Will I ever get a good wife of Christ?

The other question we brought up was why someone would come to a site with mostly American, Canadian, and not-in-their-country members, but yet expect people to speak as if they could say for certain what their chances were of finding their dream girl in their own country?

We just have a tendency to notice patterns, and while we want to help and welcome anyone new to the site, we regulars are also passionate about protecting our good-hearted members from conversational black holes.

I just wanted to say, Hungry, I am so sorry for your troubles.

Please know that we are listening to you and praying for you, and appreciate your honest reports about marriage.

I still mourn what my ex and I could have been, and wonder if he is happy with his new wife.

But when I read your posts... Sometimes I wonder if I actually dodged a bullet.

Thank you for your honest and courageous posts.

Because of the way things were behind the iron curtain Christian communities were fairly closed groups of families. They operated in secret. They really didn't associate or trust anyone outside of their group. The children would make friends and would be friends without the sexual aspect of a more modern engagement...they are children after all with extreme self discipline in anything to do with the Christian aspect of their life.

Even if they aren't going to get married for 10 years...they accepted the fact as to who they are going to marry one day. (Trust me when I say I was shocked) When you have a secret group that keeps it's secrets...there is no marriage outside of the group or else you and the entire group get sent off to prison.
And these traditions are going to be very difficult to break. Most churches don't accept anyone until after two years. (And that was 5 years ago) The Catholic church does better than the evangelicals in this. But not much better... The communities are very slow to react or to accept newcomers to their group. So be patient and be friendly...let everyone get to know you and see who you are. They are all going to watch you anyway whether you see them watching you or not.

And when they feel comfortable...they will be extremely helpful in finding you a wife.

Ok I understand now. I think this wouldn't be a problem for me since I come from a Catholic family and started practising it about 4 years ago (before that I was also a believer, just not active in my faith).

Ok I will not tell the story of my life in a forum I barely know but I get the message anyway with all those questions.

But I'm worried God has simply not a woman for me. Maybe because I'm not fully prepared to be a good husband (due to lust or something, maybe he wants to protect me from premarital sex during courtship which is great, but yet there is the possibility there is something deeper I don't know about or can't simply fix). Maybe He has called me to be single for the rest of my life (which scares me). Maybe He has punished me for my past sins (which also scares me). I just don't know.

Fat chance... you are still a "Johnny come lately".
Gonna be a while yet before anyone trusts you.

Fat chance... you are still a "Johnny come lately".
Gonna be a while yet before anyone trusts you.

I haven't heard of any of the ones you have said (there are few Europeans here anyway) but I have heard a few from America (and some from unknown locations) with similar complaints as mine. I'm sorry that they have wasted your time and that of many others probably, sadly there are also people in real life who behave that way (complaining about everything in life absolutely all the time as well as annoying everyone in the around with their own problems as if they were guilty or something) typically these people are really bored or exhausted with life and seek attention from others as a way to escape from their own issues even if they don't actually want support. Sure there are many things we can complain in life about but they should not defeat ourselves that way. I'm not saying my life will automatically end if I'm single with 30 (I'm sure God doesn't want me to just surrender), what I do fear actually is that I may not be able to cope with life in the case and start feeling weaker and weaker until I can't even work (typically psychological distresses develop slowly through lifetime and after series of repeated serious failures and lack of successes, sometimes even involuntarily, they don't just pop up out of nothing). I may not necessarily get to the point of a depression (nothing in life does matter anymore) but simply psychological difficulties (such as being slowly drifted away from life because of constant weight even if I still want to persevere and believe in success). Until today my problem is fear of the future rather than actual distress.

My life is (thankfully) not at all bad right now. I'm still fed and supported by my parents and do not have many responsibilities aside from studying. If I was born in a small village in somewhere like Afghanistan I could probably have lost my family in the war since very young and even kidnapped and forcefully recruited into some army, touching weapons and killing innocent people since the age of 6, and literally any risk I take could cost my physical integrity or life. And I would probably not even see people of the opposite sex for a very long time (if I even had the luck of not dying during combat or being enlisted as a suicide bomber). I'm so thankful nothing of this has happened to me. It's amazing I have such a comfortable life. But I fear it may take an U-turn in the future.

I especially agree with you in the self-control part. I sometimes think it's the main problem I have right now. I have a very strong desire for sex but especially affection. I daydream a lot with a cute, faithful and shy Christian wife. Yes, I would really love a shy quiet woman who can stay hours without saying a word. Such a woman would never be screaming to me all the time or cheating on me whenever she feels unhappy. But back to topic, I still do think that self-control is important. Everytime I masturbate, I'm cheating on a potential wife, and I feel really bad after each time I do it. The good news is that my abstinence periods are becoming longer (God is helping me!). Chastity is also one of my biggest goals in life (and until today the one who seems closest to success). I hope I will achieve it soon.

As a guy I don't have a cute anything, and if you tell me I do I'll deny it. My pancreas is handsome though.

But really... showing off your duodenum in public? This thread is about finding a good Christian girl! Girls who show off their duodenums (duodeni? What's plural for duodenum?) in public are brazen hussies, not good Christian girls.

I don't show it off in public, I just talk about it on forums. The only time my innards get shown off in public is if I'm throwing up or seriously injured / wounded and usually then I don't care too much about how I look.
But now I think I need to post the pancreas song (complete with cute organ animations):

FrenchandChristian, Kauko, now Zdenek...

Dude. As a personal favor, next time could you please use a name that is easier to type? I mean... Kauko was at least short, but even then I had to keep looking up the spelling. Next time could you just use a short name or something? Maybe Luke or Bob or Manuel or something?

Marrying a cute woman of Christ is my biggest life dream. Cute in her inner side especially. I really want a God-fearing lifetime companion who listens, respects, appreciates and loves me. A lifetime companion who stays loyal to me forever even in my most difficult times and never looks for someone else. A lifetime companion I can make one flesh with and be the example of a holy marriage for our children.

The thing is that I'm worried the woman I'm looking for may not exist here. You know, secularism and modernity have driven the younger women away from religion and commitment. Everyone I know in the place where I study are unbelievers (both men and women). Actually, all the people my age I know. I'm scared that my life may be doomed to singledom forever, since I don't want a relationship with an unbeliever. We would be in heated fights and discussions all the time, unable to have a minute of peace, we would have completely different values and she could also pressure me to commit sin, let her go with other men or even abandon my religion. A believer and an unbeliever can never build a lasting relationship. But I'm scared this may mean I will have to remain single for the rest of my life.

My country (Czechia) is one of the most atheistic in the world (our percentage of believers is just 20% and much lower in the younger generations) which makes my chances nearly unexistent. We are most known in the world for our huge porn industry and our dirty women. I have heard travellers and students from other European countries saying that Czechia was the easiest country to get laid in the continent!

Ok I may be getting somewhat paranoid but it's because I'm really scared and uncertain about my future. Maybe all my life effort will worth nothing and that sinks me. I'm here burning with passion and hormones but maybe God has just not a wife prepared for me and it's not His plan to give me one. By the way I'm not asking to get the woman of my dreams right now and immediately, but I really don't want to be in my 30s wondering if I will ever get the one. Has God a woman prepared for me? Do pure faithful women of Christ in my age group exist here in Czechia (not in USA)? It's very good to know there are still young women in America who choose the path of God, but maybe it is different here in Czechia (given this country is far more secular).

Ending this post, I do know that many people in this forum do not have enough knowledge of Czechia to be able to address all of my points, but please try to personalize your answers considering all the aspects you know about my country the best you can and if you barely know anything about it then give the best advice you can. Thank you all for reading and listening.

Marrying a cute woman of Christ is my biggest life dream. Cute in her inner side especially. I really want a God-fearing lifetime companion who listens, respects, appreciates and loves me. A lifetime companion who stays loyal to me forever even in my most difficult times and never looks for someone else. A lifetime companion I can make one flesh with and be the example of a holy marriage for our children.

The thing is that I'm worried the woman I'm looking for may not exist here. You know, secularism and modernity have driven the younger women away from religion and commitment. Everyone I know in the place where I study are unbelievers (both men and women). Actually, all the people my age I know. I'm scared that my life may be doomed to singledom forever, since I don't want a relationship with an unbeliever. We would be in heated fights and discussions all the time, unable to have a minute of peace, we would have completely different values and she could also pressure me to commit sin, let her go with other men or even abandon my religion. A believer and an unbeliever can never build a lasting relationship. But I'm scared this may mean I will have to remain single for the rest of my life.

My country (Czechia) is one of the most atheistic in the world (our percentage of believers is just 20% and much lower in the younger generations) which makes my chances nearly unexistent. We are most known in the world for our huge porn industry and our dirty women. I have heard travellers and students from other European countries saying that Czechia was the easiest country to get laid in the continent!

Ok I may be getting somewhat paranoid but it's because I'm really scared and uncertain about my future. Maybe all my life effort will worth nothing and that sinks me. I'm here burning with passion and hormones but maybe God has just not a wife prepared for me and it's not His plan to give me one. By the way I'm not asking to get the woman of my dreams right now and immediately, but I really don't want to be in my 30s wondering if I will ever get the one. Has God a woman prepared for me? Do pure faithful women of Christ in my age group exist here in Czechia (not in USA)? It's very good to know there are still young women in America who choose the path of God, but maybe it is different here in Czechia (given this country is far more secular).

Ending this post, I do know that many people in this forum do not have enough knowledge of Czechia to be able to address all of my points, but please try to personalize your answers considering all the aspects you know about my country the best you can and if you barely know anything about it then give the best advice you can. Thank you all for reading and listening.

Seek first kingdom of God the rest will be given