I want to love more.

So we've all been there. Church is over and we're ready to go to lunch or maybe cook something tasty at home. We're excited to just enjoy Sunday afternoon with maybe a movie or a book or a nice nap. Sunday is awesome right? Then a fellow brother or sister approaches you and asks you for a ride home all the way over to the West side of town because their car broke down. That can take over an hour in the city I live. Or maybe she needs a ride to the tire shop. Whatever it might be, your plans are ruined, your day off is being eaten up, and you are super hungry by the time you finish helping your friend. You do it of course because you care about them. But inside you are annoyed.

When Jesus helped people, he did it lovingly and willingly. He was happy to serve. How can I change my attitude inside? How can I start feeling joy when I do help? Because I've noticed that sometimes I help but inside I'm tired and frustrated. I feel so fake, if that makes sense. I want to love people genuinely.

Do ya'll have any similar troubles? Maybe with time, it's gotten easier for you to do this? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

So we've all been there. Church is over and we're ready to go to lunch or maybe cook something tasty at home. We're excited to just enjoy Sunday afternoon with maybe a movie or a book or a nice nap. Sunday is awesome right? Then a fellow brother or sister approaches you and asks you for a ride home all the way over to the West side of town because their car broke down. That can take over an hour in the city I live. Or maybe she needs a ride to the tire shop. Whatever it might be, your plans are ruined, your day off is being eaten up, and you are super hungry by the time you finish helping your friend. You do it of course because you care about them. But inside you are annoyed.

When Jesus helped people, he did it lovingly and willingly. He was happy to serve. How can I change my attitude inside? How can I start feeling joy when I do help? Because I've noticed that sometimes I help but inside I'm tired and frustrated. I feel so fake, if that makes sense. I want to love people genuinely.

Do ya'll have any similar troubles? Maybe with time, it's gotten easier for you to do this? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

This has become a thing in the past year or so for me as well..... I think the thing that gets me is I've never had alot of personal time in my whole life and now that I realize it as a need in my own life I guess I sometimes feel like it doesnt matter as much as other peoples needs. Theres been many times I've babysat or been asked to do something that completely takes up my weekend, which is my only chance at me time . It feels wrong to have the free time and say no to someone else though, it makes me feel selfish. I love helping others and I'll give you anything I have, I just wish my own needs were being met as well.

Sorry if this makes me seem self centered or like cry baby, but its bothered me more in the past year than ever.

Not even a little...

There is a line ...

God provides all of our time... we have limited time... just like we have limited resources like money....

If every time we were provided wages for the opportunities we are given.... we would give them ALL away....

We in our life would give much less in total than if we were to use those wages to build a foundation and provide more opportunity for others.....


I think in our own lives we need to look to Him for joy in giving... but also when to give and what to give....


You're not a cry baby at all... if anything I would guess more than a few times you gave a bit more than maybe was optimal and it left some .... trials or pain or "want"....


This topic is so deep on so many levels😅


jim also brought up how sometime giving to someone who is entitled could be an issue in of itself...

to take that to the extreme

i dont think we SHOULD find joy in enabling something bad like an abusive or ungrateful behavior through giving money or encouragement at the wrong times....

The issue with this particular one I have called him out on it and told him exactly how it comes across. I am open with this person, but my point wasn't his issues, it was that Jesus would be willing to give us a ride home every time, and He would probably use those times to talk with and grow us. I understand what you mean, and trust me I've said something, but I always think of the guys that took the roof up to lower there friend to Jesus, if he's trying to impose himself on Jesus, then come on.

Amen...

I actually love the way that sounded "Jesus would give us a ride home everytime"....

So true.....

But He wouldn't.

People get this skewed idea that Christ did everything that everyone wanted when they wanted it but that is not the Jesus that is portrayed in the whole of scripture. Jesus routinely "retreated" from the crowds with his disciples and at times even left his disciples to be alone with the Father. If Christ needed to "recharge" from ministry, how much more do we?

One of the biggest problems that has plagued the church for decades is that a small percentage of total attendees do the vast majority of the work within the church because of consumerism culture where people perceive church as a place they go to be served rather than a place that they go to serve others. As a result, the small percentage that do serve end up getting guilted into doing by far more than they should (often ignoring other responsibilities such as their families) to fill the gap.

Jesus did exactly what His Father called Him to do at exactly the time that it was supposed to be done.

But He wouldn't.

People get this skewed idea that Christ did everything that everyone wanted when they wanted it but that is not the Jesus that is portrayed in the whole of scripture. Jesus routinely "retreated" from the crowds with his disciples and at times even left his disciples to be alone with the Father. If Christ needed to "recharge" from ministry, how much more do we?

One of the biggest problems that has plagued the church for decades is that a small percentage of total attendees do the vast majority of the work within the church because of consumerism culture where people perceive church as a place they go to be served rather than a place that they go to serve others. As a result, the small percentage that do serve end up getting guilted into doing by far more than they should (often ignoring other responsibilities such as their families) to fill the gap.

Jesus did exactly what His Father called Him to do at exactly the time that it was supposed to be done.

I only was trying to make a point that sometimes people either need a different help than what they "want" and that sometimes when we give too much in the short term... we give less in the long term never having a chance to build up ourselves...

I understand what you mean, but this is the same Jesus that says if your brother ask you to walk a mile, you walk two right? If you think what I was talking about is what you're describing here, and just being walked over, then you're wrong, and Jesus would do exactly what I said, every time. It's not about Him doing everything everyone wants, no body even suggested this, you brought it to the conversation from nowhere, it's about Jesus being amazed by the lengths and things they will do to get to Him, and how He had pity and mercy on the crowds and stayed all night with them. I agree with much of what your saying here, but the sideways way you came at this comment so quick to "teach" and say what Jesus wouldn't do, you missed what the spirit of the whole comment was about.

So we've all been there. Church is over and we're ready to go to lunch or maybe cook something tasty at home. We're excited to just enjoy Sunday afternoon with maybe a movie or a book or a nice nap. Sunday is awesome right? Then a fellow brother or sister approaches you and asks you for a ride home all the way over to the West side of town because their car broke down. That can take over an hour in the city I live. Or maybe she needs a ride to the tire shop. Whatever it might be, your plans are ruined, your day off is being eaten up, and you are super hungry by the time you finish helping your friend. You do it of course because you care about them. But inside you are annoyed.

When Jesus helped people, he did it lovingly and willingly. He was happy to serve. How can I change my attitude inside? How can I start feeling joy when I do help? Because I've noticed that sometimes I help but inside I'm tired and frustrated. I feel so fake, if that makes sense. I want to love people genuinely.

Do ya'll have any similar troubles? Maybe with time, it's gotten easier for you to do this? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

This has become a thing in the past year or so for me as well..... I think the thing that gets me is I've never had alot of personal time in my whole life and now that I realize it as a need in my own life I guess I sometimes feel like it doesnt matter as much as other peoples needs. Theres been many times I've babysat or been asked to do something that completely takes up my weekend, which is my only chance at me time . It feels wrong to have the free time and say no to someone else though, it makes me feel selfish. I love helping others and I'll give you anything I have, I just wish my own needs were being met as well.

Sorry if this makes me seem self centered or like cry baby, but its bothered me more in the past year than ever.