What’s it like being a man?

I’ve been pondering something for a while. What’s it like being a man?
Now, I totally get that y’all can find it difficult to answer that question since none of y’all have been women, but I’m really curious about it.

What’s it like being tall, like 6’2” or even taller? Reaching everything without having to use a box or a stool? Or being able to operate your cell phone using only one hand?

This is not a joke. I’m really curious.

I’m sorry about that. It sort of came out in the wrong way. I didn’t think before typing (per usual). 🥰🤗

I'm a man but I never have known what all that stuff you mentioned is like. I know some women who know what it's like though.

I can recommend a good phone for you though. The unihertz jelly 2. Small enough to use with one hand, even if you're not a big man.

The original jelly is even smaller, but it runs Android 7. Far too outdated for modern use.

Well, seeing how I'm 6' 1 1/2" tall, I can tell you that height has both its advantages and disadvantages.

On the one hand, yes, I can reach most things without the use of a box, stool, or even a ladder, and I'm often asked by women at the grocery store to grab something for them off of a top shelf.

On the other hand, however, I've also OFTENTIMES bumped my head on things that other people wouldn't bump their heads on because they're shorter, and I've split my head open (never needed stitches, but blood still poured down upon my face) on more than one occasion. Probably the worst one (although no blood spilled that time) was when I was helping a friend carry a sofa down his driveway. Well, I didn't see the air conditioner in his neighbor's window, and the pointed edge of it caught me right in my temple while I was walking at a brisk pace. It could have literally killed me, but obviously it didn't.

I recall another time when I ran down the stairs and into a friend's basement.

Low hanging pipe from the ceiling right around the corner.

Big ouch.

A semi-decapitation.

Then there's the time that I was playing "Man hunt" as a teenager. I was chasing someone at night, while running through someone's backyard. He was about a foot shorter than I was at the time, and I didn't see the person's clothesline strung across their backyard.

Yep.

It caught me right under my nose.

Back flip in the air before landing flat on my back.

Big red rope burn under my nose/across my face for about two weeks.

Shall I go on (I easily could)?

Like I said, height has both its advantages and disadvantages.

Anyhow, your questions seem more geared to things related to a man's physical attributes.

Had you asked a more general question in relation to what it's like to be a man, then I'd tell you that it's very difficult at times.

I obviously cannot speak on behalf of all men, but I can assure you that I've been wrongly stereotyped, simply because I'm a man, A MULTITUDE OF TIMES throughout my life. In fact, almost daily in one type of situation or another.

In other words, just because a lot of men truly do suck, a lot of women automatically assume that all men suck, and that's simply not the case.

As a born again Christian man, I've spent the last 33+ years genuinely seeking God while allowing him to fashion me into that which a true man should be.

Where has it gotten me?

Well, I'm in good with God, but I'm still wrongly stereotyped by people (and not just women) constantly.

It is what it is.

On a totally unrelated note (and, as strange as this might sound, I've thought about this several times in the past), for some unknown reason, I like your profile picture the best out of all the ones I've seen here. I honestly don't know if it's representative of some character or not, but I just like it.

For whatever that's worth (probably nothing...lol).

Yeah that happens.

I see no profit in trying to apologize for other men a woman may have met. It won't do any good. She will keep on thinking all men are turds.

It is a handy, convenient way though to figure out you don't want to pursue a relationship with that woman.

I totally agree.

I think that I might have said this here before, but it bears repeating...

I've taken so many OTHER GUYS' BULLETS that I might as well be a target at a firing range.

I've had women say things to "me" that I wouldn't have even known were about me (the real me) if they hadn't been addressed towards me.

Yeah, sad to say, the women I've met should be working in movie theaters in that they're very skilled in the art of projection (as in projecting what others have done to them unto me).

Again, it is what it is.

I meant more generally about being a man, not physical attributes. I can see, though, that my wording made people here think otherwise.

That's why I personally hate communicating via written text. To me, it's the lowest form of communication in that it's so easy for our true intentions to be lost in translation or for our words to be misconstrued.

Anyhow, as I've already shared, it really is tough being a man.

Not tough in the sense of actually being a man, although that requires a lot of genuine repentance, renewing of one's mind, etc. before the Lord, but tough in the sense of being seen and accepted for the type of man you truly are.

Even here, I know that a lot of people don't think highly of me.

And I don't put all of that on them, either.

Some of it is definitely how I seemingly come across in some of my posts, but only a couple of people here have ever really known and communicated with the real me.

Anyhow, I'd imagine that being a woman isn't all that easy, either.

We really need the Holy Spirit to help us to see people for who they really are, but that requires true humility.

I know that I've jumped the gun and misjudged certain people at times myself, so I'm not just pointing my finger at others.

Well, I've said too much already.

I hope that you find the answers that you are looking for.

Have a blessed day.

I think I’ll get some answers, but I also don’t think I’ll necessarily understand those answers. It’s my experience that men and women are quite differently wired. I guess there’s good reasons for that.

This pastor, Mark Gungor, has a great series about how we are wired differently, I think you may enjoy it.
As far as being bigger, taller, faster, etc. It does give us more opportunity to serve.

lol.

I'm not usually one for humor from the pulpit, but I've watched the first 27 minutes so far (I'll watch more later), and it's not only funny, but also VERY TRUE.

In fact, I not only saw me and my ex in what he's said so far, but I see my two daughters in there as well, so it's not just a marriage thing, but apparently a male/female thing.

Glad you enjoyed, it really did illuminate a lot about interpersonal relationships to me.

I'm going to try to get my children to watch it with me at some point in time.

SO MUCH of what he said thus far perfectly describes my relationship with my eldest daughter (19 years old).

Don't get me wrong...

She and I love one another, but our brains definitely operate differently when we discuss things.

Well this is obviously not for all men.

I think
I think it's tough to be human in the sinful order of things. That being said, and I am NO feminist-apologist, I think being a woman is tougher and I'd never like to be one.

Pregnancy? Childbirth? Periods? Being more physically vulnerable to attack?

You can keep it.

Neither will we ever understand much about you girls.

It is enough to know that we are different, and that it is a good thing we are different, because together we can cover a lot more bases than we can apart. Men are generally good at the things women suck at and most women are good at the things men suck at.

If we keep that in mind during disagreements, we can accept a lot more differences between us. Maybe not understand them, but accept them.

I'm glad that you mentioned "the sinful order of things".

As I mentioned earlier, I watched part of the video (I'm about to watch more of it) that shittim posted a link to, and I found it to be very true. However, I've been wondering if it's only very true "in the sinful order of things". You know, merely a true reflection of what men and women are like after the Fall, but not necessarily how God originally intended us to be.

Anyhow, I'd imagine that being a woman has its own set of challenges attached to it.

That said, and this might sound weird, I kind of envy the pregnancy and childbirth parts that you mentioned as undesirable.

Why?

Well, I not only witnessed all three of my children being born (two through a midwife...the third was born during a snowstorm, and we had to rush to the hospital because the midwife couldn't make it), but I cut all three of their umbilical cords as well. I also used to talk and sing to them while they were still in their mother's belly, and, quite frankly, I envied the bond that they had with their mother (breastfeeding, etc.) after they were born because I wanted to be as much a part of their lives as was humanly possible.

True, my ex was like a ranging bear or a wild tiger when they were being born because of the physical pain, but she also got to experience the joy which followed:

"A woman when she is in travail hath sorrow, because her hour is come: but as soon as she is delivered of the child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for joy that a man is born into the world." (John 16:21)

Anyhow, I just love my children.

I told them many times when they were little that I wish I could have carried them in my belly while they were being formed.

Again, that may sound weird, but I never claimed to be normal.

Anyhow, you can keep the periods...lol.

Btw, we, as men, do get to experience womanhood in one sense.

In other words, spiritually speaking, we are part of the bride of Christ.

Talk to the hand. That is one aspect of that image I do not like. If you wish to so femininely identify, be my guest.

I prefer to think of myself as being a child or a son.