therapists.
. Oh crap, wait......all my worst ideas were also crazy . Hmmm. Well, I guess we won't know which category this one fits into unless we try it out . Anyway, here it is: We can start a thread where members can each post 3 fake dating profiles, and you can tell us which one of the 3 you would choose. Then all of us dime-store therapists can analyze your choices and try to pick up on patterns of self-destructive tendencies! . Hmmm...ok now that I've typed it out, I'm pretty sure that one falls under "worst ideas" . But maybe I will start a thread on the topic, IDK...or you could, since it was your idea in the first place .-
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* And Snackersmom -- if I stepped out of line and she told me to go to my room, I'd have to choice but to hang my head and go!
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