Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

I will tell you. Case A and case B.

In case A she is in a difficult situation and her faith weakens sometimes. But she knows something is wrong with her, and she still prays and confesses her weaknesses to God. She continues to respect me as the head of the household, asks me spiritual support and advice and she is honest about her feelings. She tries hard not to commit sin and while she may fail sometimes, she knows it is not good and wants to stop. She is weak and human but she wants to be more like God. In this case, not only would I remain with her. I would feel compassion for her, pray deeply for her healing as if she was my treasure in life, support her everytime and be there for her when she needs. She does not deserve the pain of being left alone in any way.

On the other hand, in case B she becomes a different person. She consciously begins to lose her faith and she finds nothing wrong with that. She does no longer pray confess and read the Bible and she loses her respect for me as the head of the household. She does not talk about it even if I find out about her and she will often lie to me. She starts to behave in a sinful way (smoking, drinking *, drugs, looking porn, masturbating or even cheating etc) and doesnt find anything wrong in her behaviors. In this case, I would first warn her about how she is going the bad path and displeasing God and her husband. I would also pray deeply for her healing and reconciliation with God. If after a time she has not been healed and continues to be sinful with no indication of change, I would have to leave her not to risk the future of myself and my children. If she however truly shows understanding and recognizes her problem, I will help and support her in accepting and reconciliating with God, as well as with me. This way, we would head to case A.

* Asterisk: As for the drinking part, this is only valid in case I stopped being drunk myself.

or even cheating

A beautiful heart cant ink the mark of the beast on the skin (Leviticus 19:28).

Oops I forgot to add cheating is a huge no. If she does this is much more serious. I would never forgive her this. This is enough reason for separation and goodbye. Dont know why did I write that right in that place...

So the only way a Christian woman isn't a cheating risk is if you marry her so young that she has no life apart from you? Here's another good thread idea, what does it say about someone's self image if they approach relationships with the assumption that whoever they end up with will cheat on them unless drastic limits are established to prevent it? Do you just think you're the kind of guy that every woman would want to cheat on (rather than avoiding you altogether, I mean in order to be with you she at least had to choose you at one point)?

Wait... I am pretty sure the same Bible talks about all the damage you are doing to yourself with alcohol. In fact the Bible says a LOT more about alcohol.

Sounds like a textbook case of double standard to me.

You miss the point as it's pretty clear that being cheated on in a relationship is one of your biggest fears about being in a relationship. The point is that in your setup you have pretty much set yourself up as the sole arbiter of whether when she screws up it's a situation A or situation B type scenario.

Because women cheat very much these days. Even if she is a Christian, theres still a chance she is cheating since she can either be doing it in the hidden (fake Christian) or be tempted to it by a seemingly attractive man. Control is key to prevent this.

Because women cheat very much these days. Even if she is a Christian, theres still a chance she is cheating since she can either be doing it in the hidden (fake Christian) or be tempted to it by a seemingly attractive man. Control is key to prevent this.

I’m still processing the “having a tattoo = having a demon” comment.

Praise the Lord for His mercy and grace. My husband was 37, and I was 33 when we married. And we met online.

Control is also the key to abusive relationships. And it's the opposite of trust. So this imaginary woman is supposed to trust you completely but you're going to opt to control her instead of trusting her.

Yeah I think I'll get on with my life instead of waiting to hear about a woman who actually takes you up on that offer. You're going to have to have more to offer than a stable job to convince a woman to surrender her freedom to that extent.

Actually, trust is the key to prevent infidelity. Without trust there is no basis for a relationship. If you feel you have to control your wife if or when you get married than it is obvious that you don't trust her. If you don't trust her then in would be best not to even begin a relationship with her let alone marry her.

Control can also be the result of love. I want to control her because I want the best for her, I want to protect her. I dont want the "special" guy out there to deceive and tempt her to end ruining her life with an illegitimate child and/or leading her to the wrong path. I want my girl to be the happiest in the world. I want to hide my treasure from this corrupted and degenerate world.

I think you find similar justifications throughout the Muslim world for their treatment of women. And no this is not love or at least not a love worth having in a romantic relationship. Just how incompetent do you expect your future wife to be that you will have to treat her like a baby who has to be controlled because it cannot understand reason rather than a reasonable mature adult?

But control is necessary as a mean of protection. If theres no protection, theres no love. Love means protection more than anything. If a husband does not control her wife, this may be a sign he does not care about her at all. And this more often than not results in problems which may result in divorce. This is why control is essential. Control is protection.

You're not going to accept any woman that would be with you

any woman you would accept wouldn't want to be with you

But what if the prince misidentifies everything he sees around her as a dragon?