Loneliness is not a condition just for singles..

Agreed. I first experienced loneliness when I was married... or, more precisely, I first identified the feeling as loneliness when I was married. My ex was sick and I was basically raising two kids on my own in the midst of studying (or, trying to). My relationship with the Lord deepened during that period.

I choose to be single and to stay that way. Any love I have for God or anyone else in this world must be unconditional. I don't want to feel any other type of love for anyone else. Unconditional only.

Well, I think that is good news - that you might be open to the possibility that just maybe, there might be a chance that you might just find that someone whom you can love 'unconditionally' - and if your truly blessed maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who is actually blessed with someone who can love you the same way?

Pssst, ask any happy couple you know, they will probably all admit that they have lonely moments too. I think that some of that is God calling us to commune with Him. I do look forward to connection with peeps, don't get me wrong. But the best cure for loneliness isn't found in companionship with another person but with our Lord.
Do you agree?

Yes, I can relate... In hindsight, as I look back on my 27 year marriage, I do see those times when I recognized that sense of loneliness. During those times when I was really honest with myself and I recognized that she earnestly didn't genuinely love me with the same unconditional-love and conviction that I loved her. The past two years of separation along with the added single parent duties were often times overwhelming - while I did experience being depressed - I found that I was more often too busy to allow myself to succumb to loneliness... Rather, I did find that my more frequent re-connections with our lord along with my trusted guardian angels renewed my faith, strength and drive to keep hope... But for me - my hope remains to be blessed and afforded the opportunity to connect with that someone special so spectacularly that we would make a point to ensure that the other never felt lonely again...

Wouldn't that be wonderful. Are you missing her lots? R u praying for a reconciliation?

I am reminded of a song some of the kids at work play on their phones. "7 Years" by Lukas Graham.

"Once I was seven years old
My mama told me
Make yourself some friends or you'll be lonely..."

Then the song talks about all the stuff he got into with his friends when they were young...

"Once I was eleven years old
My daddy told me
Get yourself a wife or you'll be lonely"

Then the song goes on, "Once I was twenty years old..."

"Soon I'll be thirty years old..."

"Soon I'll be sixty years old
Will I think the world is cold?"
Or will I have a lot of children who can warm me?"

The song ends on an unresolved note, because with all the author tried he never did find a sure cure for loneliness.

I choose to be single and to stay that way. Any love I have for God or anyone else in this world must be unconditional. I don't want to feel any other type of love for anyone else. Unconditional only.

I'm torn... While my heart will always feel and pray for her; our lord knows that I have made herculean efforts to save our union and I have prayed and prayed for a miracle that would bring her back... Unfortunately, she has made it abundantly clear - in her current state of mind - that her soul is lost and thru her actions and decisions that she just doesn't have it (compassion/love/peace/faith) within her to ever come back...
She left while our youngest was still in high school... She initiated a summons for 'D-word' action a couple weeks ago... My mother-in-law and sister-in-laws are all equally torn and confide in me that there is nothing left for me to do and that it is time for me to just let her go, and that I should begin to get along with my life without her...
The past several months our lord has opened my eyes, and provided me a guardian angel that has helped me to open my eyes and regain my strength and hope in his blessings that await me in due time...

I agree, CharliRenee. Even in a marriage there can be many lonely moments. Despite having your family around, you can feel lonely at times. Only God can keep you going at all times in all seasons.

Couldn't agree more

Pssst, ask any happy couple you know, they will probably all admit that they have lonely moments too. I think that some of that is God calling us to commune with Him. I do look forward to connection with peeps, don't get me wrong. But the best cure for loneliness isn't found in companionship with another person but with our Lord.

Do you agree?

It isn't fair for married couples to have all the things they have...
and on top of ALL THAT...
they get to have "loneliness" too.

They can't have everything.

It isn't fair.

There should be SOMETHING that's just for us singles.

Married people can't have everything.

It just isn't right.



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