I Don't Like Men

I think it was a quote from Socrates, I just didn’t have time to look up the reference.

I have yet to see a chick flick where the happy couple get murdered by a contract killer. That sounds more like a mafia movie, and they are closer to reality.

I really don’t expect most people (women especially) to agree with me. It doesn’t mean I’m wrong, it just means most people like to cling to the dilutions that give them hope for future with happiness ushered in by an external source, preventing them from facing their own inadequacies.

Socrates? is he one of the psychiatrists you quoted?

I told you. stop watching chick flicks. I'm a chickie and I don't like them myself (I'm not really a chickie haha)

I don't have the 'perfect love' illusions. you have to work on marriage and love has tides like the ocean. sometimes you want to clobber them and other times you don't know what you would do without 'em

I don't understand why you would write what you have on a thread where a woman is asking for help though

you more or less underscored her problem

people always hope...sometimes it's all people have. when hope is gone, is when some people commit suicide

honestly though, God has supplied what we need AND actually want. He is faithful, just and the Bible states that He is love.

He doesn't just 'have' love...He IS love...His love is action and not sentiment or emotions. that is why it does not change and we can depend on Him

but you pretty much get what you put into your relationship with God

Why are my thoughts evil or sin?

I know that you meant this in a positive way, but why should I deal with the "situation" for the benefit of a future man and not just for my wellbeing? Maybe you meant to say this, IDK.

Perhaps (and I am just guessing) it was meant in the spirit of along the lines of, anything not done in faith is sin. Aside from that, as Ghoti2 said, it would be to your benefit to explore the genesis of these feelings you have so you can come to a better understanding of yourself and also learn to take responsibility when appropriate.

VineyardsOfEngedi said:

I know that you meant this in a positive way, but why should I deal with the "situation" for the benefit of a future man and not just for my wellbeing? Maybe you meant to say this, IDK.

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It would definitely be for your well being also

@ VineyardsOfEngedi
I understand what you mean, us men can be very disappointing. Honestly I don't think it's so much a "man" thing as it is a "human being" thing. This is why expectations are so dangerous. I've been in a totally committed relationship, by His grace, for 23 years and you know what the most dangerous thing I can have as far as my own peace of mind is? Expectations. People are always going to fall short of our expectations, and I honestly feel they (expectations) are not only wrong, but also completely selfish, they are by very nature what we want. I'm not saying they are all bad, or we can't have good expectations, I'm just saying that waiting for someone to meet your expectations is a fools game really. At this point I want to make very clear I am speaking very generally right now. I do not know you and have no idea of how you feel, see things, or the angle you're coming at this from, and I'm not trying to "teach or fix" you. I'm simply trying to share my perspective here, for what it's worth.

Jesus came to serve, and this was the behavior He modeled by example, and for me personally in my relationship and marriage to my wife have found that coming at it with any other spirit, or attitude than to serve her, if I have ANY kind of expectation it will most likely lead to some kind of disappointment. This said, for me it is utterly impossible to keep up, but the more aware of this I am, the more I catch it in myself, the more I, by His Spirit, am able to see, identify, and actually change it, the closer we grow together, the closer we grow to God, and the more He is glorified. So the main attitude is "what I can do for them", and not, "what they can do to complete me". This again is very general and not in any way directed at you personally, who I don't know. You could very well think this way already and I'm preaching to the choir, I again am only trying to share what I've come to see. Where are men falling so short for you? Just all after the same thing by any means necessary? I know the pop culture, worldly and foolish way the people look at relationships, but don't give up. There are people out there that know how to love.

I guess that was a little confusing. My comment was in response to Nehemiah's advice specifically, and not made in reference to your situation.

Hey how are you doing? x

Someone hurt you badly I think.... and Jesus cares....and He can heal your heart... I'm sure He will... in time... if you let Him....xxx

Amen and He will NEVER disappoint.

Learn to have more patience. If you can tolerate yourself or even like yourself despite knowing yourself well, with all your imperfections, i'm sure you can tolerate others since you only had a glimpse of their faults.

I also have this disgust of people in general not only men. If you observe people, listen more and talk less, you can only like very few people. Introverts are good at this, maybe that is the reason they only have few friends. People are selfish but some try hard not to be, so give people many chances.

Only during the 5 minute interval once it is posted.

I believe that you have at least 18 active threads right now that you have started.

I'm quite sure that I would not be offended in the slightest.

Im surprised your reply didn't get any likes, you probably hit some nails.

And yes it's not a gender issue, it's both males and females alike that have hurt me but I'd start a riot had I posted both.

"Christian" men have been the bigger disappointment than "worldly" men.

The only expectations I have are godly, which men "Christian" men fail at terribly.

I did pay a subscription unless they lied about having access to things, otherwise I don't see a ladies forum.