First of all, welcome. I have found most here to be good natured and Christ minded. You should find the support you need. Pornography addiction is often misunderstood. Stimulation and orgasm adjusts chemicals in you body and brain like control substances do. As suggested that it’s adultery isn’t entirely accurate. The verse is debatably mistranslated. It’s lusting somebody else’s wife that is adulterous in one’s heart. Regardless, it stings. It feels like rejection all the same. Here’s what you’re missing. Being a dad and husband is stressful. It’s hard work. I know, I have a wife and four children. Most women focus on the children’s needs and just expect the husband to man up. He’s expected to provide, protect, discipline, emotionally support and physically assist the wife with all of her wants and needs. Most men haven’t embraced stoicism. They have needs and wants that are generally ignored and not just sex. Every man wants a cheerleader. By that I mean a woman who puffs him up, and reminds him of how awesome he is. Even when it’s a bad day he can go home and feel respected and admired. Often men go home to house under the banner, “Happy wife, happy life,” and are constantly trying to appease a discontented woman. There are many scenarios and too much science to go into explaining how all of this is accurate. Anyways, looking at a smiling pretty face, and an image that stirs hormonal bliss, is neurologically no different than a hit of cocaine without the cost. Your husband is stressed. He doesn’t want to have to get you in the mood, to get that sweet release. If he wasn’t addicted to porn, it would be something else. He’s coping.
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