Seek first the kingdom of God

There is nothing wrong with wishing for a helpmate. Glad to have you onboard with us. Welcome to CC.

Thank you. I apologize if I made it seem like it was wrong. I just wanted to express that the more you try and nothing happens, if you find yourself getting super frustrated then maybe you should relax some because it never feels good to be constantly frustrated.

Also there's a LOT of life out there to live. If you focus too much on that one thing you don't have, all the rest of life will pass on by.

This morning life is a dark chocolate coated marzipan log. Yum! I can enjoy that whether I'm single or married.

Actually... I might be enjoying it MORE as a single guy. If I was married my wife might nag me about my health and sugar and stuff.

Thank you. I apologize if I made it seem like it was wrong. I just wanted to express that the more you try and nothing happens, if you find yourself getting super frustrated then maybe you should relax some because it never feels good to be constantly frustrated.

lol yes a caring wife would totally nag you!

It's part of the training process for husbands.

The process of frustration is indeed frustrating. For sure, if you don't at least try nothing will happen.

Pray for God to give you the courage, strength, and wisdom to get through each day.

As far as for God to provide for you a helpmate, you just never know who you are going to meet. I was frustrated and lonely when I first joined this site but then, one day, I met my future wife here who is also a member. She was and still is a blessing from God. We got married the same year in 2014 and a few days ago celebrated our 9th anniversary.

I pray that God provides a helpmate for you too if that is the desire of your heart. Keep trying and never give up. God is certainly not going to give up on you.

God bless you.

Hi Janelle, in answer to your question a quote came to me and I hope it will help, It is true to seek the kingdom of Heaven first but also from scripture it it written in GEN 2. 18;

King James Bible
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

New King James Version
And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

Basically it says it is not good to be alone. if you feel you need someone to share your life then seek a good HELPFUL man to be to your side. Nothing wrong with this on the contrary. Once you have someone to help you may have more time for yourself to reflect on the Words of GOD and and more time to seek the Kingdom of GOD.

Blessings and again welcome!

this doesnt comfort women ...its really a verse for men.

Helpful men are few and far between I have found. They tend put themselves first. Apparently its Gods order, men were created first then women, and there is nothing you can do about it. If you happen to be a firstborn female, you are likely to be usurped by your younger brother lol

I look at it as instructions when you are in a flight. Should there be any complications, put on your mask first so that you can better assist the one you are carrying. Men need to be prepared for women. That’s why it’s often hard to find. It’s as if there are fewer in church now. At least where I’m from.

Maybe that's why I'm single. A lynx is very difficult to domesticate. Doesn't take training well at all.

One other thing christians seem to forget we are in New Testament times now, and things have changed. If they keep citing Genesis saying we have to go forth and multiply you have to remind them gently that earth is getting a little overcrowded in many places.

I don't either. Marriage seems to be a constant learning process. No regrets though.

If the earth is flat, as some claim, the overcrowding will eventually push them off the edge.

I have heard some people want to live on Mars. Not sure why but another planet seems like a good idea for some. Venus too.

As long as we can actually LIVE there then I’m all for it! Wish I could go to space now!

I have heard some people want to live on Mars. Not sure why but another planet seems like a good idea for some. Venus too.

*Lynx goes off to pee on the side of tourist's couch, to mark it as the territory of a lynx.