If you’re planning to go on a date with someone special, who should pay for it?

Yes, first date especially. The man should hold her chair and pay for the meal. I agree with you !

I think I might be the least spoiled woman in the Universe when I am reading this. I don't expect much from a date, no holding chairs (basically because I am rolling around in one) and it is OK if I pay. But I do like the food to be good, though. And I would appreciate if my date doesn't talk about his intestines all the time. And half a cookie won't make me satisfied. Otherwise I am easy to please. And one more thing. If the man treats me with a night at the theatre, it is good to check WHEN it starts. (I have really had some losy dates)

Bumping this cos it would be interesting to see the thoughts of our newer friends to CC 😊

No one should pay. It should be free!

That would be nice, but I believe most restaurants and waitresses vehemently object to the dine and dash strategy.

I guess the image I posted isn't showing. It's an ad for free restaurant meals.

I see it! 😆

It showed but I just thought about what happens if no one pays on a stereotypical date. But the really funny part of the story is that I went grocery shopping at Aldi this evening, and after the cashier helped me bag / sort the stuff as it was being put in the cart, I said thanks and started walking away. And poor gal had to say something about well aren't you going to pay because I completely just blanked on the fact that I hadn't paid yet (so I turned around the 1 or 2 steps and paid her).

Apparently get stuff to dine on and dash doesn't work at grocery stores either.

Who ever has the money should pay....Also who ever did the invite should pay....

What if the person inviting doesn’t have enough money? But is really invested in this person?

Then you go for a walk somewhere - like park or beach - that doesn't cost money.... Most people have food so make a picnic.

Good idea regarding park or beach 👍🏽

I don't know what kind of message I would be sending by taking someone on a first date to a shelter..LOL...

I think anyone can call for the date, so if I the woman wants to invite the man on a date for example to watch a movie I should be able to get the tickets and probably pick him up then he can also decide to buy the pop corn or do something else. And vice versa. Whoever can afford should pay.

Fried chicken and potato salad.

I personally like splitsies. Sometimes a straight split is easy if the ticket is even, but sometime it’s better to do the “I pay for ______ you pay for ____.”

I also seem to notice that guys can be (understandably) salty if you have a date where they pay but it doesn’t work out. I had that happen and chemistry was just not there. I informed him I’d be happy to be friends but romantically there wasn’t any spark. To this day no response. He probably felt taken advantage of, which was by no means my intent...

Whoever invited should pay.
Or you go somewhere thats free.

If you both decide you want to do something then split. But one will end up driving and having to pay for gas. It would be weird to have someone ask me out and them. They say oh can you pay me for gas. That just silly. Dont ask if you cant afford to do something. Or find free things to do.

I had people invite me to their birthdays and then expect me to pay for meal. Um you hosting it, so you provide at least something for your guests. Thats just courteous. We will bring gifts or BYO if you say its so, but some people wont come to a potluck if they dont have food to bring or dont have time to prepare anything. Also if its too far away some people need transport. It doesnt depend on if someone is a man or woman.

Nobody likes a bludger, its but from a womans perspective its somehow worse if the man asks you for money. Um no. And yes had that from a few. Please dont. If you want to be good husband material, then you provide.

I’ve heard alot of stories like that where if the guy isn’t enjoying his date he won’t spend money or pay for the date at all. I’d assume women do this sort of thing too.

Pretty stink if you ask me.

If they’ve agreed (whether man or woman) to pay for part or all of the date and decide not to because they “aren’t enjoying themselves” I think that’s wrong. You agreed to the date, you agreed to the terms, it’s like a verbal contract on your honor. You don’t get a refund from Disneyland if you’re “not having a good enough time.”