I have to agree, here (at least, in what I *think* you are saying
).
I have only skimmed through this thread very quickly, so thought I would just add my two cents (on the general topic).
I believe all who are saved (in "this present age [singular]") WILL go in the Rapture (at which time then the judgment seat of Christ [bema of Christ] takes place--for "the Church which is His body" [who, I believe, is the "Bride/Wife [singular]" referred to in Rev19:
7 and "aorist" already having taken place in heaven at the time of Rev19--With Rev19:
9,
being distinct, refers to "those [plural, i.e. "guests (plural)]
having been invited to the wedding
FEAST/SUPPER of the Lamb" (that is, they will have been being INVITED to the promised and prophesied EARTHLY Millennial Kingdom and
invited all through the 7 tribulation years, AFTER our Departure/Rapture)--the "wedding FEAST/SUPPER" parables[etc] in the gospels pick up at the point in time FOLLOWING His "RETURN"
to the earth [thus are
not portraying our "Rapture," but His coming
to the earth as an "
ALREADY-WED Bridegroom"--NO "bride/wife [singular]" is being referred to in those passages-- Matt25:1-13 / Matt22:8-14 / Lk12:36-37,38,40 "when he will
RETURN FROM the wedding..."
THEN the meal]).
So the problem comes in when we fail to distinguish things that are not referring to the same thing, and instead blur things altogether as if they were all speaking of the same thing (or as if everything pertains to "the Church which is His body" [aka "the Bride/Wife [singular]"--the SINGULAR "a chaste virgin" spoken of by Paul in 2Cor11:2 ["I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present A CHASTE VIRGIN to Christ"]).
The gospels where speaking of "the wedding FEAST/SUPPER" are speaking of the promised and prophesied earthly Millennial Kingdom which will commence upon His "RETURN" to the earth (and are not speaking of our Rapture, nor of "the MARRIAGE" itself. These folks never lift off the earth to "the meeting the Lord IN THE AIR [AS ONE--the ONE BODY]" as we ["the Church which is His body"] do; These folks will either be "the righteous [saved]" who will enter the MK age, or not [meaning some are unsaved/not saved--those who die during the trib will be "resurrected," and those who live through the entire time will enter the MK age in their mortal bodies capable of bearing children/reproducing (and these, Jesus said, "shall never die"--because He Himself will be reigning and present there)]).
The phrase "the Church which is His body" [
all saints of "this present age [singular]" and to whom the "Rapture" SOLELY pertains] is
not the same thing as saying "the church
ES" (like in Rev2-3 [i.e. or referring to a church in a particular locale]). "The Church which is His body" is made up of ONLY "believers/true saints/the saved"... whereas "the church
ES" consist of both believers/saints AND those who are not truly saved/those who come in His name but who are not vitally connected with Him [Jesus Christ], i.e. what is sometimes called Christendom... so Rev2-3 should be understood in this way. IOW, the "lukewarm," for example, is
not "saved persons" who don't "measure up" in some particular way, but are instead "
unsaved" persons (those
not vitally connected with Christ ["IN Christ"], those
not having trusted in Christ and His finished work alone, for salvation [but "faith PLUS [something/anything else]").
If we "blur together" these things which should be distinguished, a whole bunch of faulty ideas result, such as the Partial-Rapture Theory, the Millennial-Exclusion Theory [that any member of "the Church
which is His body" may be excluded from the MK time period], and a number of other mis-applications and so forth...