NEED CHRISTIAN ADVICE PLS HELP

Do not walk away but RUN AWAY ! Have no doubts, this is crystal clear ...

Yes of course I guess the real question becomes if we are to flee sin and someone who has become a stumbling block. You don't have to be physically divorced but you can just separate and let god reconcile if possible, thinking that is what I have read in the past, with plenty of examples in the bible where people just sent their unbelieving hindering spouses away. In this case a man sending his wife back to her fathers house while he went and did gods work. Forgot who it was in the bible.

Yeah I think majority of the evidence points to stable / unstable homes as #1 causes for issues of course there are exceptions to the rules. But I think a child would do much better in a happy loving single parent home, then a dysfunctional one, of course god can save like in your case, but majority of people get severely messed up.

It's just the mother / father has to take on both roles, which is hard to figure out and do for most.

After I became part of a praying wives forum, I saw how some wives and mothers struggled-- and won. It is not always quick and easy, for as someone said, God works in mysterious ways-- but being a 'better,' Christ-like person is not impossible. Normally we read to separate or divorce when there is infidelity. But time and again, I read how the mentors in the forum emphasized staying and surviving as the covenant wife... and not to grow weary while doing good (being faithful), to reap in due season!

There's one testimony also I read recently, if anyone cares:
https://prayingwifeforum.com/2019/12/25/from-ruins-to-restoration-elaine-ongpauco/

Grace and forgiveness isnt easy. Most people wouldn't show it. Both are a Biblical practice regardless of the circumstances but it's okay because divorce is a Biblical practice also. So like I said it is up to the individual and how they choose to respond.

Forgiveness is not always restoration of previous relationship.


If a baby sitter hurt your children in horrible ways, you can forgive them and never give them power over your children again.

Yep many times restoration isnt a possibility but you never know how the Spirit will move a individual. Their are crazy testimonies out there.

They only advise someone like myself can give is pray and petition before the Lord not only for yourself but for him as well. I know from personal experience that alcohol abuse is the most damaging to a marriage.

I won’t kid you and say there is an easy way out. If you are truly sincere and want guidance, you have to put faith in Jesus. He will deliver you from your tribulations. This also I know from experience. I will pray to our Father who knows best for you and your family. Fight the good fight!

I am sorry for your pain. You must feel overwhelmed. This might not be the best time to make such heavy decisions. First you need good counsel. You need to sort out what you have experienced and get the sort of support you are going to need at this time. Once you feel able, going to joint counselling could help. It doesn't mean that the relationship can be repaired but the two of you are going to have a bond for life because of your child. Getting a good groundwork of communication is going to matter for the rest of your life, no matter the outcome.
None of this is easy.

1. Talk to someone to share your experience (Christian counsellor/pastor or both). You need someone who will give objective feedback and support. Start with that.
2. Talk to them about your choices moving forward.
3. Talk to your husband with a counsellor so that you can have someone help you hear each other. You two have a pattern of communication that is going to need an outsider to change. Try to avoid the word divorce until all other options are off the table.
4. When you are ready discuss your options.
5. If you then decide you cannot stay in the marriage then you need to talk to a lawyer about the options. You need to understand all that is involved. There is no way around it. Divorce is ugly.

For each step, start with prayer. Have praying friends pray for you.
Take the time you need to sort things out and hear from God.
Also remember self care. Please make yourself accountable to at least one friend to look after yourself. It is easy to bury yourself in being a mom rather than getting help and care. Don't do it. You matter, and again, I am sorry that this is happening.