Loneliness is not a condition just for singles..

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CharliRenee

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Pssst, ask any happy couple you know, they will probably all admit that they have lonely moments too. I think that some of that is God calling us to commune with Him. I do look forward to connection with peeps, don't get me wrong. But the best cure for loneliness isn't found in companionship with another person but with our Lord.

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Dino246

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Agreed. I first experienced loneliness when I was married... or, more precisely, I first identified the feeling as loneliness when I was married. My ex was sick and I was basically raising two kids on my own in the midst of studying (or, trying to). My relationship with the Lord deepened during that period.
 
CharliRenee

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Dino246 said:
Agreed. I first experienced loneliness when I was married... or, more precisely, I first identified the feeling as loneliness when I was married. My ex was sick and I was basically raising two kids on my own in the midst of studying (or, trying to). My relationship with the Lord deepened during that period.
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Oh thank you for sharing that. Wow u r strong, praise be to the Lord. I am so happy it drew you closer to Him and His tender-mercies
 
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I am reminded of a song some of the kids at work play on their phones. "7 Years" by Lukas Graham.

"Once I was seven years old
My mama told me
Make yourself some friends or you'll be lonely..."

Then the song talks about all the stuff he got into with his friends when they were young...

"Once I was eleven years old
My daddy told me
Get yourself a wife or you'll be lonely"

Then the song goes on, "Once I was twenty years old..."

"Soon I'll be thirty years old..."

"Soon I'll be sixty years old
Will I think the world is cold?"
Or will I have a lot of children who can warm me?"

The song ends on an unresolved note, because with all the author tried he never did find a sure cure for loneliness. :(
 
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I choose to be single and to stay that way. Any love I have for God or anyone else in this world must be unconditional. I don't want to feel any other type of love for anyone else. Unconditional only.
 
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CandieM said:
I choose to be single and to stay that way. Any love I have for God or anyone else in this world must be unconditional. I don't want to feel any other type of love for anyone else. Unconditional only.
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Well, I think that is good news - that you might be open to the possibility that just maybe, there might be a chance that you might just find that someone whom you can love 'unconditionally' - and if your truly blessed maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who is actually blessed with someone who can love you the same way?
 
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Solemateleft said:
Well, I think that is good news - that you might be open to the possibility that just maybe, there might be a chance that you might just find that someone whom you can love 'unconditionally' - and if your truly blessed maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who is actually blessed with someone who can love you the same way?
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If we're talking about sexual intercourse, then ... no. Romantic love isn't typically considered unconditional love. Hopefully no one 'chases me', as it's called because I don't want it. Sorry.

Caring for people is one thing. Personally, I love the idea of being an advocate for people. That makes me happy. In no way shape or form do I want to be a wife or a lover or to be romanced. None of that appeals to me. Hopefully people can understand and respect my feelings on that subject.
 
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CharliRenee said:
Pssst, ask any happy couple you know, they will probably all admit that they have lonely moments too. I think that some of that is God calling us to commune with Him. I do look forward to connection with peeps, don't get me wrong. But the best cure for loneliness isn't found in companionship with another person but with our Lord.
Do you agree?
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Yes, I can relate... In hindsight, as I look back on my 27 year marriage, I do see those times when I recognized that sense of loneliness. During those times when I was really honest with myself and I recognized that she earnestly didn't genuinely love me with the same unconditional-love and conviction that I loved her. The past two years of separation along with the added single parent duties were often times overwhelming - while I did experience being depressed - I found that I was more often too busy to allow myself to succumb to loneliness... Rather, I did find that my more frequent re-connections with our lord along with my trusted guardian angels renewed my faith, strength and drive to keep hope... But for me - my hope remains to be blessed and afforded the opportunity to connect with that someone special so spectacularly that we would make a point to ensure that the other never felt lonely again...
 
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Solemateleft said:
Yes, I can relate... In hindsight, as I look back on my 27 year marriage, I do see those times when I recognized that sense of loneliness. During those times when I was really honest with myself and I recognized that she earnestly didn't genuinely love me with the same unconditional-love and conviction that I loved her. The past two years of separation along with the added single parent duties were often times overwhelming - while I did experience being depressed - I found that I was more often too busy to allow myself to succumb to loneliness... Rather, I did find that my more frequent re-connections with our lord along with my trusted guardian angels renewed my faith, strength and drive to keep hope... But for me - my hope remains to be blessed and afforded the opportunity to connect with that someone special so spectacularly that we would make a point to ensure that the other never felt lonely again...
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Wouldn't that be wonderful. Are you missing her lots? R u praying for a reconciliation?
 
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CharliRenee said:
Wouldn't that be wonderful. Are you missing her lots? R u praying for a reconciliation?
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I'm torn... While my heart will always feel and pray for her; our lord knows that I have made herculean efforts to save our union and I have prayed and prayed for a miracle that would bring her back... Unfortunately, she has made it abundantly clear - in her current state of mind - that her soul is lost and thru her actions and decisions that she just doesn't have it (compassion/love/peace/faith) within her to ever come back...
She left while our youngest was still in high school... She initiated a summons for 'D-word' action a couple weeks ago... My mother-in-law and sister-in-laws are all equally torn and confide in me that there is nothing left for me to do and that it is time for me to just let her go, and that I should begin to get along with my life without her...
The past several months our lord has opened my eyes, and provided me a guardian angel that has helped me to open my eyes and regain my strength and hope in his blessings that await me in due time...
 
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I agree, CharliRenee. Even in a marriage there can be many lonely moments. Despite having your family around, you can feel lonely at times. Only God can keep you going at all times in all seasons.
 
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Lynx said:
I am reminded of a song some of the kids at work play on their phones. "7 Years" by Lukas Graham.

"Once I was seven years old
My mama told me
Make yourself some friends or you'll be lonely..."

Then the song talks about all the stuff he got into with his friends when they were young...

"Once I was eleven years old
My daddy told me
Get yourself a wife or you'll be lonely"

Then the song goes on, "Once I was twenty years old..."

"Soon I'll be thirty years old..."

"Soon I'll be sixty years old
Will I think the world is cold?"
Or will I have a lot of children who can warm me?"

The song ends on an unresolved note, because with all the author tried he never did find a sure cure for loneliness. :(
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Wow, that was profound. If only someone said, better find yourself Christ, eh?
 
CharliRenee

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CandieM said:
I choose to be single and to stay that way. Any love I have for God or anyone else in this world must be unconditional. I don't want to feel any other type of love for anyone else. Unconditional only.
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I love that stipulation. I too appreciate that agape love.
 
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Solemateleft said:
I'm torn... While my heart will always feel and pray for her; our lord knows that I have made herculean efforts to save our union and I have prayed and prayed for a miracle that would bring her back... Unfortunately, she has made it abundantly clear - in her current state of mind - that her soul is lost and thru her actions and decisions that she just doesn't have it (compassion/love/peace/faith) within her to ever come back...
She left while our youngest was still in high school... She initiated a summons for 'D-word' action a couple weeks ago... My mother-in-law and sister-in-laws are all equally torn and confide in me that there is nothing left for me to do and that it is time for me to just let her go, and that I should begin to get along with my life without her...
The past several months our lord has opened my eyes, and provided me a guardian angel that has helped me to open my eyes and regain my strength and hope in his blessings that await me in due time...
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Wow, you have such a deep capacity to love and to articulate that love, it seems. I just so very sorry and am pleased that God is bringing you healing and peace. Hugs.
 
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EmilyFoster said:
I agree, CharliRenee. Even in a marriage there can be many lonely moments. Despite having your family around, you can feel lonely at times. Only God can keep you going at all times in all seasons.
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Couldn't agree more
 
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Couldn't agree more
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CharliRenee said:
Pssst, ask any happy couple you know, they will probably all admit that they have lonely moments too. I think that some of that is God calling us to commune with Him. I do look forward to connection with peeps, don't get me wrong. But the best cure for loneliness isn't found in companionship with another person but with our Lord.

Do you agree?
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I definitely do!! I believe that our God is a jealous God.. when we place our relationship with God with human relationships we will NEVER be satisfied.
 
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That is very true. When I was caregiving for my father I was in a relationship, yet because of the nature of what was happening with my dad and how much care he needed, there were times I very often felt isolated despite having someone in my life and having someone with me almost 24 seven.
 
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It isn't fair for married couples to have all the things they have...
and on top of ALL THAT...
they get to have "loneliness" too.

They can't have everything.

It isn't fair.

There should be SOMETHING that's just for us singles.

Married people can't have everything.

It just isn't right.



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CharliRenee

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maxwel said:
It isn't fair for married couples to have all the things they have...
and on top of ALL THAT...
they get to have "loneliness" too.

They can't have everything.

It isn't fair.

There should be SOMETHING that's just for us singles.

Married people can't have everything.

It just isn't right.



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hahaha this made me laugh. You are so funny.
 
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