Real life has a way of challenging our theories and theologies. I dont think we can truly follow the greatest commandment unless we learn to think outside our current paradigms.
I don't think Christians should be thinking outside of the Truth of Scripture, and I don't think they should pretend it does not say what it says just to keep from hurting someone's feelings. The Greatest Commandment is to love God. If we deny the Truth of Scripture, how is that loving God?
I could ignore what Scripture says and be super nice to this person, and tell them "gee, that's ok, no worries, just as long as you have a good heart it'll all be swell."
Or, I could tell them the truth.
Come the day they stand before the Judgement Seat, which do you suspect will serve them best?
You know, it takes as much love to say "NO" as it does to say "Yes."
Jesus is love, perfect love, but He didn't pull any punches either.....soooooo