So that I should let her go in a trip to Cuba alone and otherwise Im an evil controlling oppressive macho ?
Maybe depending on the circumstances, but to start with how about you just stop the extreme ridiculous examples. No one said anything about Cuba, and the concerns are much more about whether you would let (and even saying you would let sounds like you think you have the authority to make the decisions unilaterally) her have a facebook to keep up with old school friends or go on a weekend getaway to the city with friends. You have this ridiculous dichotomy where your dream girl is more godly than Jesus and wants to please him, but then is so ungodly that you can't let her go anywhere near a possible source of temptation for fear that she might not have enough moral fiber to resist what would be the most basic of temptations that a godly woman would barely be tempted by.
Is your definition of love and respect for others agreeing with them in everything ? I have to tell you that Im not a very lovely person anyway. I need my time to really love someone. But I dont think I have lacked respect for you. Maybe Im wrong but atleast I have not called anybody "fool" or certain word.
The way you talk about the women you don't want to date as well as the temper tantrums and as other people have pointed out you continually asking other people to repeat what you could go back and read all show a lack of respect and concern for others.
But how can you tell me "think about the girl" if I havent even seen her with my eyes ?
Well let me use adopting a dog as an example (or theoretically having a baby). Before I even found my dog I was thinking about what a dog would need from me and getting things prepared to bring the dog home. I was looking up online articles about bringing home shelter dogs and how to help them transition. I found a vet. I watched dog training programs. I volunteered to walk my brother's and my uncle's dogs. And one of the best things I did (though I did it more to alleviate wanting to have a dog around than to prepare for having a dog) was watch a reality show about problem dogs and a dog trainer that came to help. And without some of those ideas I gained from that program, I would have been too stressed to keep the difficult dog I did end up adopting. People expecting their first child do similarly and baby proof the house, setup a nursery, buy baby clothes and diapers etc. all before the new little one arrives on the scene. The idea that you're suddenly going to be adept at considering someone else above yourself because she's going to be such an awesome wonderful woman that you can't help but do so is a lying romantic fantasy. Better start now and get in practice for showing kindness and consideration to another (even those blue haired tattooed women you never want to date).
So are you telling me to date the tattooed blue haired unbeliever ? Or you are asking me to be 100 percent perfect and flawless while allowing the girl to sin everytime she wants because I cant expect her to be a good Christian ?
I'm asking you to live up to your own standards, have some consistency, and stop being fixated on having a relationship when you aren't capable of having a healthy relationship (which you agreed with needing to kick the booze habit first).
Explain me this better please.
You're doing a crappy job leading yourself and meeting your own spiritual standards. Why should anybody follow someone who isn't leading / governing himself well?
But what is the kind of man that matches what the kind of woman I dream of is looking for ?
I think we've got plenty of threads that could help illuminate that (assuming we're not all too worldly for you, lots of us have facebook you know), but you gave a pretty good description when you talked about the kind of man your dream girl wants to marry. You just aren't that kind of man currently.
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