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Subhumanoidal

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I regret my friends deleting facebook. Now I can't talk to them or see how they're doing. They basically cut me out of their lives without warning. They may have done it to improve their lives but don't seem to care how it's affected my life or our relationship.
I would think so. How can they improve their lives if they spend their time focused on you and others?
And if they so easily cut you out of their life without warning then take a guess how much you meant to them to begin with. If your only connection to them was Facebook I can't imagine there was any real impact on your life to begin with. It certainly wasn't an impact in their life or they would have opened other doors for you to stay in contact. Or yet they would have already had other ways of contact established long beforehand.

And really that is the nature of internet friendships. At the end of the day you are secondary. Non-essential. The number of 'friends' I've known online that simply quit being online all the time and just disappeared i can't even count.

If i ever delete Facebook I'll contact those i want to keep in touch with and that's that. I'm not going to cling to something I've moved beyond because people that don't hold great value to me might be bothered.
 
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I would think so. How can they improve their lives if they spend their time focused on you and others?
And if they so easily cut you out of their life without warning then take a guess how much you meant to them to begin with. If your only connection to them was Facebook I can't imagine there was any real impact on your life to begin with. It certainly wasn't an impact in their life or they would have opened other doors for you to stay in contact. Or yet they would have already had other ways of contact established long beforehand.

And really that is the nature of internet friendships. At the end of the day you are secondary. Non-essential. The number of 'friends' I've known online that simply quit being online all the time and just disappeared i can't even count.

If i ever delete Facebook I'll contact those i want to keep in touch with and that's that. I'm not going to cling to something I've moved beyond because people that don't hold great value to me might be bothered.
You sure are judgemental of my friends of whom you know nothing. They weren't internet friends, they were best friends who moved away and were going through hard times which drove them to delete their facebook accounts. Geez, jerk.
 

Subhumanoidal

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You sure are judgemental of my friends of whom you know nothing. They weren't internet friends, they were best friends who moved away and were going through hard times which drove them to delete their facebook accounts. Geez, jerk.
Regardless they left you behind, apparently. Call me names all you want it doesn't change the fact that they ditched you and moved on. I don't need to know more than that.
Nor did I judge them. Stating their actions, and even supporting their actions, makes me judgmental of them? I think you need to grab a dictionary and look that word up.
 

Mii

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Perhaps consider having an away message like a voicemail on FB?

They are changing it today actually and I don't care for learning a new format at present, but at the same time it's sort of stagnated regarding its "place" in my life so perhaps leaving it for a while would be a good thing.

Just recently I've had some pretty decent discussion and yet I still want to take a long break. People have helped me in a rough situation through it and I have helped them but I think these are exceptions rather than the rule. Exceptions should be VERY cautiously factored in when considering priorities in life.

I even took a break once when I was out of town and went to the library just to check in and found out that one of my best friends at the time was getting married and his wedding was in the next two days. Had I not logged in, I would not of known and he was quite grateful I came (it was a small gathering). Then again though, thinking about what happened years later I can't put any importance to finding out that way. It's true that I wouldn't have known but I've also had chance encounters with people many times in life gaining a choice bit of information offline.


You could type text for your cover photo (I once just put "cover photo") or perhaps write a comment on your profile picture if anyone ends up clicking that. Consider having your address as a P.O box and your phone number you could have a forwarding service set up. That way if anyone "really" felt a burden or "really" wanted to get in touch with you they could do so. If someone has access to the internet they have access to a phone. If they don't have an actual "cellphone" there are plenty of free calling websites. You could also leave a FB messenger app on your phone for whenever a person "calls" via FB messenger. If it's urgent and they really need to talk to someone, they will most likely consider this option vs a message you may or may not ever see.

It is difficult to cut ties with something when you have a line open "on the off chance" and I get that. I'm in the same position myself. Pray about it.

I can't properly explain the construct of social media right now...it has a use, but that doesn't mean it's "useful". Many oddments in a junk drawer have a use and to some they may be useful, but for you it may be time to clean out that drawer.
 

SoulWeaver

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Never really used it to begin with. Tried it out to see what was all the fuss about, still have account but don't ever log in. Never found it appealing. People mostly share meaningless things like what they had for lunch anyway.
Friends who kept their accounts tell me that I do well for not using it and how meaningless it is, but they still use it. I guess it's a sort of addiction. It's how it's designed to be. I made an Instagram account since they kept nudging me to do it because of funny memes, I made it and again it wasn't all that interesting, I don't log in there either. And never used Twitter. What for? To get doxed, harassed by millions if I get retweeted by the wrong person, get life destroyed or maybe killed, just because someone didn't like something I said or if someone misinterpreted my joke?
 

Lanolin

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I dont use instagram, twitter or linkedin. Linkedin was just annoying and useless.

I think facebook has more practical applications than the others. You can use the messenger and put videos on it which you cant do with the others.

Most people are now using Whatsapp over FB messenger. I used to use msn messenger (remember hotmail?) till it got spammed. Im sure you'll find something else to communicate with people if you dont use FB. You need to be quite savvy at FB and limit the amount of 'friends' on it for it to be useful. If you join groups, they need to be ones you actively particpate in otherwise you are just going to be overwhelmed with useless posts.

google plus tried to do the facebook thing but it didnt really work. Please dont stress out about FB if its causing that much anxiety, best to drop it. Originally it was made be like an electronic yearbook for Harvard graduates. The 'old boys network' in other words, just online. Well lots of people dont really keep in touch with all their graduate friends unless they were part of a clique, in nz anyway its not a big thing as it is in the US, where they have sororities and fraternities.

apprently if you dont join them and you dont get into these exclusive groups, you have no friends, but you know there IS life beyond those silly 'popular' cliques that form in schools.
 

Magenta

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Many, many moons ago, while I was visiting my family in another province, my mother offered me the full contents of a box of photographs, some of which predated my parents' wedding, and included all the pictures of my siblings as they were babies to growing up. She basically said, "Take what you want and leave the rest," and so I did. Quite a few years after that, when my mother passed away, I was a member on Facebook simply to share some of those pictures with my siblings who are thousands of miles away. Back in those days, you were not allowed to delete your account, so at some point, due to privacy concerns, I shut it down as much as possible and never returned.

 

true_believer

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Facebook is just supposed to be entertainment. But many use it to go on senseless diatribes, share TMI and needlessly attack others.
I used to have well over 200 "friends". Last year I decided to only keep close lifelong friends and a sibling on my profile and now I have less than ten "friends". Now there's so much less drama to contend with.
 

Tararose

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I joined here recently and have been a member on another site - 101christiansocialnetwork.com - for a while now. The downside is I don’t actually know anyone personally on either site, but the upside is the posts are mostly better for keeping my mind focused on the things of God and frequently Engaging in some level of fellowship
(hopefully this benefits others as well as myself.)
The upside of fb though is that although not many would like my Christian posts on fb, I noticed when I posted something like a silly meme or cute picture, lots of likes From unbelieving contacts came almost immediately. I realised this means people were watching my feed - despite Not acknowledging spiritual posts They were still seeing them so seeds were being sown no matter the outcome.

For this reason I leave fb open and occasionally I post something to (Hopefully) make people think on Christ and the gospel. I don’t overdo it though as people would just unfollow my feed, no one wants to be bombarded.

I think if you can use fb wisely then do so, if it is a stumbling block and a distraction then delete it. Whatever you can reasonably do that doesn’t cause you to be drawn away from God, and that serves to edify others and bring glory to God in your life is the best way forward for you. It’s a personal thing.
 

Tararose

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Facebook is just supposed to be entertainment. But many use it to go on senseless diatribes, share TMI and needlessly attack others.
I used to have well over 200 "friends". Last year I decided to only keep close lifelong friends and a sibling on my profile and now I have less than ten "friends". Now there's so much less drama to contend with.
I hate all that, But to some extent I find that It happens here too. Wherever there are people there are problems lol that is why we have to bear with one another in love. :)
 

true_believer

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I hate all that, But to some extent I find that It happens here too. Wherever there are people there are problems lol that is why we have to bear with one another in love. :)
It's no one's responsibility to bear drama kings or queens.
 

Lanolin

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I think forums are better because its about discussion, not peoples profiles and statuses and 'news' (gossip)

but you also get some people sharing tmi and silly diatribes on here too. They are just people you've never met before though.

Im like, but, why are you personally attacking and judging me? Do I even know you? lol
 
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TheIndianGirl

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Is anyone deleting Facebook in light of recent events?
 

rosa

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I am considering deleting Facebook. My best friends have either deleted Facebook or are inactive. So it looks like I'm peeking into the lives of people I'm not close to any longer. I do not post often but when I do, people do not comment or "like" my posts. The people who wish me Happy Birthday are not close but I do like the messages.

Anyone regret deleting Facebook?

While I do not keep in touch with many people there I would like to know how certain people are doing. I also have a few people there where we parted in a bad way, but sometimes I have some hope we may reconnect, however because of the way life is we probably will not. I will also lose touch with distant relatives, I do not have their contact info otherwise.

I want to delete so I can "move on" but also feel I'm cutting off people for good. One of my high school best friends connected with me after years on FB this summer; she would have been unable to otherwise. Regardless we are not close anymore.

I have a few friends from the church on FB who I have communicated with, a few others I don't know but they are nice..., but I don't like the guy CEO MZ is an antichrist, so I just requested them to delete my page. They said it will take them 30 days then it would be deleted, now I am here....I feel SAD because I have Christian friends and good friends there! .... regret NO. Being there is like supporting a website whose founder is NOT for GOD, M.Z has put a lot of money to swing states to cause election fraud. M.Z betrays the U.S and Israel even though he was raised in modern Judaism.