Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

Ok, Im maybe being too desperate. I always have liked fantasizing as its a good stress relaxer. But there are several reasons besides this one fueling my desperation. Number 1 is age. Im turning 30 in November. A guy this age should already be married or in a relationship. My father married at age 28. Im 29 and havent even met a girl. If a guy has not a girlfriend before entering his thirties, his chances will decrease dramatically and will get worse the older he gets. Though, it is very likely I will be single and depressed forever. My wife will be alcohol.

Number 2 is boredom. I would probably not be thinking on this all the time if I had something to do and spend the time with. If I was for example 20, my anxiety would be lower because I have to think in my studies or in getting a job or in earning a life, a house and money. But now, I have all this. My arms are crossed now. I have not a goal now. I need to establish a goal, and therefore the 'wife' checkbox appears. And as Im lying bored in the bed desperate to flee from it, this is my only chance. The activity of married life sounds like the perfect antidote to the passivity of single life. Sometimes problems are preferable to the empty. When you are married, whenever you do not have any need, your spouse or one of your children has one. And as such, you never get bored with life. Because you do not pre-write your life. When you are single your life depends on your brain, your brain writes your life. And you always end bored. Because you have the absolute control of the moment. The only variable existing is you. And if you do nothing, nothing happens. Life is basically a synonym of you until you die.

And last but not least is number 3. It may sound strange but another motivation for my obsession is the miserable market of Christian singles we have here in Finland. Not only it is ridiculously small, but also very unequally split between the sexes. Finland is one of the few countries in the world where young males are more religious than young females. A survey revealed 27% of Finnish males between the ages of 18-27 considered themselves religious, but only 19% of Finnish females of the same age group. And we have yet to know how many of them are non-Christians, how many are fakes and especially how many are believers in pagan or occult things such as oriental beliefs or astrology since these kind of beliefs are more common in females than in males. This would be enough to reduce the proportion by over a half. Im sure the real proportion could be 5% or lower. And my personal experience confirms this. I NEVER in my life found a female of this age group in church. NEVER. NOT ONE. You said I could leave Finland and move to another country in my region. But where ? What country ? Did you know Finnish is not an Indo-European language ? Even if I moved to Norway or Sweden I would have a hard time learning and speaking the local language, not to say getting a girlfriend because girls my type dont like guys speaking like jerks, much less if they are foreigners. What about an English country ? Yes I can write it but I speak it like a 2 year old so the same is true here. If I wanted to move, Estonia would be my best chance since they speak a more similar language. Oh, but I heard Estonia was the least religious country in the world ! This is creepy. This looks like a trap. What can I do ? What ? Will I prepare myself to be a good Christian husband only to find out there are NO ANY good Christian girls out there waiting for me ? What worth will all my hard work have ? More loneliness and alcohol ? This makes me SHAKE LIKE AN EARTHQUAKE. Do you understand ? And nervousness is desperation !

Of course !

I will not use dating sites.

Also, how old is the youngest single Finland Christian female there ? 30 ?
Tinder LOL.

Brother let me tell you this, my dad married at 32 so you are still fine, Abraham was 100 when he had a child so no worries, you don’t need to worry, brother i heard that finland is a dull country and, it is, but yiu Can deifnetly find something to do, go to a park, or go to church not just some religion don’t pollute your mind with religion saying Estonia is the least religious country in the world, God didn’t invite you into religion but to a relationship, and brother please do some research on what you can do, but first ask God, how you can enjoy life, and know that God doesn’t want you to live a life like this, so please just first be right with God, everything else will fall into its proper place at the right time. And brother dont worry about the facts, God will help, He is still God, who is Almighty, can’t He find a woman for you, not a woman you want but need, brother you need to help yourself, a little, don’t listen to your mind listen to truth, where Is truth, in the Bible, i know you are 29 brother, and are unhappy with life, but help yourself a little, and know that we are here for you, God has a plan for you, and if you will have a relationship a better committed relationship with Him, learning about Him, in the Bible, things Will be better, and let this be a motivation for you, God who loves you, and who saved you through Christ Jesus, can turn your pain, and misery, and lonelines, drunkenness into a testimony which you can help others who are battling with the same things as you do, but to be able to defeat all these things you need God, so i suggest you sit down for 30 minutes or something but before that pray for 5 asking God to show you which message is the most helpful out of all these help messages here, know we are here for you, and so is God who always was and always will be there to help you, He will never fail you. and then just read look in fact before these read scripture or listen to worship music true artists, i know That it can be frustrating especially in Finland, but look at all of us here, i live in Turkey, people here live in Arab, countries, in Malaysia, Asia, Africa, literally almost everywhere and all of us struggle to find churches, or people who faithfully serve God, but God has given us opportunities to be around them, and so you can ask God, and He will help you.

Brother lastly don’t pollute your mind saying, how Will I make a girl like me etc. and then you are like then let me be a Christian, a Christian means a disciple of a Jesus Christ, you don’t be His disciple out of this motivation or you will end up in a worse place, but let His love make you a Christian.

In all your messages is just girl girl girl, snd this is idolatry over here. Repent, just please go to God, and know this unless you go to God, none of us can help you. Because we are just using words, God is the One who uses these words to reach to you, but you need to go to God first. Please

And about being bored, after you have gone to God, and ask Him about this you can tell Him, IF HE WANTS, save money go to a random country, spend some time there not eating and feasting but maybe go to a country go to a conference or a TRUE CHURCH meanwhile enjoying that country and the new culture environment and people, but again first learn to be content and take a look at this John 21:20-22”
Peter turned and saw that the disciple whom Jesus loved was following them. (This was the one who had leaned back against Jesus at the supper and had said, “Lord, who is going to betray you?”) 21 When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?”

22 Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” Shift your focus off of worthless things, and follow Christ, look to His love if you need motivation and ask Him to help you if you don’t have the desire to do so, following Christ looks like denying yourself, loving Him above all, and don’t worry Christ doesn’t want you to have a pitiful life, in fact only when you follow Him, you will learn to enjoy small things, and how much more will you enjoy Him? To learn about these things go to church, God knows the life you are living and honestly there are things that displease Him, but go get help. Tomorrow or today if you have any NOT RELIGIOUS, person who has a relationship with the Lord, ask for help, from God first though to lead you to the right person.

Thank you for your posts Elijah. You give good advice.

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Ok, Im maybe being too desperate. YES I always have liked fantasizing as its a good stress relaxer. Everyone like fantasies, it's all the rewards with none of the work.
But there are several reasons besides this one fueling my desperation. Number 1 is age. Im turning 30 in November. A guy this age should already be married or in a relationship. Says who?
My father married at age 28. Im 29 and havent even met a girl Do you go out anywhere to try to meet them? I got convicted that I don't meet anyone largely because I'm home most of the time and new people don't tend to just show up in your house (and if they do you probably call the cops on them).
If a guy has not a girlfriend before entering his thirties, his chances will decrease dramatically and will get worse the older he gets Got any evidence to back this up? I think guys have a much easier time appealing to younger women and aren't racing a narrow biological timeframe for reproducing. @Lynx has a great cartoon to mathematically demonstrate why this is not so.

Though, it is very likely I will be single and depressed forever. What are you doing to change that? My wife will be alcohol.

Number 2 is boredom. I would probably not be thinking on this all the time if I had something to do and spend the time with. Then why don't you find something else to do?
If I was for example 20, my anxiety would be lower because I have to think in my studies or in getting a job or in earning a life, a house and money. Is that lower anxiety or just anxiety about different things? When you were 20 did you stress about never getting a job like you stress over never getting a woman now?
But now, I have all this. My arms are crossed now. I have not a goal now. I need to establish a goal Yes goals are great, read some things about setting and acheiving goals maybe,
and therefore the 'wife' checkbox appears Marrying just to get married and check it off a list is a bad idea, no one wants to just be a checkmark on your to do list.

And as Im lying bored in the bed desperate to flee from it, this is my only chance To think this is your only option or chance shows a huge lack of imagination.
The activity of married life sounds like the perfect antidote to the passivity of single life. Sometimes problems are preferable to the empty. When you are married, whenever you do not have any need, your spouse or one of your children has one. And as such, you never get bored with life. If constant problems and finding ways to cope with them and solve them are your ideal life, personally sounds way too stressful to me.
Because you do not pre-write your life. When you are single your life depends on your brain, your brain writes your life. And you always end bored. Plenty of not bored singled around. Boredom is a choice.
Because you have the absolute control of the moment. The only variable existing is you. And the lawn that needs to be mowed, the housework that needs to be done, the dinner that you want to eat, the appointments and phone calls you need to make. No one has complete control over their lives, no matter how much we try or like to think we do.
And if you do nothing, nothing happens. So do something, anything, well anything moral and legal and preferrably something beneficial. Life is basically a synonym of you until you die.

And last but not least is number 3. It may sound strange but another motivation for my obsession is the miserable market of Christian singles we have here in Finland. Not only it is ridiculously small, but also very unequally split between the sexes. It's neither the smallest in the world nor the most difficult. Singles the world over of both sexes complain about the difficulty of finding a good person they want to be with.

Finland is one of the few countries in the world where young males are more religious than young females. A survey revealed 27% of Finnish males between the ages of 18-27 considered themselves religious, but only 19% of Finnish females of the same age group. That's really not a huge disparity, that's 1 in 5 Finnish young ladies who are as Christian as you seem to be.
And we have yet to know how many of them are non-Christians, how many are fakes and especially how many are believers in pagan or occult things such as oriental beliefs or astrology since these kind of beliefs are more common in females than in males. But are those things common or tolerated in Christian communities in Finland? Theoretically the more Christianity becomes a minority religion the fewer fakers you would have because there's no benefit to being a fake Christian.
This would be enough to reduce the proportion by over a half. Im sure the real proportion could be 5% or lower. You say that but don't show any evidence to substantiate that 75% of young Christian ladies aren't really Christian.
And my personal experience confirms this. I NEVER in my life found a female of this age group in church. NEVER. NOT ONE. But you don't even go to church anymore
You said I could leave Finland and move to another country in my region. But where ? What country ? Did you know Finnish is not an Indo-European language ? Even if I moved to Norway or Sweden I would have a hard time learning and speaking the local language, not to say getting a girlfriend because girls my type dont like guys speaking like jerks, much less if they are foreigners. What about an English country ? Yes I can write it but I speak it like a 2 year old so the same is true here. Easiest way to improve your pronunciation is to listen to native speakers speak, and there's so much TV produced in the English speaking world that I imagine it shouldn't be that hard to do and it would give you a goal and something to work on. And it really won't take you long seeing how good your written english skills are.
If I wanted to move, Estonia would be my best chance since they speak a more similar language. Best chance for easy language learning maybe, but maybe not best chance for finding a Christian wife.
Oh, but I heard Estonia was the least religious country in the world ! This is creepy. This looks like a trap. What can I do ? What ? Will I prepare myself to be a good Christian husband only to find out there are NO ANY good Christian girls out there waiting for me? When you get desperate enough you'll realize that some of your standards don't necessarily need to be standards and if you want a wife you'll re-evaluate which ones are truly essential
What worth will all my hard work have ? Let's see you'd build character, self discipline, you'd have the satisfaction of acheiving some goals (maybe not the wife but maybe becoming a kinder and more likeable person)
More loneliness and alcohol ? This makes me SHAKE LIKE AN EARTHQUAKE. Do you understand ? I understand that you need to get past this false dichotomy of either I find a Christian wife or I have to be a miserable lonely drunk. I don't understand why with all the input you've received about other things you could do instead, you're still hung up on this false dichotomy. But that seems to be the root of your problems. There's absolutely no law that says you have to be a lonely miserable drunk if you aren't married by a certain age. And nervousness is desperation !

Any no body else does?🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

I think I may have misunderstood this part. I think I confused those identifying as religious with those identifying as Christian which can be a big difference. So whoops this part is my bad.

Just out of curiosity, does Finland keep official records of people's religious affiliation. I ask because I lived for a time in a country that did and friend explained to me that if your official religion was anything you would be discriminated against when it came to finding work so there would be reason in such a case for religious people to identify as not religious.

Yes.
Which one ?

Vietnam. It would take a few paragraphs to explain the odd interplay between communist atheism and eastern spirituality there. But coming from my background I found it most interesting that it was any religious affiliation that disqualified you (though that was only officially organized religions so the common animistic spiritual practices weren't a religion they were just culture), rather than all the reports you hear in churches that make it sound like Christians are specifically singled out for discrimination.

What ?

Nah, not even gonna bother. It wouldn't do any good in this case.

Opps spelling error there..I.ment to say
'And nobody else does?'🤷‍♀️
Thats my responce to you saying that particular member gives good advice

Some of your advice is good too.

I mean, you also give good advice.