My wife

Remember, Mr Surfer, that the Bible also explains how a husband is to lay his life down for his wife as Christ did for the Church.

Oh yes she does. Takes many kinds of meds too. She was doing fine or getting better until Covid hit. I was praying for her to relieve some from of ministering and load and behold my prayers were answered when a girl from her work reached out to do Bible study once a week,, but that immediately stopped. She is a nurse and she's having to work mandatory overtime and hates itThat's why I don't mind going the extra mile at home, but still would appreciate some level of gratitude or appreciation. I know this road is going to be tuff and I plan on sticking it out. I may have to get with my pastor and get some one on one Christian counseling so I myself don't stray.

Your wife is a nurse? If so, work is probably draining. Do your best to make her feel comfortable when she gets home from work.

Ah okay, that explains a lot... depression and meds... just rest in the Lord bro, keep close to Him and keep loving her unconditionally with the love that He gives you; He will enable you; just keep going to Him and yes support from your Pastor is wise... remember we have an enemy roaming around, and the powers of darkness want Christian marriages to fail. God will give you all you need to endure; this is love... sounds like it’s gonna take some time... and prayer ... and a lot of selfless love like the Bible talks about, in Corinthians
It must be a very difficult time to be a nurse right now...

Oh yes she does. Takes many kinds of meds too. She was doing fine or getting better until Covid hit. I was praying for her to relieve some from of ministering and load and behold my prayers were answered when a girl from her work reached out to do Bible study once a week,, but that immediately stopped. She is a nurse and she's having to work mandatory overtime and hates itThat's why I don't mind going the extra mile at home, but still would appreciate some level of gratitude or appreciation. I know this road is going to be tuff and I plan on sticking it out. I may have to get with my pastor and get some one on one Christian counseling so I myself don't stray.

OK well, it seems that in the beginning your wife did what she could to be an ideal wife, but then all hell broke lose when you went against her wishes. Old wounds from the past resurfaced

But even if she is having issues with intimacy, what would have caused her to stop being on fire for God? I wonder what happened there that her views have changed so drastically? Was she even saved in the first place? And as if that's not enough, she's also trying to get you to change your views. Maybe your wife will not be happy with you again until she gets you to leave the church as well.

That's a fiery dart from Satan, so you need to put on the armor of God because your wife wants to bring you astray. And that must never happen. Amen.

If your wife isn't being intimate with you due to some issues that she is trying to overcome, what makes you think she is cheating? You seem unsympathetic to what she is going through. You spoke about feeling rejected, but you seem to doubt that she was abused in the past.

If she finds out about you installing a camera to spy on her, then things will be even worst. I'm not seeing how you came to the conclusion that she might be unfaithful.

Please don't do anything to make things worst.

OK well, it seems that in the beginning your wife did what she could to be an ideal wife, but then all hell broke lose when you went against her wishes. Old wounds from the past resurfaced

But even if she is having issues with intimacy, what would have caused her to stop being on fire for God? I wonder what happened there that her views have changed so drastically? Was she even saved in the first place? And as if that's not enough, she's also trying to get you to change your views. Maybe your wife will not be happy with you again until she gets you to leave the church as well.

That's a fiery dart from Satan, so you need to put on the armor of God because your wife wants to bring you astray. And that must never happen. Amen.

If your wife isn't being intimate with you due to some issues that she is trying to overcome, what makes you think she is cheating? You seem unsympathetic to what she is going through. You spoke about feeling rejected, but you seem to doubt that she was abused in the past.

If she finds out about you installing a camera to spy on her, then things will be even worst. I'm not seeing how you came to the conclusion that she might be unfaithful.

Please don't do anything to make things worst.

Oh yes she does. Takes many kinds of meds too. She was doing fine or getting better until Covid hit. I was praying for her to relieve some from of ministering and load and behold my prayers were answered when a girl from her work reached out to do Bible study once a week,, but that immediately stopped. She is a nurse and she's having to work mandatory overtime and hates itThat's why I don't mind going the extra mile at home, but still would appreciate some level of gratitude or appreciation. I know this road is going to be tuff and I plan on sticking it out. I may have to get with my pastor and get some one on one Christian counseling so I myself don't stray.

So I've been married for just barely 3 years now. My wife in the beginning was on fire for God but has changed. She doesn't agree with most of the Bible, thinks abortions are a women's choice and tries to convince me that it's right I disagree, thinks that preaching the gospel is shoving it down peoples throat and so fourth. She completely stopped coming to church, but I still go. My wife had some sexual encounters in the past that were abusive so I'm told. In our first year of marriage the intimacy was pretty good until I decided to sneak one in without the use of a condom, got in some trouble because of that, but its been well over 2.5 years and I've never done any thing like that again and yet I feel she still has not forgiven me. Says she feels disconnected, even took one for the team by getting fixed. I use to make moves on her regularly but gave up because of the rejection. Its been 6 months since my wife and I been intement. She pulled me aside today and said its not you but because of my past I feel dirty and don't want to engage in intimacy. I asked if she wanted to go see a Christian counselor and she immediately said no because she feels that the counsilar we judge her according to the Bible based on God's plan for the husband and wife. Things are looking up for me, still actively at work, I'm more than half way completed my training at the volunteer fire department in my community, I'm helping more at church. I believe that marriage is for better or for worse. I told my wife I'm here and ill support her anyway she'll let me. Any advice would be appreciated as I don't know what to do at this point.

what do you mean by this?

Not even human?
You had me at "high tiered alpha man."
I think we have a troll in our midst.

I would like some clarification on what you said here. In our first year of marriage the intimacy was pretty good until I decided to sneak one in without the use of a condom, got in some trouble because of that

What does that mean? You had an affair and didn't use protection? Or what?

...Its been 6 months since my wife and I been intement. She pulled me aside today and said its not you but because of my past I feel dirty and don't want to engage in intimacy..

Likely a single troll at that, judging by their remarks about women.

Nope. Not single. Got a great marriage with an outstanding woman.

Non-feminist woman = Gift from God.
Feminist woman = Worthless scum.

If you're not a feminist then there's no reason to take offense. If you're offended, maybe it's because you're a feminist?

Remember, Mr Surfer, that the Bible also explains how a husband is to lay his life down for his wife as Christ did for the Church.