Married to a "Christian" but feel unequally yoked?

I may just be venting here and now, but I could use some thoughts or ideas about sharing OR NOT to a spouse who seems to show no real interest in spiritual growth, while you're learning, reading, and almost can't get enough.

I read the Word, enjoy it, learn new stuff and get curious about things in it, but though he's a "Christian" I've never seen him crack open a Bible, he doesn't talk about spiritual things (with him bringing them up), nor does he seem to grow spiritually--or care too much. His life seems to be all work, public service, and his "boy toys".

When I learn something new from the Bible, get interested in a Christian group or artist, obtain an interesting spiritual book, and want to share something I find exciting, I get little to no response. I feel like he sees my growing spiritually as just a hobby, while I wonder if his boy toys are more borderline idols that he doesn't see.

His apparent lack of interest or motivation towards things of God are making me feel unequally yoked with him. He used to be more interested in this. Is it as useless as if feels to share anything spiritual with him? If not, why not? This feeling like I am talking to a brick wall is getting pretty sad and lonely! Why do guys get like this--pay more attention to their toys than to God and growing?

I get lonely and feel sad around here Some ideas on options? Like keeping my interesting finds to myself? Is it just plain useless to share? I don't like talking to brick walls.

I may just be venting here and now, but I could use some thoughts or ideas about sharing OR NOT to a spouse who seems to show no real interest in spiritual growth, while you're learning, reading, and almost can't get enough.

I read the Word, enjoy it, learn new stuff and get curious about things in it, but though he's a "Christian" I've never seen him crack open a Bible, he doesn't talk about spiritual things (with him bringing them up), nor does he seem to grow spiritually--or care too much. His life seems to be all work, public service, and his "boy toys".

When I learn something new from the Bible, get interested in a Christian group or artist, obtain an interesting spiritual book, and want to share something I find exciting, I get little to no response. I feel like he sees my growing spiritually as just a hobby, while I wonder if his boy toys are more borderline idols that he doesn't see.

His apparent lack of interest or motivation towards things of God are making me feel unequally yoked with him. He used to be more interested in this. Is it as useless as if feels to share anything spiritual with him? If not, why not? This feeling like I am talking to a brick wall is getting pretty sad and lonely! Why do guys get like this--pay more attention to their toys than to God and growing?

I get lonely and feel sad around here Some ideas on options? Like keeping my interesting finds to myself? Is it just plain useless to share? I don't like talking to brick walls.

The book of genesis teaches us that "You find a Man in the presence of God, you don't drag a man to the presence of GOD!" A teaching from Myles Munroe. He explained; 'The garden of Eden is not a place, Eden is an Atmosphere, it's the presence of GOD, and once man sinned, the presence was taken back to Heaven! Which is the Garden of Eden!
So if you feel like your partner is not alikened to you, Pray about Him or Her. Ask God to give you a sign if He's the one or not. It might, and I repeat, might be a sign that GOD wanted to show you that one's I elevate you to my Realm, you'll start to see the true colours of your partner!
Pray about it before you make a decision!

I get lonely and feel sad around here Some ideas on options?

Assuming you are a member of a Bible-believing church, start inviting spiritual Christians from your church to have a time of weekly Bible study and refreshments in your home and ask your husband to be present just to be friendly. Sooner or later someone will sit down with him and talk about his relationship to God and Christ. If he chooses not to be there don't make it an issue, but keep going.

If he is not truly saved, you cannot expect him to have an interest in spiritual things. But interacting with other couples without any pressure could make a difference. And by "Bible study" I means going directly to the Gospel of John in the King James Bible and taking it verse by by verse. Which means that all who come should have something to contribute. The modern versions can be very misleading.

Assuming you are a member of a Bible-believing church, start inviting spiritual Christians from your church to have a time of weekly Bible study and refreshments in your home and ask your husband to be present just to be friendly. Sooner or later someone will sit down with him and talk about his relationship to God and Christ. If he chooses not to be there don't make it an issue, but keep going.

If he is not truly saved, you cannot expect him to have an interest in spiritual things. But interacting with other couples without any pressure could make a difference. And by "Bible study" I means going directly to the Gospel of John in the King James Bible and taking it verse by by verse. Which means that all who come should have something to contribute. The modern versions can be very misleading.

I really appreciate your suggestions, Nehemiah 6, but would you believe that our house, at least on the inside is so messy, despite my best efforts to keep it clean and neat, that my husband has been too embarrassed to have anybody but family here? Sad, but true.

I have the same problem but from a husbands side. Sucks.

I may just be venting here and now, but I could use some thoughts or ideas about sharing OR NOT to a spouse who seems to show no real interest in spiritual growth, while you're learning, reading, and almost can't get enough.

I read the Word, enjoy it, learn new stuff and get curious about things in it, but though he's a "Christian" I've never seen him crack open a Bible, he doesn't talk about spiritual things (with him bringing them up), nor does he seem to grow spiritually--or care too much. His life seems to be all work, public service, and his "boy toys".

When I learn something new from the Bible, get interested in a Christian group or artist, obtain an interesting spiritual book, and want to share something I find exciting, I get little to no response. I feel like he sees my growing spiritually as just a hobby, while I wonder if his boy toys are more borderline idols that he doesn't see.

His apparent lack of interest or motivation towards things of God are making me feel unequally yoked with him. He used to be more interested in this. Is it as useless as if feels to share anything spiritual with him? If not, why not? This feeling like I am talking to a brick wall is getting pretty sad and lonely! Why do guys get like this--pay more attention to their toys than to God and growing?

I get lonely and feel sad around here Some ideas on options? Like keeping my interesting finds to myself? Is it just plain useless to share? I don't like talking to brick walls.

Recently I was sharing with him about something interesting I read about the Tabernacle. That night or early in the a.m., I forget which, I found his Bible in the bathroom. It was turned over and still looked un-opened, so I wondered what was going on, but never said anything. It was gone later though.

Just yesterday I was telling him how serious God sounds about the Sabbath. He asked what brought that up, and I told him I was just thinking about it. That was the end of that. No comments whatsoever. I took that as totally uninterested. I was depressed, more or less, the rest of the day about it, and then really sad all day today. The dreary weather didn't help.

With his apparent lack of interest I more or less decided never(?) to bring anything up again about the Bible. But that puts me in a bind when I think about church and where else I have considered going, in that he would suspiciously ask why. Then I started thinking of all the stuff I could be upfront and honest about regarding HIS lack of interest. The only thing is, I have mentioned it before in the form of why he's always so quiet IN church and if the messages mean anything to him. He got a little defensive. Sort of matches him, because he is very quiet about his thoughts on it all, and since he keeps it all to himself he may not even be listening. He acts like he wants to sit next to me in church, when he's not on duty somewhere, but considering his lack of interaction I might as well be sitting by myself anyway. But even in that I feel like a loner, and based on what all he talks about I am trying to psych myself up to accept that. It REALLY depresses me and makes me a bit angry; then the next battle is to not take it out on others.

I'd kind of like to go back to the pastor who married us years ago and ask him some questions about him, really, but that is out of the question. Besides, people DO fall away from the Lord. Some might even acknowledge it, but that looks to be about as far as they go.
Sometimes interests people take on become idols, though, but since they might not be statues they don't see them as such. And might just get defensive if you point it out to them.

My mom suffered the same problem with my dad, except he was all about reading/science/intellectual. Maybe one of you guys can tell me: do more men think they don't need God, just because they're men and therefore self-sufficient? I think if God was a woman they would see things differently? Is there a truth to that??

I'm so sorry you're going through all this!

My Mom too have this problem with my Pop. What happened was that my grandfather was a born-again Christian (now home with the Lord) and he had my father take part in church activities when he was young, such as teach a Sunday school class. So my mother thought that he too was a Christian and they got married. ....Only to find out that he really wasn't.

My Mom has recently these past few years have become more serious about God and have started actively talking to Him in prayer, studying the Bible and obeying Him from what she can understand from His word. My father is still not into God because my grandfather was strict with him (not from being a Christian, but from being a military colonel), he associates strictness with Christianity.

But since my mother and I pray for him and the rest of the family, he is willing to take part in a family prayer. Every night, where ever our family members are in the world (we tend to travel a lot), we Skype and talk about our day. And then my Mom does a family prayer. My father tolerates it which is better than nothing.

So right now, all that my mother and I can do is pray and live out our Christian lives before him. It IS heartbreaking though because he's so stubborn. But I feel compelled to pray for him and won't stop praying for him until it's no longer an option....


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Recently I was sharing with him about something interesting I read about the Tabernacle. That night or early in the a.m., I forget which, I found his Bible in the bathroom. It was turned over and still looked un-opened, so I wondered what was going on, but never said anything. It was gone later though.

Just yesterday I was telling him how serious God sounds about the Sabbath. He asked what brought that up, and I told him I was just thinking about it. That was the end of that. No comments whatsoever. I took that as totally uninterested. I was depressed, more or less, the rest of the day about it, and then really sad all day today. The dreary weather didn't help.

With his apparent lack of interest I more or less decided never(?) to bring anything up again about the Bible. But that puts me in a bind when I think about church and where else I have considered going, in that he would suspiciously ask why. Then I started thinking of all the stuff I could be upfront and honest about regarding HIS lack of interest. The only thing is, I have mentioned it before in the form of why he's always so quiet IN church and if the messages mean anything to him. He got a little defensive. Sort of matches him, because he is very quiet about his thoughts on it all, and since he keeps it all to himself he may not even be listening. He acts like he wants to sit next to me in church, when he's not on duty somewhere, but considering his lack of interaction I might as well be sitting by myself anyway. But even in that I feel like a loner, and based on what all he talks about I am trying to psych myself up to accept that. It REALLY depresses me and makes me a bit angry; then the next battle is to not take it out on others.

I'd kind of like to go back to the pastor who married us years ago and ask him some questions about him, really, but that is out of the question. Besides, people DO fall away from the Lord. Some might even acknowledge it, but that looks to be about as far as they go.
Sometimes interests people take on become idols, though, but since they might not be statues they don't see them as such. And might just get defensive if you point it out to them.

My mom suffered the same problem with my dad, except he was all about reading/science/intellectual. Maybe one of you guys can tell me: do more men think they don't need God, just because they're men and therefore self-sufficient? I think if God was a woman they would see things differently? Is there a truth to that??