Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?
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Sorry no, I want a younger one. A single 30 year old will already work and live independently. This is among others the reason why I prefer a 20 year old who is still studying. I want to provide for her so that she can be a woman and I can be a man. Also, her risk of divorce or cheating would be far lower because she would lose her life this way.
Because I have a stable job and money to provide for her.
Because I have a stable job and money to provide for her.
This simply looks like another unfounded and possibly erroneous assumption. You may meet a lovely long haired age-appropriate dream girl who is an unblemished (no tats!!!) Christian but been in institutionalized care all or most of her life... or maybe she is in a wheel chair and not living independently for whatever reasons, none of which would detract from her winning personality or ability to adapt her life and needs to a suitable man were he to present himself as marriage material. This does of course make me wonder just what other restrictions you may wish to put on any prospective mate, and don't get me wrong, for I do not fault you for not wanting to involve yourself with someone who by all aspects and appearances looks like major trouble with a capital "M" and a capital "T." Sparing yourself the pain, anguish and despair of having your heart broken does seem a worthy and wise tack to take, and something that we are also admonished to do in Scripture: Guard your heart. This does not mean eliminating any who might be suitable on all counts but for something like a tattoo. However, would you even look at a woman in a wheel chair, or someone with special needs?
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So the only way a Christian woman isn't a cheating risk is if you marry her so young that she has no life apart from you? Here's another good thread idea, what does it say about someone's self image if they approach relationships with the assumption that whoever they end up with will cheat on them unless drastic limits are established to prevent it? Do you just think you're the kind of guy that every woman would want to cheat on (rather than avoiding you altogether, I mean in order to be with you she at least had to choose you at one point)?
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I will tell you. Case A and case B.
In case A she is in a difficult situation and her faith weakens sometimes. But she knows something is wrong with her, and she still prays and confesses her weaknesses to God. She continues to respect me as the head of the household, asks me spiritual support and advice and she is honest about her feelings. She tries hard not to commit sin and while she may fail sometimes, she knows it is not good and wants to stop. She is weak and human but she wants to be more like God. In this case, not only would I remain with her. I would feel compassion for her, pray deeply for her healing as if she was my treasure in life, support her everytime and be there for her when she needs. She does not deserve the pain of being left alone in any way.
On the other hand, in case B she becomes a different person. She consciously begins to lose her faith and she finds nothing wrong with that. She does no longer pray confess and read the Bible and she loses her respect for me as the head of the household. She does not talk about it even if I find out about her and she will often lie to me. She starts to behave in a sinful way (smoking, drinking *, drugs, looking porn, masturbating or even cheating etc) and doesnt find anything wrong in her behaviors. In this case, I would first warn her about how she is going the bad path and displeasing God and her husband. I would also pray deeply for her healing and reconciliation with God. If after a time she has not been healed and continues to be sinful with no indication of change, I would have to leave her not to risk the future of myself and my children. If she however truly shows understanding and recognizes her problem, I will help and support her in accepting and reconciliating with God, as well as with me. This way, we would head to case A.
* Asterisk: As for the drinking part, this is only valid in case I stopped being drunk myself.
In case A she is in a difficult situation and her faith weakens sometimes. But she knows something is wrong with her, and she still prays and confesses her weaknesses to God. She continues to respect me as the head of the household, asks me spiritual support and advice and she is honest about her feelings. She tries hard not to commit sin and while she may fail sometimes, she knows it is not good and wants to stop. She is weak and human but she wants to be more like God. In this case, not only would I remain with her. I would feel compassion for her, pray deeply for her healing as if she was my treasure in life, support her everytime and be there for her when she needs. She does not deserve the pain of being left alone in any way.
On the other hand, in case B she becomes a different person. She consciously begins to lose her faith and she finds nothing wrong with that. She does no longer pray confess and read the Bible and she loses her respect for me as the head of the household. She does not talk about it even if I find out about her and she will often lie to me. She starts to behave in a sinful way (smoking, drinking *, drugs, looking porn, masturbating or even cheating etc) and doesnt find anything wrong in her behaviors. In this case, I would first warn her about how she is going the bad path and displeasing God and her husband. I would also pray deeply for her healing and reconciliation with God. If after a time she has not been healed and continues to be sinful with no indication of change, I would have to leave her not to risk the future of myself and my children. If she however truly shows understanding and recognizes her problem, I will help and support her in accepting and reconciliating with God, as well as with me. This way, we would head to case A.
* Asterisk: As for the drinking part, this is only valid in case I stopped being drunk myself.