At what age do you kick your children out of the house?

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. Right now I have a girl 23 yrs old, full time nurse, a 20 yr old girl student, an almost 18 yr old graduate and current plumbing Apprenctice, and another guy in high school. The house was never big enough for 6 ppl. Now that they (the ones done school) are making good money, when is it time to help them pack? It’s not that we don’t enjoy them. There just isn’t enough space. The houses in our city just escalated 250%. Am I supposed to let them stay here until they can buy a house of their own?

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. Right now I have a girl 23 yrs old, full time nurse, a 20 yr old girl student, an almost 18 yr old graduate and current plumbing Apprenctice, and another guy in high school. The house was never big enough for 6 ppl. Now that they (the ones done school) are making good money, when is it time to help them pack? It’s not that we don’t enjoy them. There just isn’t enough space. The houses in our city just escalated 250%. Am I supposed to let them stay here until they can buy a house of their own?

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. Right now I have a girl 23 yrs old, full time nurse, a 20 yr old girl student, an almost 18 yr old graduate and current plumbing Apprenctice, and another guy in high school. The house was never big enough for 6 ppl. Now that they (the ones done school) are making good money, when is it time to help them pack? It’s not that we don’t enjoy them. There just isn’t enough space. The houses in our city just escalated 250%. Am I supposed to let them stay here until they can buy a house of their own?

Do like the Vietnamese do....the whole family pools their resources, buys a large house, and everyone lives comfortably.

You gotta kick them out sooner or later, they won't leave on their own as long as mommy and daddy are footing the bills. They will take advantage of you as long as they can. My brother has a 40 year old son who has impregnated a woman out of wedlock with a couple of children and he is up to his ears in child support. This same brother has a 30 year old son freeloading at home. Parents are doing their children no favors by coddling them as beloved children well into their adulthood. Loafers/freeloaders, do what's best for them and toss them out, tough love.

As long as they are aware of the responsibilities of living independently, any time from 18 is good. Most of my generation could not wait to get away from parental control. Since parents are now controlled by their children, I suppose it's different.

Kids need to know that it costs more than rent and food. Bills keep coming in. Do they know how to budget? At least you need to have the conversation. Some call this the "boomerang" generation. Kids find out just how good it was at home and they want to come back. You need wisdom. Some kids are more mature than others. My son is amazingly sensible. His older sister.........*sigh*.

I know someone whose father packed his suitcase, gave him some money and put his bags outside. "Bye son, keep in touch" was about it. I'm not suggesting you be quite that blunt. But yeah, it's time for you to have some space of your own.

Don't kick out any of them, as this may burn bridges and breed ill feelings. It is good for kids to know they always have a home no matter what. Three of them are still students, and the nurse is 23 years old which means she has probably been working for one year only. They will move when they are ready. At some point, they would want to leave. Many people want to leave at 18 into the dorms, but some may decide to leave later.

I stopped sleeping at home at 16. Messed me up

Yeah I couldn’t wait to leave my house. I had more of an escape plan than an exit strategy. It took about ten years before I could say I was financially stable. It will be nice to know my kids aren’t going to have that struggle. If only they could be a little more helpful around the house.

Nice idea in theory. I’m looking forward to them living away from me. They can cook for themselves, clean for themselves and then we can enjoy our visits.

. There just isn’t enough space. The houses in our city just escalated 250%. Am I supposed to let them stay here until they can buy a house of their own?

When you stop calling them children?

You gotta kick them out sooner or later, they won't leave on their own as long as mommy and daddy are footing the bills. They will take advantage of you as long as they can. My brother has a 40 year old son who has impregnated a woman out of wedlock with a couple of children and he is up to his ears in child support. This same brother has a 30 year old son freeloading at home. Parents are doing their children no favors by coddling them as beloved children well into their adulthood. Loafers/freeloaders, do what's best for them and toss them out, tough love.