Why do christian women want only tall guys?

I doubt you're physically ugly.

It's the state of your heart that's driving people away.

You don't give yourself enough credit.

Obviously some are pretty inside and out but it was just too funny the way she said it lol.

even with a positive attitude women would still not want me, becuse of my terrible looks and being only 185 cm

you seen me? huh

even if my heart was ugly, how is that a problem? there is plently of people with ugly hearts who has or had girlfriends/wifes. so cant blame on that.

Is your real name Eyore? Do you live in the 100 Aker Wood?

Well then you obviously have a long, lonely road ahead.

What are you doing to prepare for it?

That's not being mean -- that's being realistic.

I'm alone in my own life as well. But I'm thankful that others around me are teaching me how to live it out, and maybe even with a purpose.

Most women can't tell the difference between 185 and 190 cm by looking.

In the meantime you have a lot of women here telling you that they wouldn't touch you with a 10 ft pole because of your attitude. So you can listen to the real live women here, or you can rot alone trapped by your own delusions.

Is that what you're wanting to be in life?

An ugly-hearted person who's just hoping to get lucky?

Unwillingness to even lift a finger towards self-improvement is yet another huge red flag.

no, who is that ?

i could need some friends, but nobody wants to be friend with a guy who is very ugly. very lonely road ahead indeed

most women can, they are very alert with perfection.

i did try to improve myself for a long time, but it did not help, so im stuck. and hence i become bitter because of it.

For the same reason that Christian men only want ‘hot’ women…

It isn’t a ‘Christian’ thing; it’s a human thing.

Most humans are naturally predisposed to seek certain characteristics in potential mates. Women look for height, muscle bulk, and income. Men look for the body shape that is most compatible with childbearing.

If you don’t fit within the ‘normal’ ideal parameters, don’t worry; you only need one person to find you attractive.

He's six feet tall

I understand about being bitter. I honestly do. And I understand a lot of what you're feeling, even though I'm a woman.

I had a husband once. I came home from work one day, and he had moved out without telling me -- so that he could be with another woman.

Was I bitter? You better believe it. I still am if I don't distract myself enough (but God is working on pulling that out of me.) Did I think I was ugly, and that's why he left? You bet your bottom dollar. Here I was, the ugliest woman in the world, the woman who was so ugly and apparently so messed up that her own birth parents (I'm adopted) rejected her, and then husband didn't want her either. And since you're so fixated on height, I happen to be short. And guess what? My husband left me for a TALL redhead.

So I DO understand how you feel. I tried to make self-improvements, hoping he'd change his mind. And even when he didn't, I tried to make my life into what I wanted (which meant being WITH someone,) but that hasn't worked out.

And so all I know to do is pick myself up and keep going. Yeah, it's taken a long time. But what I've found is that you often meet other people who have/are going through similar things, or are in similar situations in life -- and with God's blessing, you might even become friends. This is the one thing that's kept ME going.

I don't know where you are in your journey.

But I do hope that this is NOT your final destination. I hope your frame of mind will change, even if your situation does not.


So...

What are 3 kind things you've done for other people around you in the last month? (As this, not complaining about how ugly you are, is what can lead to building friendships.)

How much work are you willing to put into it?

My honey that I married is hot. Not sure what she saw in me though.

No my friend, if he were physically here, he would 6 feet out the door with a size 11EE wide boot print on his back end.

We have a very good moderator who took care of his trash talk and worked hard to clean up his mess in isle #3.
(You remember the thread.)

I"m 5'-11 1/2" and I'm content with that.