Why do christian women want only tall guys?

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seoulsearch

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maybe not puke, but you would think im very ugly. objective ugly means being very ugly in everyones eyes
I doubt you're physically ugly.

It's the state of your heart that's driving people away.
 

HopeinHim98

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"Some people are pretty on the inside and ugly on the outside,
Some people are ugly on the inside and pretty on the outside,
And others are ugly both inside and out!"

(to quote a former coworker)
Obviously some are pretty inside and out but it was just too funny the way she said it lol.
 
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That's the most ironic thing of all.

You think women reject you over looks and height - and some might.

But if you hold the same attitude of stereotyping and accusing all women of being shallow for not dating you in real life, I can pretty much guarantee you that yes, you will always be alone.

The assumptions you keep going on about are a giant red flag to run away screaming right off the bat.

And if you feel you can't or won't change, you might as well prepare yourself for that life of solitude.

How can you expect to attract anyone with such an unattractive frame of mind?
even with a positive attitude women would still not want me, becuse of my terrible looks and being only 185 cm
 
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I doubt you're physically ugly.

It's the state of your heart that's driving people away.
even if my heart was ugly, how is that a problem? there is plently of people with ugly hearts who has or had girlfriends/wifes. so cant blame on that.
 

Cameron143

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even if my heart was ugly, how is that a problem? there is plently of people with ugly hearts who has or had girlfriends/wifes. so cant blame on that.
Is your real name Eyore? Do you live in the 100 Aker Wood?
 

seoulsearch

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even with a positive attitude women would still not want me, becuse of my terrible looks and being only 185 cm
Well then you obviously have a long, lonely road ahead.

What are you doing to prepare for it?

That's not being mean -- that's being realistic.

I'm alone in my own life as well. But I'm thankful that others around me are teaching me how to live it out, and maybe even with a purpose.
 

cinder

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even with a positive attitude women would still not want me, becuse of my terrible looks and being only 185 cm
Most women can't tell the difference between 185 and 190 cm by looking.

In the meantime you have a lot of women here telling you that they wouldn't touch you with a 10 ft pole because of your attitude. So you can listen to the real live women here, or you can rot alone trapped by your own delusions.
 

seoulsearch

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even if my heart was ugly, how is that a problem? there is plently of people with ugly hearts who has or had girlfriends/wifes. so cant blame on that.
Is that what you're wanting to be in life?

An ugly-hearted person who's just hoping to get lucky?

Unwillingness to even lift a finger towards self-improvement is yet another huge red flag.
 
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Well then you obviously have a long, lonely road ahead.

What are you doing to prepare for it?

That's not being mean -- that's being realistic.

I'm alone in my own life as well. But I'm thankful that others around me are teaching me how to live it out, and maybe even with a purpose.
i could need some friends, but nobody wants to be friend with a guy who is very ugly. very lonely road ahead indeed
 
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Most women can't tell the difference between 185 and 190 cm by looking.

In the meantime you have a lot of women here telling you that they wouldn't touch you with a 10 ft pole because of your attitude. So you can listen to the real live women here, or you can rot alone trapped by your own delusions.
most women can, they are very alert with perfection.
 
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Is that what you're wanting to be in life?

An ugly-hearted person who's just hoping to get lucky?

Unwillingness to even lift a finger towards self-improvement is yet another huge red flag.
i did try to improve myself for a long time, but it did not help, so im stuck. and hence i become bitter because of it.
 

Dino246

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Yes anything under 190cm is consider to be small nowdays. myself i am 185 cm which is average. why is average not enough anymore?
For the same reason that Christian men only want ‘hot’ women…

It isn’t a ‘Christian’ thing; it’s a human thing.

Most humans are naturally predisposed to seek certain characteristics in potential mates. Women look for height, muscle bulk, and income. Men look for the body shape that is most compatible with childbearing.

If you don’t fit within the ‘normal’ ideal parameters, don’t worry; you only need one person to find you attractive.
 

HopeinHim98

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For the same reason that Christian men only want ‘hot’ women…

It isn’t a ‘Christian’ thing; it’s a human thing.

Most humans are naturally predisposed to seek certain characteristics in potential mates. Women look for height, muscle bulk, and income. Men look for the body shape that is most compatible with childbearing.

If you don’t fit within the ‘normal’ ideal parameters, don’t worry; you only need one person to find you attractive.
He's six feet tall
 

seoulsearch

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i did try to improve myself for a long time, but it did not help, so im stuck. and hence i become bitter because of it.
I understand about being bitter. I honestly do. And I understand a lot of what you're feeling, even though I'm a woman.

I had a husband once. I came home from work one day, and he had moved out without telling me -- so that he could be with another woman.

Was I bitter? You better believe it. I still am if I don't distract myself enough (but God is working on pulling that out of me.) Did I think I was ugly, and that's why he left? You bet your bottom dollar. Here I was, the ugliest woman in the world, the woman who was so ugly and apparently so messed up that her own birth parents (I'm adopted) rejected her, and then husband didn't want her either. And since you're so fixated on height, I happen to be short. And guess what? My husband left me for a TALL redhead.

So I DO understand how you feel. I tried to make self-improvements, hoping he'd change his mind. And even when he didn't, I tried to make my life into what I wanted (which meant being WITH someone,) but that hasn't worked out.

And so all I know to do is pick myself up and keep going. Yeah, it's taken a long time. But what I've found is that you often meet other people who have/are going through similar things, or are in similar situations in life -- and with God's blessing, you might even become friends. This is the one thing that's kept ME going.

I don't know where you are in your journey.

But I do hope that this is NOT your final destination. I hope your frame of mind will change, even if your situation does not.


So...

What are 3 kind things you've done for other people around you in the last month? (As this, not complaining about how ugly you are, is what can lead to building friendships.)

How much work are you willing to put into it?
 

HealthAndHappiness

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No my friend, if he were physically here, he would 6 feet out the door with a size 11EE wide boot print on his back end.

We have a very good moderator who took care of his trash talk and worked hard to clean up his mess in isle #3.
(You remember the thread.)