Is it Biblical to marry a divorced person?

Agreed. Marriage is no joke to God. It is one serious covenant that I believe most do not even fully understand on the day of their marriage.

Only a few reasons for divorce is allowed and it has to be done a certain way. The certain way is so that the innocent individual is taken care of and both legally and spiritually proven to be innocent. It is like an outward source of evidence to show I am just and sinless in this matter. The rules was put into place to largely protect women as that culture had almost no rights for women.

Yes, from a spiritual perspective, adultery is the only legal ground for divorce. Interestingly and sadly, a lot of Hollywood writers and producers understand this better than many Christians do, even though we all know that they're Satan worshippers who hate family and marriage. The reason I'm saying this is, based on my observation, whenever there's a divorce or just a breakup, the direct trigger is always cheating - not that the guy is a worthless loser, not that he's a workaholic married to his job, not that he's bad in bed, not any fundamental disagreement on money management, childrearing or house decoration, not any different views on politics or religion, not that he's far away at a distant place, not even that he's an abusive or manipulative jerk. These are all contributors that inevitably lead up to cheating, but there's always a third party homewrecker involved, and eventually it's always cheating that seals the deal, because that's the breach of a covenant. When one commits adultery, even just wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am with a prostitute, according to Paul in 1 Cor. 6, a new spiritual bond is formed as two become one.

I believe God would also include that anyone under the tyranny of physical and mental abuse can also be excused from the legal bond of marriage. But like you and others have mentioned previously, all possibilities for reconciliation have to be exhausted before legal divorce can occur.

Yeah, it's not just the end of a relationship between a couple, children and property are involved, there's often a nasty fight. I remember a pastor made this brilliant analogy, that a divorce is like peeling off a tape off a surface, and getting remarried is like sticking that tape onto anther surface. It's much harder to stay tightly and securely on that new surface because the strength of adheresion has gotten significantly weaker when you peeled it off. If you do this multiple times, that tape would not be able to stick on anything, and similarly, after several rounds of hook up, shack up and break up, a person would get numb, and it's much harder for them to commit in any long term relationship.

It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
I don't know indepth of this topic from the Bible that's why I asked here.
Thanks for your contribution and study. Iron sharpens iron indeed.

TimothyGroup, post: 4750324, member: 305370"]I'm sorry, but I couldn't possibly add to what Peter and Paul have made perfectly clear. These things aren't up for debate. I will say, however, that Paul made an exemption, and it is this:

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 NKJV - "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

There is nothing left to be said on this matter (by me). Scripture is 100% crystal clear.

It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
I don't know indepth of this topic from the Bible that's why I asked here.
Thanks for your contribution and study. Iron sharpens iron indeed.

I'll say this from my own life and seeing people staying in toxic marriages to the point they die in that marriage. It not only affects you alone when you marry the wrong person but it affects your relatives, like example, your siblings, your parents and your children. Especially children.

That's why Paul would say it is better to live alone in his letters. But, He adds that if you're unable to satiate your carnal needs, it is better to find a partner.

Well, divorce usually happens because of unfaithfulness. That's one of the main reasons. But to think that a divorced person cannot marry is wrong indeed. A divorce happens because two people are unable to co-exist. They're too different. That's why it happens.

Unfaithfulness is one thing. But what if, for example... the husband and wife are both faithful to each other and the wife tortures the husband verbally and physically. Or the husband physically assaults his wife and abuses her verbally. Or the wife is cruel to the old parents of the husband.

Christian faith asks us to bear the cross and walk in life. But when the burden is more than what one can carry, it no longer affects that person alone. It affects everyone involved in the family. The longer you put up, the longer the damage.

Family counseling and therapy can help set things right. But if that fails, then the only option is divorce. And you cannot live with such an abusive spouse after what happened. Because if it does not change, it does not change and that is not good for either the man or the woman involved in the relationship.

I know, because I come from such a family and I've seen such things happen among families I know. If a man and a woman is not a unit, then it does not add to a marriage. I'm not talking about families who are not Christian families. They are all Christian families.

And then, are not divorced people human beings. Where will they go to satiate their sexual needs? It's good to marry again. Start over. And that can be hard too. Life is not easy. But with prayer and faith in God, I'm sure, We all can The Bible says forgive, forget, accept and carry your cross and follow Jesus.

Well, this is a topic which definitely hits close to home for me...and for more than one reason.

For starters, I was married for almost 18 years, and my ex ultimately committed adultery several times, and then divorced me.

With such being the case, am I the so-called "innocent party" who is free to remarry?

Honestly, I don't know, and I've read the entire Bible from cover to cover many times, and prayed about this innumerable times as well.

When it comes to the topic of marriage or anything related to it, I think that it's best that we begin by realizing that marriage was instituted by God to mirror the relationship between Christ and the church.

To this end, Paul wrote:

Ephesians chapter 5

[22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
[23] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
[24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
[25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
[26] That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
[27] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
[28] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
[29] For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
[30] For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
[31] For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
[32] This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
[33] Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

With such in mind, I think that a good question to ponder is this:

Would Christ ever divorce someone?

In my understanding of scripture, the answer to this question is "yes".

We read:

Jeremiah chapter 3

[1] They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.
[2] Lift up thine eyes unto the high places, and see where thou hast not been lien with. In the ways hast thou sat for them, as the Arabian in the wilderness; and thou hast polluted the land with thy whoredoms and with thy wickedness.
[3] Therefore the showers have been withholden, and there hath been no latter rain; and thou hadst a whore's forehead, thou refusedst to be ashamed.
[4] Wilt thou not from this time cry unto me, My father, thou art the guide of my youth?
[5] Will he reserve his anger for ever? will he keep it to the end? Behold, thou hast spoken and done evil things as thou couldest.
[6] The LORD said also unto me in the days of Josiah the king, Hast thou seen that which backsliding Israel hath done? she is gone up upon every high mountain and under every green tree, and there hath played the harlot.
[7] And I said after she had done all these things, Turn thou unto me. But she returned not. And her treacherous sister Judah saw it.
[8] And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
[9] And it came to pass through the lightness of her whoredom, that she defiled the land, and committed adultery with stones and with stocks.

Because of Israel's repeated spiritual whoredoms, God "put her away, and gave her a bill of divorce" (vs. 8).

Seeing how God divorced Israel for her whoredoms, I do believe, in accordance with the "exception clause", that a man can justifiably put away or divorce his wife for the cause of sexual immorality.

That said, we must also strongly consider something else that God said here, namely this:

"They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD."

While citing the famous/infamous passage from Deuteronomy chapter 24, the LORD said unto his whorish wife whom he had put away and given a bill of divorce "yet return again to me, saith the LORD".

In other words, the LORD, apparently, left the door open for reconciliation even after his divorce.

I don't claim to have all of the answers, but this definitely opens up another question for me:

If a man puts away his wife justifiably due to sexual immorality, is he then responsible to also leave open the door for reconciliation with his former spouse?

If, instead, he gets remarried, then how would this type of reconciliation which the LORD himself offered to his divorced spouse be possible?

Like I said, I don't have all of the answers, but this particular question has kept me in a holding pattern of sorts or hindered me from 100% considering the possibility of remarriage in my own life.

Beyond this, this also hits very close to home in that I'm constantly confronted with other professing Christians who are in similar situations.

In fact, just last night I was on the phone with a divorced Christian, and we were discussing this very topic.

You are embellishing/modifying scripture here to suit your own understanding. Your heart is not being true to God. Dangerous stuff, not only for you, but for anyone that takes your conclusions here as godly fact!

It's convenient for you Sir to look at it that way. I don't have that luxury. My beliefs are my beliefs. Of course, I never said I was right. I could be wrong. However what I say, I say from hard, brutal experience. How some people can use God's name to abuse a believer and make them live a miserable life? At the expense of one innocent life, many people will live selfishly. I've seen it with my own two eyes. And religious people are very good at showing apathy towards someone suffering because of the system. It's all very convenient for them.

Apparently people who talk so much about God don't always lead Godly lives contrary to all they speak. They compromise as sinners somewhere in their lives too.

I say it's dangerous when someone sees their life falling apart and being torn to shreds and do nothing to make a better life for themselves and fall victim to society. Heaven begins in this life. Not the afterlife alone. Sure, there's a heaven after we die and we live a life here to get there. But we also must live a life where we find contentment.

And you don't have the right to Judge me. So don't. God alone can judge me. I surrender and submit to His judgement. Right or wrong, He will decide the truth of it.

I may have quoted scripture. I didn't twist anything. I'm allowed to quote scripture.

I believe God would also include that anyone under the tyranny of physical and mental abuse can also be excused from the legal bond of marriage. But like you and others have mentioned previously, all possibilities for reconciliation have to be exhausted before legal divorce can occur.

That is not what the Word says ... Who is mankind to change the Word of God to what he wants it to be.

It's convenient for you Sir to look at it that way. I don't have that luxury. My beliefs are my beliefs. Of course, I never said I was right. I could be wrong. However what I say, I say from hard, brutal experience. How some people can use God's name to abuse a believer and make them live a miserable life? At the expense of one innocent life, many people will live selfishly. I've seen it with my own two eyes. And religious people are very good at showing apathy towards someone suffering because of the system. It's all very convenient for them.

Apparently people who talk so much about God don't always lead Godly lives contrary to all they speak. They compromise as sinners somewhere in their lives too.

I say it's dangerous when someone sees their life falling apart and being torn to shreds and do nothing to make a better life for themselves and fall victim to society. Heaven begins in this life. Not the afterlife alone. Sure, there's a heaven after we die and we live a life here to get there. But we also must live a life where we find contentment.

And you don't have the right to Judge me. So don't. God alone can judge me. I surrender and submit to His judgement. Right or wrong, He will decide the truth of it.

I may have quoted scripture. I didn't twist anything. I'm allowed to quote scripture.

I'll put this back to you Beckie, if I may please!

Do you think Jesus would stand by and say nothing if he new of one of His disciples abusing His wife in any way?

If that abuse was life threatening, wouldn't He tell her to pull apart from her husband for her own safety, and if children were also involved, their safety as well?

Would He not then hope that the separation might help the husband come to his senses, and repent of his evil doing, and when trust is re-established with his wife, get the family back together?

If the husband refused to repent, would not Jesus' emphases then focus solely on the welfare of the wife, as well as ensuring the sanctity of God's marital institution is maintained? Which is why I said earlier, every case has to be looked at on its own merits, and prudent decisions made accordingly. A pastor or prophet gifted in a deep knowledge of the Lord Jesus and His nature are often best set, as far as human beings are concerned, to assist the party subject to the abuse to come to terms with the direction they should be taking from then on.

There is the scripture that says whatever we bind/make legally binding on earth must have already been made legally binding beforehand in Heaven. Your comment lines up with that. But there is also another scripture which says, with reference to people that are truly being led by the Spirit of God, that whatever they make legally binding on earth will also be made legally binding in Heaven.

Before any of us can be confident of making a judgement on what God expects of us in any situation, we must have beforehand really come to terms with the nature of the Lord Jesus, and therefore of God, before professing to know the His truth.

Thank you for your comment, it is much appreciated 👍 🙂

Never said one should not make themselves safe. Safe and divorce are not the same thing. The churches have failed in teaching the value of marriage .
The failure of the church does not change the Word of God . We see the nature of Jesus in His Word His word is very clear on divorce .... Dancing around with feel good words again does not change what the Word says. The more forums i read the i see how liberalism is suffocating the church. The church hides the sins of those they hold in high esteem it is a real shame.
Is divorce the unpardonable sin.... NO
Is marring a divorced person the unpardonable sin ... NO
Is divorce acceptable to the Lord outside of adultery ...NO
Yet we have forgiveness at the foot of His Cross.

That mud pie is very clear