How should I act on my feelings in this situation ?
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dont you know any asian people? what part of the world you live in??? Maybe look on a globe (yes the world is round) you will see a big landmass north of your country. That is called ASIA. It is divided into many different countries. And yes, each country has different kinds of people in it and they all speak different langauges. There are other countries besides China.
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Hi !
I'm a 20 year old girl, and God has really put it in my heart recently that I want marriage and children in my future. Honestly, I'm the oldest unmarried person in my entire family but that isn't the reason that I want it, it is a genuine desire. I'm aware that I have plenty of time and am young, but I'm also aware of how I feel and don't think the desire for marriage fairly young is sinful or silly. My ideal is get engaged in 3rd year college (so at 23) and married at 24 when I graduate.
I also recently moved to a new city in England. Here, there is very few Christian men, and most of them are married anyway. The ones that aren't honestly don't seem suitable.
But, there is one guy at my new church who honestly seems perfect. He's very sporty, is doing a doctorate degree and is quite attractive to me. I can also tell (obviously I've stalked his social media haha, guys EVERY girl does it
) that he has an ex girlfriend who looks kind of similar to me, so I would say I would be his type.
Unfortunately church is totally online right now and England is in lockdown, so I don't have a way to actually meet him and get to know him - so i really want to try and connect with him online.
However, the only times we have met have been a few breakout rooms on zoom together where we haven't even spoken much. But God is literally putting it in my heart to get to know him.
Also, I found out the other day he's 27 - I had thought he was 24 !! Now, to me being 7 years older is SO attractive and desirable, but do you think he wouldn't even look in my direction because I'm young ? Thing is, I'm younger than him but I'm very mature, probably similar maturity levels tbh, and we're both students.
Guys (and girls), what do you think the best way to go about this is ? I was thinking following him on instagram but he has so few followers and he's private so it will make it very obvious I've looked him up specifically. But then, like, is that a bad thing ? I really would like to get to know him but I also really don't need to be getting rejected by a guy at my new church ahah
I'm a 20 year old girl, and God has really put it in my heart recently that I want marriage and children in my future. Honestly, I'm the oldest unmarried person in my entire family but that isn't the reason that I want it, it is a genuine desire. I'm aware that I have plenty of time and am young, but I'm also aware of how I feel and don't think the desire for marriage fairly young is sinful or silly. My ideal is get engaged in 3rd year college (so at 23) and married at 24 when I graduate.
I also recently moved to a new city in England. Here, there is very few Christian men, and most of them are married anyway. The ones that aren't honestly don't seem suitable.
But, there is one guy at my new church who honestly seems perfect. He's very sporty, is doing a doctorate degree and is quite attractive to me. I can also tell (obviously I've stalked his social media haha, guys EVERY girl does it
) that he has an ex girlfriend who looks kind of similar to me, so I would say I would be his type.Unfortunately church is totally online right now and England is in lockdown, so I don't have a way to actually meet him and get to know him - so i really want to try and connect with him online.
However, the only times we have met have been a few breakout rooms on zoom together where we haven't even spoken much. But God is literally putting it in my heart to get to know him.
Also, I found out the other day he's 27 - I had thought he was 24 !! Now, to me being 7 years older is SO attractive and desirable, but do you think he wouldn't even look in my direction because I'm young ? Thing is, I'm younger than him but I'm very mature, probably similar maturity levels tbh, and we're both students.
Guys (and girls), what do you think the best way to go about this is ? I was thinking following him on instagram but he has so few followers and he's private so it will make it very obvious I've looked him up specifically. But then, like, is that a bad thing ? I really would like to get to know him but I also really don't need to be getting rejected by a guy at my new church ahah
Can you email him or some other method ?
Punchline. 😂
Wraps the joke up?
As for the overall response to him? I know his work.
The first one he wrote me was kinda clever...the second one was a bit....? Racist?
Jokes? I’m gently replying to what seems to be a troll? (correct me if I’m wrong please?) 🤔
Ya know, I’ve seen many interactions with those types during my journey through the forums over the yrs.
I answer them. Some claim l am a bit harsh and may ask why I’m judging them or even interacting with them? I really don’t know who they truly are. It’s just a (most likely a fake picture / avatar) and some words they write to stir things up. I can’t imagine the boredom they must go thru to even feel compelled to do it?
In real life, those guys may be the coolest guys in the world. Family men, they could be running charitable organizations, and building homes for the less fortunate in their spare time. Everyone has a story. I’m not judging THEM at all...I’m on a joke exchange with their “character“ they portray here.
Am l judging or joking with?
—Their actual “character “ in everyday life? (a taste of their real personality?)
—Or? a ”character-character “ (they invent or role play with) Maybe they need to vent? Idk, like l said l don’t judge them because l don’t even know them.
Two completely different things, ya know?
Since they want to take time to be harsh or mean to nice individuals, or the kind souls on these threads...I’ll dance with them for a bit.
Me-no-likey the bullies.😐
Never acceptable.
I don’t like it when awesome people get pushed around, insulted or embarrassed by those types.
It’s just who l am. 🤷🏻♂️
Wraps the joke up?
As for the overall response to him? I know his work.
The first one he wrote me was kinda clever...the second one was a bit....? Racist?
Jokes? I’m gently replying to what seems to be a troll? (correct me if I’m wrong please?) 🤔
Ya know, I’ve seen many interactions with those types during my journey through the forums over the yrs.
I answer them. Some claim l am a bit harsh and may ask why I’m judging them or even interacting with them? I really don’t know who they truly are. It’s just a (most likely a fake picture / avatar) and some words they write to stir things up. I can’t imagine the boredom they must go thru to even feel compelled to do it?
In real life, those guys may be the coolest guys in the world. Family men, they could be running charitable organizations, and building homes for the less fortunate in their spare time. Everyone has a story. I’m not judging THEM at all...I’m on a joke exchange with their “character“ they portray here.
Am l judging or joking with?
—Their actual “character “ in everyday life? (a taste of their real personality?)
—Or? a ”character-character “ (they invent or role play with) Maybe they need to vent? Idk, like l said l don’t judge them because l don’t even know them.
Two completely different things, ya know?
Since they want to take time to be harsh or mean to nice individuals, or the kind souls on these threads...I’ll dance with them for a bit.
Me-no-likey the bullies.😐
Never acceptable.
I don’t like it when awesome people get pushed around, insulted or embarrassed by those types.
It’s just who l am. 🤷🏻♂️
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”Ching Chong”?
It’s a stereotype/racist comment, my man.
Thats what l call it.
A spade a spade.
Terrible taste.
@seoulsearch? Pass? Apparently we are 3 years old again?
Meet me at the tree fort. We need to make plans. 🦸🏻♂️🦹🏻♀️
Idk 🤷🏻♂️ Guess we’ll never see him at the park again at this rate.
It’s a stereotype/racist comment, my man.
Thats what l call it.
A spade a spade.
Terrible taste.
@seoulsearch? Pass? Apparently we are 3 years old again?
Meet me at the tree fort. We need to make plans. 🦸🏻♂️🦹🏻♀️
Idk 🤷🏻♂️ Guess we’ll never see him at the park again at this rate.
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You're welcome. It sounds as if he was dating this ex and claiming to be a Christian. If he was sinning with her and claiming to be a Christian, the Bible has news for you: "Everyone who resides in him does not sin; everyone who sins has neither seen him nor known him. Little children, let no one deceive you: The one who practices righteousness is righteous, just as Jesus is righteous. The one who practices sin is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was revealed: to destroy the works of the devil" (1 John 3:6-8).