I Might Lose a Friend Over This -- Soft or Crunchy Tacos?

Aren't all Mexicans cute? .

You're not doing anything different. You're still being patronizing and condescending.

Are you, oh wise one, still trying to teach the wayward young seoulsearch child? (Protip: You're wrong, and she doesn't need it.)

Why so mean-spirited?

Telling people to stop drinking poison is not mean spirited....it's actually a kindness. Despite claims to the contrary.

What exactly would I need to do differently? And what exactly am I avoiding? What is this "different" thing you're accusing me of wanting so badly? Getting married?

Why are you never content with the answer that I don't want to get married? (At least not for now.)

Currently, I'm in a position to:

1. Look after my parents.

I am adopted, and it's very important for me to honor them as they have always taken care of me. Without them, I wouldn't have had a life or would have been pulled into a system that I probably wouldn't have survived anyway. I'm perfectly fine with putting marriage on hold or not marrying at all if I can make sure they are safe, loved, and comfortable.

2. Move into the stages of pre-retirement.

I have the blessing of a more flexible schedule with which I can contribute to causes I believe in. I'm also able to help friends with their businesses, something I've been asking God for years to do. I'm also sometimes able to travel to visit faraway friends, and I love spending time with their families.

3. Plan trips with other single friends as we coordinate our vacation times.

A friend and I have long-talked about cruising to Alaska. Praise God!

I'm honestly dumbfounded as to why you somehow think my life is horribly miserable and the solution is to focus my target on obtaining a husband. I've also told, I have a chance to get married if I wanted -- as I said in another thread -- he said he'd buy the ring tomorrow if I said yes.

But that's not what I feel God has for me right now.

And as I've also said, I'm willing to make tough choices to make sure my parents will be taken care of.

What on earth is wrong with that?

But for some reason, you won't accept that, coming into Singles and telling me I've failed at dating, and that I'm somehow hiding some big thing that you're going to expose.

Expose away, because I can't think of anything I'm hiding.

That's all you think you are doing?

For some reason, he insists I get married.

He came into Singles in another thread that said that I failed at dating because it didn't result in marriage.

But what if I don't want to get married and don't feel that's where God is leading me right now?

I'm not sure why, but he seems to keep insisting I'm running from the truth and should somehow throw all my effort into getting married.

Apparently, he sees the "poison" as being content, even happy, with my single life.

For some reason, it's not good enough and he insists I marry.

As you probably saw, I keep asking him to put me on Ignore but he won't.

I can't put him on Ignore because I need to be able to keep up with conversations in order to respond to threads, or I would have done so.

This thread is SUPPOSED to be about tacos.

Are we saying mexican food is poison? Some would agree...

Why must you ruin this fun thread with your butthurtedness? (I swear that's a real word. Language is whatever we make it, and I just made that.)

Lol.

I grew up in a small, all-white town...

I remember when I first started seeing guys of different races and it was like...

Whoa.

Now of course, white guys are plenty attractive.

But it's just that... Well, you know.

I saw it as a cultural experience.

I've stayed up with the conversations. What he might feel is true of you is his perception. I'm never bothered by another's observations. People can think what they want. We can evaluate it ourselves and keep what's good and discard the rest. But to continue the discussion into another unrelated thread is simply rude and mean-spirited. There is no defense for such behavior.

I'm sure he's going to keep doing this for every thread I put up.

I'm just hoping people will work around it and keep answering anyway.

Story time!

A friend of mine was a cop, w*rking overnight shift out of Deepinaharta, Arkansas. He had eaten mexican food for supper, despite having a bad history with Montezuma's revenge.

About 3am, downtown, the mexican food hit. There were no stores open. He was far from home. His only hope was the precinct office.

He turned on his flashing lights and tore across town as fast as he could drive. He hit the office door, his belt went one way and he went the other, safely into the bathroom.

When he came out, emergency dealt with, he was confronted by a big group of concerned officers who were wondering why his lights were STILL flashing, and what the emergency was. He was embarrassed to explain, but not nearly as embarrassed as he would have been if he hadn't made it in time.



So... Yeah, sometimes some people I know will say mexican food IS poison.

Yes indeed.

People always have a right to their own opinions, including of me.

Lol, I could tell some stories... Like the guy years ago who would say how much he hated my threads and was putting me on Ignore, but was the one of the first posters in every single one of them after that.

I mentioned something about races and he said I was being racist. So it was like every time I said Y, he said I was saying Z, and it all just went crazy. He eventually got banned, but I think it was for something else and not me.

I'm imagining that John doing this to my threads is going to be the new normal -- I'm just hoping people will bear with it and keep participating.

I totally understand it. I always tell everyone I annoy to put me on Ignore -- and if they don't, well, we've always managed to work around it.

It's definitely not the first time something like this has happened.

Ooohhh, very helpful, thank you!!!

These pictures are gorgeous!

Definitely makes my little homemade tacos look a bit paltry.

I just got back from another week in Mexico (Cabo San Lucas). I had some amazing tacos (al pastor, adobada). Pro tip: NEVER eat Asian food made by Mexicans. I've had a few times (I keep hoping), and it's always been awful.

Both soft AND crunchy, I think. 🤔

Eh it never lasts long with John. I bet tomorrow he won't post one letter in your threads.