Do you think finding a spouse is more difficult now than in the past?

I messed up badly the first time... if I'm ever single again, I doubt I'd even both looking for another spouse for the house.

I'd probably get a puppy instead!

No worries.
We all have questions when we continue learning. Just this morning I was reminded of that when I had a different question. Instead of my pastor, I took it to the Author of the book. I asked Him the answer and immediately flipped back a few pages and He brought my eyes exactly to the answer. I thanked Him and wrote down the reference and answer for future reminders the next time I read it. It's not always so easy or quick to get the answers, but if I seek I'll find and ask it shall be given unto me.

When my pastors would teach/ preach, I'd often take notes like you. Then rather than taking their word for it, I would study on my own time and beg God for the answers and understanding. He always came through.
Sometimes my pastor was right and sometimes wrong. When he was found to be wrong on major doctrines and continued to mis- teach basics that he should have learned first time reading through the Bible, guess what?
I sought out a pastor who was correct on the basics and where I could be spiritually fed. I eventually found what I was looking for.

Paul even expected that of the Galatians in chapter 1. He had established churches in their region and he wanted them to check out his teaching with the books of the Bible they already had.
I was reading this and a passage came to mind. Where was it? I did not know.
I asked the Author and He brought me to the verse He gave us without using a search function on the computer. He took me to Acts 17:11

"These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so. "

Thessalonica was open to the gospel. However, those in Berea were even moreso. They didn't take the apostles word for the truth until they checked it out with their Bibles.

We should honor and respect our pastors.
You already know what your pastor teaches about these subjects. You know what I believe too, but don't take my word for it.
May I suggest rather than asking for his explanation, simply know that he too is imperfect and rather go directly to the Author and plead with Him for His answer.
I think He will provide the correct one and bless you for seeking, for asking.

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I messed up badly the first time... if I'm ever single again, I doubt I'd even both looking for another spouse for the house.

I'd probably get a puppy instead!

Amen health. The author is the greatest source for answers. I am a slow learner and my biggest concern is miss leading. When I'm learning I want to know the truth, there is so much false information that can get passed around and it can be confusing. You are 100% correct, seeking knowledge is best to come from the author. Another concern I have is interpreting God's word wrongfully. That's why I go to my pastor, for help. I'm not the brightest bulb but I'm not that dim either. Like memorizing versus, flash card or writing it down and things like this are not working for me. It is a struggle I have. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I love the lord and want to always be making sure I am learning his word correctly.

Like the rapture. There are versus people use to support pre, mid, and post. I am believe in pre. From what I have read and understand. But in the end I also believe it will happen but in God's timing and if we are faithful then we are ready when he does come. And yes I do know there are forums discussing this topic but it gives me a headache with the back and fourth bickering on who's right. Yet it is topics like these that I want to make sure I have learned and understand God's truth.

Thank you though for your patience and understanding. It's has been hard to have a moment with pastor one on one.

You may still have interest, but God has shut all the doors.

Amen health. The author is the greatest source for answers. I am a slow learner and my biggest concern is miss leading. When I'm learning I want to know the truth, there is so much false information that can get passed around and it can be confusing. You are 100% correct, seeking knowledge is best to come from the author. Another concern I have is interpreting God's word wrongfully. That's why I go to my pastor, for help. I'm not the brightest bulb but I'm not that dim either. Like memorizing versus, flash card or writing it down and things like this are not working for me. It is a struggle I have. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I love the lord and want to always be making sure I am learning his word correctly.

Like the rapture. There are versus people use to support pre, mid, and post. I am believe in pre. From what I have read and understand. But in the end I also believe it will happen but in God's timing and if we are faithful then we are ready when he does come. And yes I do know there are forums discussing this topic but it gives me a headache with the back and fourth bickering on who's right. Yet it is topics like these that I want to make sure I have learned and understand God's truth.

Thank you though for your patience and understanding. It's has been hard to have a moment with pastor one on one.

Not really sure about that....

That likely means that you are looking in all the WRONG places.

I stand firmly by what I said previously.

There are more choices and opportunities now than ever before. There are literally millions of available choices afforded to anyone truly interested in forming a marital relationship. Once upon a time your choices were limited to dozens....and people still fell in love and married. Today with literally a million choices available you still can't find one?

If you can't find one acceptable in a group of a million....then Ocams Razor applies.

I disagree. Just because you want something, doesn't mean God wants you to have it too. I knew of a couple who badly wanted their own children. They tried and tried and had to come to the conclusion that God simply said 'no'. He does that sometimes. Genies might grant your every wish, but our Father's no genie.

Then it's not God saying "No" but it is you putting words in God's mouth....
Something that is a very very scary proposition. I'd be very cautious about doing such things. It's an unhealthy lifestyle.

Yeah, umm... No.

Jesus wanted to avoid going to the cross, and passionately entreated God to spare Him -- but asked that His will ultimately would be done. God said 'no' to Jesus' earnest desire.

So denial is a river in Egypt eh?

Yeah don't know what that means, and at this point, don't care. I'm done with this.

I simply say ok with a smile 🙂 and move on. Have a blessed and awesome day Dearie ☺☺☺

All I know is whatever answer God gives, it’s always good. Whether yes or no, it is good.

It wasn’t fun at the time, but I’m grateful for the times God said no when I liked a guy before I met my husband. lol.