Can Mastubation Equal Rape?

Eau De Reptilia, of course.

That's called pride. God got through it The way it was delivered pissed you off (and maybe justifiably so?), but the thing itself should not have. I get it. I think I've been starting to think along those terms too, though I'm probably not as far along as you.

I've learned that life is better without sinful pride. No, I got plenty of it, but God has begun to chip away some of it. And, it feels good. It leaves peace behind, not this adrenalized need to defend myself. Unfortunately what remains still wants to fight. I can't wait till its last cell is burned.

But, also know that some people out there are just plain bad, and their only purpose in your life is to be a puppet of the enemy.

Pride is definitely a big part of it.

If I remember right, I had mentioned being divorced, and the guy reacted by replying, "I'm sorry that you're a fornicating adulteress." And that surely riled up my pride.

I don't think he even allowed me to explain that my husband had a girlfriend and moved out in secret one day while I was at work - I came home to a half-empty house - but this guy in the forum had his mind made up about what he thought I was.

And God told me, "However he chose to judge or put it, the bottom line is that he's telling you that you're a sinner."

I had to let it go because no matter how it was presented, when it was boiled down to the bare fact of being a fallen person who sins, I couldn't argue with that.

What he assumed and judged me for was between him and God, but of course that also meant I had to own up to what God wanted to acknowledge in me.

My whole life, the people who have both loved and hurt me the most usually identified themselves as Christians.

No one wants you about all the judgment and opposition Christians have to deal with WITHIN Christian circles, but I think every believer comes to a accept that it's just one of the uglier sides of faith.

well that was a sticky topic to bring up...

I just pray and bind demons beforehand. I remember one horny workmate was always hitting on the girls and just being a pain like that, and I just laughed.

Or said 'whatever'. Sorry the feeling isnt mutual.

One time he got turned on my me putting sun cream on my leg. ugh. If they cannot control themselves with their minds or their bodies I just think ok that person has a dirty mind and they need cleansing, God. will you cleanse them cos its not my job to be their bathwater.

*smiles*

Thanks, Missy!!

Seriously, the reason I am the way I am is because from the time I was a kid, for some reason, people have talked to me about some of their most pressing, personal issues. I can remember being at summer camp (about 11 years old) and a girl there was telling me about some terrible things that had happened to her.

Throughout the years, I have also had many guys confide in me about past abuses they've endured... I think it's even harder for guys in some ways because of all the social taboos ("men are supposed to be strong and never show it when something bothers them," etc.) Completely untrue, in my book.

So, I'm always asking, "Why, God? And what do you want me to do in order to try to help?"

As I said, I originally wanted to be a psychologist--I wanted the worst, most severe cases--and was working on my Master's thesis when I went through a very bad, unwanted divorce (sorry to keep repeating myself, you've probably read this in my other posts), so I dropped out of school to work full-time.

It's never been in my heart to go back to school.

But the people coming in and out of my life, their questions and search for hope, truth, and healing... never ends.

And neither do my questions.

how do you fee now about returning to your studies?

Hi Narrow!

To be honest, I have never wanted to go back to a formal school. If I had to, I would, but for now I prefer learning online in my own time.

I don't want to rack up debt or student loans again so I go as I can.

I get excited when I get to try implementing even small things I learn, and that keeps me motivated. 🙂

how do you fee now about returning to your studies?

My whole life, the people who have both loved and hurt me the most usually identified themselves as Christians.

Psalm 55:12-14~ It is not an enemy who insults me...

@seoulsearch certainly has a "unique" fan club eh?

I had forgotten about this one....thank you!
Nothing makes a person feel so alone as when a "Christian " friend perpetrates some evil trying to "fix" you or the world.
@seoulsearch certainly has a "unique" fan club eh?

More eclectic than unique. She draws out people who like to think, and people who hate thinking and want to complain about her trying to get them to think.

Hello, everyone:

Have any of you ever been in situations where someone tells you they are thinking of you and masturbating to their thoughts about you... and you are completely horrified, feel violated, and am not sure how to react? Did you say anything back to them?

Because I've had some experience talking to inmates in prison and soldiers in Iraq ( I originally wanted to be a psychologist), I have run into this situation more than once and am not sure how to react to it in a "Christian manner."

I think it's a relevant topic for a lot of people though, because you can just as easily encounter this with a co-worker.

The last few times it happened (and the guys who have told me this all claimed to be Christians), I wrote back to the person, "Well... ok... but will you do me a favor? You've told me you believe in God, right? The next time you're having those thoughts about me, will you imagine God standing right next to you? And you believe He knows your thoughts and intentions, right? What is He telling you abut what you're doing? Please get back to me about what He says to you."

One apologized profusely and said he would never do it again; the other told me I had "hurt him" and stopped talking to me altogether.
I want to be understanding because we're all human and we all have errant thoughts, especially when we're lonely, stressed, and going through terrible circumstances.

But I don't want to feel abused or violated either. I am not at peace AT ALL with the idea of someone having sex with me in his mind when I am 1. not interested in him that way and 2. not his wife (I've had one tell me it was justified because he wanted to marry me.)

One of the guys who did this said, "Well, I'm a man, you're a woman, you should be flattered by the attention."

I wrote him, "I'm sorry, but I am not your personal porn object."

To me, someone reacting to me in this way is a major violation of my free will.

What do you think? Am I being too harsh? And how would you react personally?

*Keep in mind this can happen to anyone--guys included, as I've known plenty of guys who have the problem of another guy telling them they are having these thoughts about them--of course, homosexuality is obviously Biblically wrong. But, how do you deal with someone violating you within their own mind and telling you about it?*