What to do if your partner does not seek marriage

I am in a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend whom I love dearly. I guess we kind of brushed of the topic of marriage until now that I felt the need to talk about it. I view marriage as a sacred union of two people to love each other the way God loves us. It’s hard because it seems that I cannot open up this topic to him because he gets defensive and does not want to talk about it. Please enlighten me on what people think about marriage and how I should go forward on this. Sorry for the vague post but I can give more detail if any. Thanks and God bless!

first, let's ease into the mind of your boyfriend to see why he might think that way

what do you think about the human ability to keep promises?
fall short of God's glory

and the bible says "do not make vow" for you cannot make your hair white or black

makes sense ...
let's connect the concept of promise with commitment

the concept of freedom or the concept of being "bound" can be psychological
and it's possible for the mind to subconsciously build a psychological fortress for apparently no reason except that a psychologist or a licensed counselor might know

Marriage Counselors would be in order, and that is a recommendation you can consider

U are already married according to God. Where is the issue.
U are comitted to one another, u are together. U dont need no pastor or judge (idk i think judges do ceremonies in the US correct me if im wrong)
Stop focusing on earthy traditions.
If he doenst want to spend the money on a costy wedding, take a cruise together or something.
Just my 2 cents

Demi, they aren't even married. And yes, the US does require a license and an actual marriage ceremony. Obviously this guy isn't interested in getting married..

If he doesn't want to talk about marriage, then why keep forcing the issue on him? Contrary to what Demi said, you are NOT married in the eyes of God. If you were rightfully married and it was blessed by God, then you would be married in his eyes. A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship does NOT equal marriage..

Are you living together? Are you having sex? Because if you are, you shouldn't be..

Well maybe he's scared of something it doesn't necessarily mean he's doesn't want to get married. Maybe he just doesn't have good examples of marriage in his life, or maybe he feels like he isnt ready yet. I think you should try to talk to him, use those feminine charms to get him to talk lol. (Pure ones ofc please don't take that the wrong way.....)

Quit him like a dead end job.

You posted this, word for word, in the singles forum yesterday. And got responses there.

This is the issue that I would have. He's willing to live together? BE together? Then why not commit? Why not marry? I get not wanting a ceremony but whats his hang up with making it legal? Trust issues? I'd get to the root of that. And if he's 100% unwilling to marry then I'd drop him. And I'd drop fornication to start with. If you're not legally married you shouldn't be sleeping together biblically....Now...that's assuming you're a Christian and care what the bible says...

Maybe he likes being in a relationship, but not married, so if he ever decided to dump her, he can move out and on without having to get a divorce..

Give it to God to show you whether this guy is part of Gods plans for you, or not.