How do husbands feel about male gynecologists?

[Stephen100]

If you are a husband, how would you feel about your wife being examined by a male gynecologist? Would you prefer her to see a female doctor for personal exams? How do you feel about this?

 

[MissCris]

I asked my husband this question. His response:

"I want you to see a doctor you trust to give you the best care, one who doesn't prescribe a pill for every little thing, and who you feel comfortable with. If that's a man, alright. If it's a woman, alright. It's whatever."

 

[Stephen100]

I asked my husband this question. His response:

"I want you to see a doctor you trust to give you the best care, one who doesn't prescribe a pill for every little thing, and who you feel comfortable with. If that's a man, alright. If it's a woman, alright. It's whatever."

It's good that you asked your husband. I personally believe women should see female doctors for personal exams. I'm just interested in other people's opinion.

 

[Meshullam]

Guess it depends on the women.

I don't have an opinion on the matter, cause I don't have a vagina. A lot of women prefer female gynecologists because pelvic exams are known to give people orgasms and they'd feel more comfortable with a woman. But then some feel more comfortable with a man. Depends.

Why do you think they should see female doctors?

 

[Stephen100]

Guess it depends on the women.

I don't have an opinion on the matter, cause I don't have a vagina. A lot of women prefer female gynecologists because pelvic exams are known to give people orgasms and they'd feel more comfortable with a woman. But then some feel more comfortable with a man. Depends.

Why do you think they should see female doctors?

Because I know of people who know male doctors personally and they have said that their doctor friend, behind closed doors, admitted to them that they often get a thrill examining attractive women. I also know as a man that a doctor is a man first and job second. I wouldn't want another male shoving his face in my wife's private area. Anyway, in Biblical times I think it was custom for women to see midwives for personal exams.

 

[Meshullam]

Because I know of people who know male doctors personally and they have said that their doctor friend, behind closed doors, admitted to them that they often get a thrill examining attractive women. I also know as a man that a doctor is a man first and job second. I wouldn't want another male shoving his face in my wife's private area. Anyway, in Biblical times I think it was custom for women to see midwives for personal exams.

Of course they would, the same way a woman would from examining a hunky males' genitalia.

And to be frank, I wouldn't be surprised if women get a kick from being examined by an attractive man once the initial embarrassment wears off.

 

[Meshullam]

But would you let it bother you that much?

Way I see it if she's gonna do it she's gonna do it. Her choice.

 

[Stephen100]

Of course they would, the same way a woman would from examining a hunky males' genitalia.

And to be frank, I wouldn't be surprised if women get a kick from being examined by an attractive man once the initial embarrassment wears off.

Yes, some do. I've come across plenty of women who say it's a turn on. Most women hate it, but some enjoy it. But this is why I would never want my wife seeing a male doctor for these exams. I believe in modesty, especially when it's with the opposite sex that you're not married to.

 

[MissCris]

This...wow. I shouldn't have set foot into this thread.

 

[hattiebod]

Of course they would, the same way a woman would from examining a hunky males' genitalia.

And to be frank, I wouldn't be surprised if women get a kick from being examined by an attractive man once the initial embarrassment wears off.

I think we need to put some myths to bed.... In all my years as a midwife, I never witnessed any 'un-toward' behaviour. When a woman is giving birth, being examined etc by an Ob/Gynae its for a specific medical purpose. She is not their for sexual intimacy. Yes, there may be some....we know there are some doctors, who do take advantage and its a criminal offence. End of. The danger that this OP raises could take some people down a radical and dangerous path. In some countries today women are not allowed to speak on the radio, in some countries women are not allowed out the home unless accompanied by a man, not allowed to drive, be educated. In some countries women are denied adequate medical care and attention for exactly the reason and that they cannot be seen by a man and of course.....there are no women doctors FOR the very same reason!!! These countries / religions prohibit a woman from working outside the home etc, accessing such education. We need to be sensible...not fundemental <><

 

[Stephen100]

I think we need to put some myths to bed.... In all my years as a midwife, I never witnessed any 'un-toward' behaviour. When a woman is giving birth, being examined etc by an Ob/Gynae its for a specific medical purpose. She is not their for sexual intimacy. Yes, there may be some....we know there are some doctors, who do take advantage and its a criminal offence. End of. The danger that this OP raises could take some people down a radical and dangerous path. In some countries today women are not allowed to speak on the radio, in some countries women are not allowed out the home unless accompanied by a man, not allowed to drive, be educated. In some countries women are denied adequate medical care and attention for exactly the reason and that they cannot be seen by a man and of course.....there are no women doctors FOR the very same reason!!! These countries / religions prohibit a woman from working outside the home etc, accessing such education. We need to be sensible...not fundemental <><

I think you're missing the point. The point is that it can be very tormenting for a husband whose wife sees a male doctor for personal exams. I'm not suggesting that women should never see a male doctor, I'm just saying that I think it's best that female doctors examine women for intimate exams.

 

[Fenner]

I used to see a male obgyn, there was no thrill for either of us. I didn't change doctors because he's a man, i switched because he was kind of a jerk. But my husband didn't care, nor would I care if he had a female doctor. As long as everyone is professional and you trust your spouse, it is not a big deal.

 

[Meshullam]

I think we need to put some myths to bed.... In all my years as a midwife, I never witnessed any 'un-toward' behaviour. When a woman is giving birth, being examined etc by an Ob/Gynae its for a specific medical purpose. She is not their for sexual intimacy. Yes, there may be some....we know there are some doctors, who do take advantage and its a criminal offence. End of. The danger that this OP raises could take some people down a radical and dangerous path. In some countries today women are not allowed to speak on the radio, in some countries women are not allowed out the home unless accompanied by a man, not allowed to drive, be educated. In some countries women are denied adequate medical care and attention for exactly the reason and that they cannot be seen by a man and of course.....there are no women doctors FOR the very same reason!!! These countries / religions prohibit a woman from working outside the home etc, accessing such education. We need to be sensible...not fundemental <><

Nice to hear from a medical professional.

Sex is one of those things though, everything that's 'to do with it', can easily cause a response that's 'to do with it'. Y'know?

lol I don't think there's a man on earth that gets turned on by a woman giving birth, but what the OP's saying is that for both the examiner and the examinee of a pelvic exam, it can become a bit overly 'sexual' and stimulating, in a way that he isn't comfortable with. Particularly when pelvic exams tend to cause orgasms.

Personally I think most men who become gynecologists, well, it just comes across as a bit pervy for me, and right enough, I'd agree with the OP that a lot of these men would get a big thrill from this kind of thing, particularly when a young, attractive woman walks in.

But my point is, if a woman gets a thrill from that, wife or no-wife, there isn't a terrible lot of say that I have in it. So my perspective is; put it out of the mind.

I mean, let's face it, no woman, or in fact no man, on the inside, is never attracted to another person, or led by thoughts as such, even if it's just into having a peek or a sneaky look.

People hide the true extent of their sexuality too much, imo.

I'm not saying 'be overly sexual', but what I am saying is, be realistic about it.

 

[Fenner]

I forgot to add when I was examined by a man there was a female nurse present in the room.

 

[hattiebod]

I think you're missing the point. The point is that it can be very tormenting for a husband whose wife sees a male doctor for personal exams. I'm not suggesting that women should never see a male doctor, I'm just saying that I think it's best that female doctors examine women for intimate exams.

Thank you, i know you are maybe not but believe me, i have seen it happen and the tradgedy that then ensues. I did read the posts and I do get the point. For the very reason you write is for some men the justification due to their religious beliefs and inner 'torment' is to prohibit their wives, mothers, sisters, aunts, from accessing adequate medical care, even at the most basic level. I am just suggesting we need to be aware of such potential fundamentalism, that it is a slippery and dangerous slope leading to a catch 22 situation for women. <><

 

[Meshullam]

Thank you, i know you are maybe not but believe me, i have seen it happen and the tradgedy that then ensues. I did read the posts and I do get the point. For the very reason you write is for some men the justification due to their religious beliefs and inner 'torment' is to prohibit their wives, mothers, sisters, aunts, from accessing adequate medical care, even at the most basic level. I am just suggesting we need to be aware of such potential fundamentalism, that it is a slippery and dangerous slope leading to a catch 22 situation for women. <><

I totally agree.

But there is this line in our society where women think they have the right to do whatever they like, mess with feelings, have no consideration, and act promiscuous to the extreme, where the man is left with no option but to buckle and give up himself to her whims, because our society teaches that women are weaker and are practically due whatever they like; like princesses.

There is a line.

I mean, the great medium is for the OP's wife to ask why it bothers him, to understand, and to take it in without meanness or mockery, or ridicule, and if she's a compassionate understanding wife, she'll make the choice to see a female doctor.

Let's look at the flip side;

If men had to get exams on their orgasm button every few months and it was a woman carrying it out, wouldn't the man's spouse feel a little intimidated and uncomfortable?

I don't think he's making an unfair request, but at the end of the day it's up to his wife.

 

[Meshullam]

I mean, a lot of us guys spend our lives being fooled by women and having sugar sprinkled over the top of things so .. tbf I don't see any reason why a modern young woman would want a male gynecologist other than that she finds it exciting in some form, considering our society allows a woman to ask for a female doctor and be granted one at any time for such exams ...

But that's imo.

still, if it was my girlfriend or partner I wouldn't have much say in it anyway, for said reasons and the fact, I ain't her boss.

But then, sex and relationships .. eughgh .. I won't have a wife until I find a girl that doesn't want to coat things in sugar but still comes across sweet as roses.

 

[Stephen100]

I totally agree.

But there is this line in our society where women think they have the right to do whatever they like, mess with feelings, have no consideration, and act promiscuous to the extreme, where the man is left with no option but to buckle and give up himself to her whims, because our society teaches that women are weaker and are practically due whatever they like; like princesses.

There is a line.

I mean, the great medium is for the OP's wife to ask why it bothers him, to understand, and to take it in without meanness or mockery, or ridicule, and if she's a compassionate understanding wife, she'll make the choice to see a female doctor.

Let's look at the flip side;

If men had to get exams on their orgasm button every few months and it was a woman carrying it out, wouldn't the man's spouse feel a little intimidated and uncomfortable?

I don't think he's making an unfair request, but at the end of the day it's up to his wife.

I'm not married. I'm just saying if I was. But the truth is, wives are told to submit to their husbands. If I, as a husband, didn't want my wife seeing a male gynecologist if there were females ones available, I feel I have the God given right as a husband to tell my wife to see a female doctor. It's not like I'm telling my wife to never see a male doctor ever again. All I ask of my wife is that she does not allow another man with a medical licence to shove his face in her private area. Is that too much to ask for?

 

[Meshullam]

I'm not married. I'm just saying if I was. But the truth is, wives are told to submit to their husbands. If I, as a husband, didn't want my wife seeing a male gynecologist if there were females ones available, I feel I have the God given right as a husband to tell my wife to see a female doctor. It's not like I'm telling my wife to never see a male doctor ever again. All I ask of my wife is that she does not allow another man with a medical licence to shove his face in her private area. Is that too much to ask for?

No it isn't.

But our society, as I say, treats women like fragile, unknowing, ignorant little creatures that don't know any better, at least as far as men are concerned. We're supposed to give em what they want.

let me tell ya buddy, Eve didn't come up to Adam and say;

'Hey Adam. God told me not to eat this apple, but I decided to do it anyway cause I thought I knew better. It's made me see all this crazy stuff I didn't know before, and I'm gonna die. If you eat it too, you'll die. Wann try?'

She handed it to him and he ate it lol.

we'll do practically whatever a woman wants to keep them around even if it means compromising on our beliefs.

Cause if we don't, what are we? Fragile, insecure, or oppressive.

 

[Meshullam]

That's why I'm saying, the day I find a woman who doesn't give a toss about society's preconceptions, is the day I'll get married.