The Vital Importance Of Forgiving Others

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My struggles with forgiveness have been, even when I forgive, my opinion of that person doesn't change (depending on the issue). Does that mean I did not forgive?
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
My struggles with forgiveness have been, even when I forgive, my opinion of that person doesn't change (depending on the issue). Does that mean I did not forgive?
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It very well may simply mean that they didn't repent.
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
My struggles with forgiveness have been, even when I forgive, my opinion of that person doesn't change (depending on the issue). Does that mean I did not forgive?
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I think that is a good question. I would say no, you haven't in your heart forgiven them. I don't know though. However, maybe it is the action itself you are not forgiving. It is such a conundrum. Are you praying for them with a sincere heart, hoping good things for them. I don't know, but I think forgiveness is a process in our emotions. I always pray, Lord help my thoughts and emotions line up with You. He knows we struggle, He knows we r trying. The sea of forgetfulness is not ours but maybe He can help us to forgive way down deep. I will say chosing to distance yourself from harmful situations does not mean you aren't forgiving them. I think in your heart you know... you know if more work, in regards to the forgiveness, needs to happen.
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
My struggles with forgiveness have been, even when I forgive, my opinion of that person doesn't change (depending on the issue). Does that mean I did not forgive?
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We need to forgive from the heart, not just from the mind. God sees why people do things, not just what they do. We rarely have that kind of insight. Unforgiveness is toxic to out relationship with God, others and even ourselves. There is an answer:

https://www.christianlife.org.au/can-you-forgive-from-your-heart
 
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Gideon300 said:
We need to forgive from the heart, not just from the mind. God sees why people do things, not just what they do. We rarely have that kind of insight. Unforgiveness is toxic to out relationship with God, others and even ourselves. There is an answer:

https://www.christianlife.org.au/can-you-forgive-from-your-heart
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CharliRenee said:
I think that is a good question. I would say no, you haven't in your heart forgiven them. I don't know though. However, maybe it is the action itself you are not forgiving. It is such a conundrum. Are you praying for them with a sincere heart, hoping good things for them. I don't know, but I think forgiveness is a process in our emotions. I always pray, Lord help my thoughts and emotions line up with You. He knows we struggle, He knows we r trying. The sea of forgetfulness is not ours but maybe He can help us to forgive way down deep. I will say chosing to distance yourself from harmful situations does not mean you aren't forgiving them. I think in your heart you know... you know if more work, in regards to the forgiveness, needs to happen.
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I guess my point is, once you forgive, it doesn't necessarily mean you will have a positive view of that person. Does forgiveness mean having a positive view of that person? Let's say you have a schemer "friend", for example, you can forgive but that doesn't change your opinion of that person.
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
I guess my point is, once you forgive, it doesn't necessarily mean you will have a positive view of that person. Does forgiveness mean having a positive view of that person? Let's say you have a schemer "friend", for example, you can forgive but that doesn't change your opinion of that person.
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We do need an honest view of people. My fiancee met a woman at a course she was doing. They became friendly. The woman is/was a churchgoer. She stopped answering the phone. It seemed a little odd, but people are what they are. However, we discovered why she went dark on us. She's serving a prison term for fraud. While we would not reject her if she contacted us again, we would be wary, especially as it's not her first time behind bars.
 
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Matthew, Chapter 6:

9After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

10Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

11Give us this day our daily bread.

12And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

13And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

14For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
My struggles with forgiveness have been, even when I forgive, my opinion of that person doesn't change (depending on the issue). Does that mean I did not forgive?
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forgiving someone doesn’t immediately take the pain away from what they did. It doesn’t come from our feelings or emotions but from our peaceful Christian heart forgiving the ones who don’t deserve to be forgiven not based on what they did or how we feel about that but based on our allegiance and subjection to Christ and his commandment

what we “ feel” , lies a lot to us and convincingly so , what we do however is always just what it is
 
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