How Often Does a Woman Expect a Man with a "Good Salary" to Actually Be Home?

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Talljake

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I know where a bunch of them are....just scroll down the romantical Threads here😂
There is someone I'd be interested in but it is in the Lord's hands. Who knows, maybe I'm meant to be single and just hangout in the singles forum lol
 

2ndTimeIsTheCharm

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Lanolin, you have some good points. As a workaholic...not recovering. I can honestly say that every night I lay in bed thinking that I could have and should have worked harder that day and what I could have done different. Just being on this forum and typing this right now is taking time away from finishing the updated Flat Rate pricing schedule that I am working on. And I feel anxious about it.

Has anyone here read the book by Mrs. Norman Vincent Peale "The Adventure of Being a Wife"?

Very eye opening. She talks about how a wife can make or break her husband. How she is the force that can make him 10 times more successful, productive, and wealthy than he ever could have been alone.

I agree. I am going to give a personal example and I don't want you all to think I am sniveling but this is just facts from my life.

1. I get up at 0500 most every day and try leave the house by 0600
2. I get home around 2000 so I can spend an hour with the kids. They are all teenagers now so getting them to talk is like pulling teeth.
3. I never get hugs or kisses from my wife
4. I rarely get encouragement.
5. I have to pay my wife to make lunches for me.
6. Breakfast is rarely made for me.
7. I try to start a conversation with her and am usually ignored.
8. Kind words only come when she wants something.
9. Etc.

Now I know this is filled with I statements and is only one side of the story. But in our society today most everyone views relationship as a tax return. Married filing separately. What would happen if the wife supported her husband, encouraged, cared for, made a home that he wanted to come home to...nay was eager and couldn't wait to get home to. What if women started being a "Helpmate" again?

I know for me. I would be able to get at the minimum 10% more done. If not way more. My attitude would be better. Etc.

I'll end with this. My business did 300k last year if I could increase that by 10% that's an extra 30k. What could a woman do to increase her man's productivity by 10%?

She can start by making breakfast for you! Imagine all the time you save not having to do that. You can sleep 10% more and come into work 10% more rested. Since you're more rested, you're 10% more in a better mood which in turn is 10% more work done.

I don't think you're asking too much of your wife. Have you talked to her about these things? Also have you tried hugging and kissing her first? That might shock her, but it might encourage her to do that back to you?

I will pray that she starts appreciating you more and do more on her part to make the marriage more loving and exciting.


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TabinRivCA

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There is someone I'd be interested in but it is in the Lord's hands. Who knows, maybe I'm meant to be single and just hangout in the singles forum lol
What do you want the Lord to do, DM her for you? You can hang out here wondering about someone special, or make a friendly move, that's on you. First question to her, do you like snow?😂
 

Lynx

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There is someone I'd be interested in but it is in the Lord's hands. Who knows, maybe I'm meant to be single and just hangout in the singles forum lol
As long as they keep this CC Singles bowl of salted nuts full, I'm not going anywhere.
 
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She can start by making breakfast for you! Imagine all the time you save not having to do that. You can sleep 10% more and come into work 10% more rested. Since you're more rested, you're 10% more in a better mood which in turn is 10% more work done.

I don't think you're asking too much of your wife. Have you talked to her about these things? Also have you tried hugging and kissing her first? That might shock her, but it might encourage her to do that back to you?

I will pray that she starts appreciating you more and do more on her part to make the marriage more loving and exciting.


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I don't want to drag it out but even asking for a hug is met with disdain and the question "why".?
 

Talljake

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What do you want the Lord to do, DM her for you? You can hang out here wondering about someone special, or make a friendly move, that's on you. First question to her, do you like snow?😂
I was thinking "do you like flannel" haha.
Nah, it's just I wonder if the lord wants me to be a husband. Would I be a good husband. And I need to learn what the lord says a good husband is in his word. I'm still learning, I feel like I will always be learning.
 

Talljake

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As long as they keep this CC Singles bowl of salted nuts full, I'm not going anywhere.
Me too lol. Although I went to sight and sound in PA and they had these salted chocolate almonds........maybe cc needs to upgrade because they were so good lol
 

Lynx

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Me too lol. Although I went to sight and sound in PA and they had these salted chocolate almonds........maybe cc needs to upgrade because they were so good lol
I have a bowl of chocolate covered cranberries and a bowl of chocolate covered cherries. I'm good on that. I'll just keep eating the regular salted nuts.

If I complained about lack of variety... They might stop filling the bowl.
 

Lynx

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My mother fit all this into a box. I almost didn't want to unpack it, because it was so artfully packed.

So... Yeah, I'm good on chocolate for a while. I got this at the first of December and I'm still working on it.

Zoom in on that picture and scroll from side to side. It's quite impressive how much she fit in a little box.
 

Talljake

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I have a bowl of chocolate covered cranberries and a bowl of chocolate covered cherries. I'm good on that. I'll just keep eating the regular salted nuts.

If I complained about lack of variety... They might stop filling the bowl.
I will say, in the middle of a work day salted peanuts are a good snack. They're one of of those snacks that disappear before you know it and are like did I just kill the hole bag
 

Talljake

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My mother fit all this into a box. I almost didn't want to unpack it, because it was so artfully packed.

So... Yeah, I'm good on chocolate for a while. I got this at the first of December and I'm still working on it.

Zoom in on that picture and scroll from side to side. It's quite impressive how much she fit in a little box.
Wow.....that's a good bit lol
 

2ndTimeIsTheCharm

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I don't want to drag it out but even asking for a hug is met with disdain and the question "why".?
Why??? Say "Because we married each other and I love you?"

Hey everyone! We really need to cover this marriage with our prayers. Your marriage is paralyzed and you'll need us to dig a hole and lower this paraplegic to Jesus!


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Lanolin

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shiftwork...one covers day, one covers night, is how many parents manage.

Breakfast so that you can work 10% more is that in terms of hours or rate of production (prouducing what?) I dont know if it actually works that way when breakfast is easily cold cereal for some or just a hot cuppa a lot of people have their breakfast at work because they have to beat traffic to get there early and theres really no time for breakfast.

Teachers all had cereal and toast at morning tea or coffee there would have been no time for breakfast, plus some had to feed children who didnt have any (no parents making breakfast for them, because they have to go early to work as well)

not everyone has a 9-5 job. If EVERYONE had a 9-5 job the city couldnt function because everyone is stuck in traffic jams. If you do have a regular 9-5 job 5 days a week you be one of the rare ones but its a lot out of your day so realistically the only spare time you have is weekends. weekdays you come home, exhausted and you might have homework or you dont actually want to deal with doing more work and making more money is never going to compensate for lost family time...just the day to day things.

Thats a long time for someone to spend at home alone, no children, pets, no ongoing project to occupy themselves with, after drudery of housework is completed while some else with 9-5 job at least has camaraderie of workmates, or customers or clients to talk to and exciting projects planned. If you not doing renovations or gardening you cant always expect to go round visiting other peoples houses when they have their housework and shopping and things to do either.

Im thinking if shes barred from work outside the home she may start resenting that. I knew a workmate who had been divorced, she said she married a dentist and he was just all about the business which consumed all of his time and she just had no interest in dentistry or being a dentist assistant. For her it was never about salary but that it consumed all of his time. Some wives are like they dont care what their husbands do as long as housekeeping money is there but I guess its just recognising whats important. Because to be stuck at home, on your own for 8 hours everyday is actually very isolating for wives used to being part of a wider community, there are wives that struggle with being 'kept' or captive, just as there are men that dont like it.

Reality is housework is not a glamourous job its also unpaid, repetitive and dull and so if someone doesnt want their wife to work outside the home but is gone all day everyday earning a lot and doing something fullfilling and she isnt something will have to give. If children have all left home then why work youself to death if its just for the pay. You can afford to retire if you paid the mortgage and live a life of leisure and then do what you want TOGETHER without pressure. Its not fun just to always be left to own devices at home for many wives who maybe need to socialise and maybe its just that peculiar middle class thing of being the bored , desperate empty nester housewife.

I welcome the stay at home stint after the chaos of workplace politics but if you spend TOO much time at home you start to get antsy. And its not like you can spend all day watching tv cos that after a while becomes dead boring too, watching everyone else live their life when nothing much is really happening in yours.

sorry I just have a bit too much time on my hand to think about things these days. worklife balance can be hard on marriages as cracks start to show if there arent passions and hobbies or common ground.
 

Cameron143

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Who me? Am I the flannel guy? There is a couple of us flannel guys here lol
Not the flannel guy...the Flannel Ranger. Being your PR guy...sorry, PR Ranger...is the toughest job I've ever had.
 

Talljake

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Not the flannel guy...the Flannel Ranger. Being your PR guy...sorry, PR Ranger...is the toughest job I've ever had.
Can my horse have a matching flannel saddle? That would be so cool lol. Ouuuu let's turn horse into moose. You may ride a horse but have you ever rode a moose, didn't think so 😂.......now that there is a line. Coming in slow motion like. With a tip of the baseball cap lol
 

Talljake

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Can my horse have a matching flannel saddle? That would be so cool lol. Ouuuu let's turn horse into moose. You may ride a horse but have you ever rode a moose, didn't think so 😂.......now that there is a line. Coming in slow motion like. With a tip of the baseball cap lol
With all this flannel I'm ganna look like a Christmas present lol
 

Cameron143

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Can my horse have a matching flannel saddle? That would be so cool lol. Ouuuu let's turn horse into moose. You may ride a horse but have you ever rode a moose, didn't think so 😂.......now that there is a line. Coming in slow motion like. With a tip of the baseball cap lol
Wow! Maybe I'm having more of an influence than I thought. That's the kind of thinking I've been looking for.
When I go looking for future clients, I was afraid I wouldn't be able to use you as a reference. I might just be able to salvage you after all. I was actually doubting my superpower for a minute.