If You Have Someone In the Friend Zone, Why Are You Keeping Them There?

I think clarity is important, especially among Christians. I mean if someone is really "throwing his bones" (an expression used in my part of the world, that means "working his charm" - think of a "witch doctor" analogy here...), in the hope that he will somehow win her over and she KNOWS that its not working then she should say, "Look this is not going to happen." Its hard telling someone that you are not keen on a relationship, mainly because its a really awkward conversation, but I think its harder for the person to keep hoping when you know that he/she may as well be trying to grow brussel spouts on Mars. Besides the conversation doesn't have to be that awkward: one can say something like, "I will have to warn your future GF about your irritating slurping sound when you drink coffee!" or something...erm.... more tactful.

And if you have worked out that you are friend-zoned, then its time to cut your losses and decide whether or not you want to remain friends while you start behaving like you've got options.

I think that when considering a future partner ,one has to be on the same page intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, theologically and politically.Or at least a combination of 3 or more of those areas.
People who have been interested in me have been friendzoned after I have discovered that we would not see eye to eye on crucial matters.For example ,if someone does not subscribe to my flavour of Christianity - to me that's a deal breaker because I consider my spirituality to be the most important thing about me.And if we are going to take this journey together - I want to be able to share what I consider to be of inestimable worth.
We also need a common reference point - and if his interpretation of scripture is vastly different to my own - we are going to be at loggerheads.
So there have been times I have been drawn to someone on an emotional level - but was forced to friend zone them because of differences that could not be avoided.

Hey Everyone,

Forget "The Twilight Zone".

As singles, the most mysterious place in the universe to us is "The Friend Zone".

* If you have a friend that you're keeping in The Friend Zone, why are you keeping them there?

* What is it about this person that makes them good enough to be a friend, but doesn't quite qualify as "more than a friend'?

* Do you have anyone that you Friend Zoned in the past, but have come to regret it?

* On the flipside, how do you react when someone "Friend Zones" you? Do you tend to accept it, or do you keep working at trying to win the person's affections?

As far as friend zoning goes, i'm like the free range chicken. The grass is green and there's plenty of bugs to eat but at the end of the day I'm going to end up on somebody's plate.

I have no idea what that means. I've been reading mother earth magazine. I think I'm genetically modified.

Looking back over dating history I really wish I followed a tighter Christian process in dating where I put everybody in a friend zone at the beginning and as the friendship grew (I learned true character and the soul of the person) I could decide if we were more compatible for a deeper relationship.

Sadly, I entered a few dating relationships where I decided to date this person because they were attractive, went to church (so they "must" have faith insert eye roll here), and appeared to be ambitious etc. Only to find out later they played/danced on the surface of public images. Older and wiser I guess I realized the only way to get to know the truth is through time and "dating" while doing so is problematic. Your vision gets skewed in process or at least mine did.

Probably not popular but I am a fan of the friend zone. Explains why I haven't dated in forever and a day LOL.