Love Advice with Dr. Des

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12 Stones. They're Puddle of Mudd but with high school angst.

Puddle of Mudd but with the daily application of Clearasil!

is that part of their culture or history, to be easily offended ?

Desdi,

I truly apologize for derailing your thread, but I feel this is really important to address.

UCA4J keeps insisting on making comments such as this:

When @Reborn and I both spoke up about how offensive it is to refer to Asian languages as "Ching Chong", he persists and then says things like this:

UCA4J -- when people say things that YOU don't like personally and find "annoying" to your own person (such as being called Bono,) why is it that you expect them to stop?

But yet when you say things that are offensive to others, you just keep right on going, then conclude that they must be "easily offended."

Why is it that you are somehow the exception to your own rule? Why do you get to say whatever you want about others, but if someone says something you find personally annoying, you expect it to stop? Conversely, why are YOU yourself so easily offended?

I'm catching on to the fact that you love to argue for the sake of arguing (reminds me of another former member here, lol), and as I said in another thread, I'm not trying to "win" or change your mind, because the way you think is between you and God.

But I would like to know why you seem to think that you can go on being offensive, and yet anything that annoys YOU should be stopped immediately.

I realize that you're just going to continue to be offensive, because you seem to thrive on that for the attention -- but why do you put up a big shield and insist on it being one-sided, with you being the only one allowed to fire any shots?

And, can we just get it out in the open here? What other racial groups do you enjoy slandering, or are you just laser-focused on Asians for some reason?

Let's just answer "Yes" to this question:

Sometimes it's best to put a member on 'ignore' (or report them. whatever applies to the siturwaytion)

I've already reported his most offensive posts and asked the mods to please consider what he is saying. I would hope they know me and know that I'm not someone who just pulls out the race card -- my usual reaction is to make jokes about it instead.

I won't put him on ignore because his comments have me thinking about what if I would have had kids of my own, and what would I have done if someone like this was saying these same things to them (as my nieces and nephews are unfortunately dealing with.)

I'm also interested in his thought process and behavior, because maybe it will help me learn something about how to better deal with people who think and act this way.

I am not sure what's happening...

But I am just here feeling in love with ma Bebehoney 😍😍😍

Ooof... ummmm...uhhhh....!

UCA4J is gone.

If that happened I would start selling tickets fast, because there is about to be a show! No way you'd let that pass without correcting the situation.

Butterfly Baby an' me is gonna' do da Mango Tango tagedda!... Yahoooooo!!!

He could save a lot of money by just growing a beard... wait, I almost forgot. Ten year old's can't grow beards. My duh.

Yes Hi Dr. Des. I have a question. It seems that every time I go outside, I’m immediately mobbed by attractive babes on every side. It’s starting to get out of hand. Sometimes I have to beat them back with a stick just to make it 2 feet down the sidewalk. I don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice?

You will never get very far in life until you stop beating da' chicks with your sticks. That's not what God made 'em for. Watch an' learn fum da' Oysta.

That's too bad. I kind of liked him.

Tell them you are a eunuch and hand them your twin brother's contact information.

I'm your twin brother by the way. Long time, no see!

Bono has left the building.