If you’re planning to go on a date with someone special, who should pay for it?

In a post #metoo climate I might agree with both Dino and the friends of Jewel's. Women today is earning the same as men. I guess I would end up earning the same or more than my date if I ever went on one.

Last date I had, I paid for the most. It was perhaps not fair, because I paid for the traveling there and the hotel I stayed at. Sometimes when a person looks filled with self pity, it is better to just pay and get on with it. That said, I have never seen that person again. I think the lack of initiative and not taking the responsibility to at least plan things (like checking the time the Opera started, not finding it out ten minutes before the curtains were lifted by accident) properly, his whole persona and the way he dressed... everything shouted a big NOOOO!

So yes. I stepped up, but it was also a big disappointment.

With my ex husband, I don't remember how we did it, but I remember that he hardly ever had money, so I guess I paid that time as well. Otherwise I haven't really been on a date.

If I now, in 2018, am going on a date, I think I might expect to pay half, and I might pay for the whole thing, saying he can pay for the next one. I have a good job, I am not a princess and will most likely be working after I might get married. It is wrong to claim equal rights at work or in society and then be a spoiled princess at a date and refuse to pay.

Maybe they asked to split because they had no intention of a second date either. I've heard complaints from guys that it gets old paying for dinner for woman after woman that nothing ever happens between them.

I believe in being a man and paying, but it would kinda be fun if a woman I had a liking for, but didn't tell her, came after me. It would be fun to be stalked, I mean, pursued a bit. Just see how it feels.

No one passes on a second date with SMD, it's a law of nature.

I'm trying to remember how it all went in my 1st relationship. I wanna say he paid? but after we were officially a couple, once again, we took turns for the most part. after a bit, I paid for most dates because he had financial struggles. we were both college kids, but I had a full scholarship with money left over while he worked hard to pay his education.

between my 1st and 2nd relationship, there was a span of 5 years. in those 5 years, I didn't date cuz no one asked me out lol. I remember getting coffee with guy friends. each dude offered to pay. but it was just a friend deal.

one time, a group of us went to dinner. in the group, it was 2 guys and 3 girls. the other girls didn't have funds for dinner, so before heading towards the restaurant, the guys said they would pay for them, and of course, I was going to pay for myself because I had funds. after the meal, the guys went to pay, and they said, "Melita! don't worry! we got you." I honestly was taken back a bit. it wasn't something I was used to.

The deal with the man paying ain’t got nothing to do with financial stuff. The whole thing is that he’s displaying his ability to be the leader and take care of things.

If he doesn’t want to pay when on a date, he probably can’t take the lead in a relationship either.

Maybe I'm a bit on the old fashioned side of things, but I have never had a meal out (date or not) with a person of the female persuasion that I didn't pick up the tab.

I used to work as wedding co-ordiator and photographer on the strip in vegas, some of my female freinds worked part time wtth me and part time at places like the Mirage taking photos of people just having a ball. Someone would flip them $50 or 100 tip, ring 'hey Bob ya wanna go out after work? I'll pick you up at 2 or 3 am and we'll have a ball I would always pick quiet little joints like I've descrined that don't cost much where the food is gormet and taxi drivers, show girls, janitors and bartenders and thiefs really eat. A nice place off the strip dinner for 2 with a bottle of house wine $50 bucks if I had the dough i'd pay half If invited but if I invited or asked a lady on a date, it would be on me. I don't trip on masculity or who's the boss any more, fair is fair. I wouldn't take a lady to a place I can't afford any more than I'd expect her to take to one. i am not a prostitute and I don't date prostitutes. Nuff said?

As per the OP, it’s a mutual agreement between the two to meet. Yes it’s the first date.

A rare species indeed.

I would like for the man to pay BUT I’m also open to paying for him as well.

My only first date, he paid for everything. I was blessed.

I am part of that species.. I always pay for her (unless she threatens to hurt me if I don't let her... and it did happened a few times, but not because of anything I did... she just had her principles )

I think that’s nice of her to consider you as well. I’d probably do the same, except not “threaten” him 😂

She was only kidding. But it worked!

Did you go halves then?

Zero? Are you out there dating? Good for you!

Yes.

No, that was a long time ago in a galaxy far far away.

Never too late 👍🏽