Playing Hard to Get

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Do you play hard to get?

  • Women: YES

    Votes: 6 16.7%

  • Women: NO

    Votes: 13 36.1%

  • Men: YES

    Votes: 3 8.3%

  • Men: NO

    Votes: 14 38.9%
  • Total voters
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See_KING_Truth

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I'm sure most of us are familiar with this phrase and probably have some experience with it. I have been on both sides of the fence. My questions are: What are peoples' motivation for doing so? Do men or women do this more often? (SEE POLL) How long is too long when it comes to playing hard to get? What are your thoughts?

Do you play hard to get?
- Why?
- For how long?

Have you ever had somebody play hard to get with you?
- How did you react?
- Did you play along? If so, How?
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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I think its important to show confidance. And it all depends on the person you're talking to. If its a shy person don't be so rough on them but being to "easy" makes it seems as if you don't have any self esteem and you'll just at the next thing that comes your way. As for those people who are "good lookin and know it" they need a reminder that they REALLY are just HUMAN and that people aren't going to just "fall at their feet" because they said hi. ^-^

There are also studies that say men are more attracted to girls who seem a bit mysterious but the ones that get another date are the ones who are warmer and more welcome during the first date. SOOO for girls, play hard to get when meeting and then be nice and friendly during the first date. ^_^
 
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zaoman32

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Aqua_Girl09 said:
I think its important to show confidance. And it all depends on the person you're talking to. If its a shy person don't be so rough on them but being to "easy" makes it seems as if you don't have any self esteem and you'll just at the next thing that comes your way. As for those people who are "good lookin and know it" they need a reminder that they REALLY are just HUMAN and that people aren't going to just "fall at their feet" because they said hi. ^-^

There are also studies that say men are more attracted to girls who seem a bit mysterious but the ones that get another date are the ones who are warmer and more welcome during the first date. SOOO for girls, play hard to get when meeting and then be nice and friendly during the first date. ^_^
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I am evidence to the contrary regarding this line...

I personally don't get the concept of hard to get. If you're not going to act interested, I'm not going to waste my time playing games...there are plenty of girls out there who wouldn't mind a piece of all this, and they're not afraid to swoon for it, I know, I've seen it happen.

I guess that could just be me, if you're seriously interested in someone for a relationship, you shouldn't waste time if you don't plan on it lasting forever, and playing games just seems silly for such a situation.
 
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libertygirl

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Catlynn

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I don't "play" hard to get, I AM hard to get. ;)

In all seriousness though, I have no problem showing or even telling someone that I'm interested in them. I do step back a bit and let them do the "pursuing" for the most part but a guy needs a bit of encouragement in the pursuit, I think! If you act like you could care less it seems to me that's quite dishonest and no basis for starting a healthy relationship. :/
 
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I don't "play" hard to get, I AM hard to get. ;)

In all seriousness though, I have no problem showing or even telling someone that I'm interested in them. I do step back a bit and let them do the "pursuing" for the most part but a guy needs a bit of encouragement in the pursuit, I think! If you act like you could care less it seems to me that's quite dishonest and no basis for starting a healthy relationship. :/[/quote]


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AAAPlus

AAAPlus

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Just by nature, if a girl likes a guy she will show some signs of interest. Some girls are more subtle than others, but even the most conservative girl will send completely readable signs that she's interested. Guys are generally a little more obvious, even when they are trying to hide their intentions. I'm not sure how many people are intentionally trying to "play games" in order to get someone interested. Maybe there are tons of people who do this...but if there are, they're pretty immature.

But yeah, if someone is just showing no signs that they're interested, they're just not interested. They aren't playing hard to get. If a delusional guy asks a girl out who clearly isn't showing signs of interest, he shouldn't be surprised when she reveals that she isn't interested. Likewise, when a guy isn't showing signs of interest, a girl shouldn't get upset when he doesn't ask her out.
 
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See_KING_Truth

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I'm not one to play games myself when it comes to relationships, however, I do like a good competition. If I get the hunch that a woman is playing hard to get, my competitive nature will compel me to try to beat her at her own game lol.
 
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Stuey

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Aug 17, 2009
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I hate these sort of games. If you don't show interest, I will stop pursuing. Be upfront, please.
 
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twofeet

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A friend had a dream about me once, concerned that I am a hard person to try and date. In the dream I was like sleeping beauty surrounded by huge thorn bushes. After telling me the dream she said " you really need to lower those defences". When she left I smiled to myself......" Didn't the thorns keep the time wasters away? And didn't the thorn bushes mean nothing to the right guy willing to cut his way through them?"
 
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Jullianna

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Not gonna lie. I’m hard to get and hard to handle. I don’t trust easily and don’t date for sport, so if a guy is truly interested, he needs to let me know that clearly. Otherwise, I’ll think he’s just another of the bazillion flirty guys on the planet.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I dont play hard to get because i cant stand games. However i am hard to get. I wont fall for some flirty guy who says some nice things that may sound good.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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I dunno... I was gonna answer the topic of the thread...

But I simply don't think it's working hard enough to get my attention, let alone an answer...:p

(By the way, Seeking, great topic!!!) ;)
 
hhhlga89

hhhlga89

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Apr 23, 2012
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I play easy to get if she's cute enough :)
 
Descyple

Descyple

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Jun 7, 2010
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I, too, am very easy to get. A woman just needs to walk up to me and shove a chocolate bar into my mouth, and I will propose to her right there on the spot!!!

So, do any women here on CC have a chocolate bar handy???
 
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Chrissy77

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I said yes but it isn't playing at all!! Any man that has tried to get close to me knows it is not an easy task and requires a lot of time and work. I am not "high maintenance" but I do take the time to see if a man is just talk or if what he says is truth. I feel if a man thinks I am worth something to him then he WILL take the time to get to know me and let me get to know him. If he doesn't, that is his choice along with his loss.:D

I want a TRUE man of God!! Not one who is just playing it for convenience sake.
 
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Chrissy77

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Catlynn said:
I don't "play" hard to get, I AM hard to get. ;)

In all seriousness though, I have no problem showing or even telling someone that I'm interested in them. I do step back a bit and let them do the "pursuing"
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This sounds just like me when I DO meet a guy I am interested in. Maybe I should be a bit more clear in my post. I don't mess around and act like I have no interest in a guy when I obviously do because that is not me. I am way too upfront for that. Once I am talking to a guy though it is not easy to get to know about me. That is the part that I play hard to get. I will not go all mushy on them and fall for a man until I am sure that they are still going to be there. I did that all mushy stuff fifteen years ago with someone who said he was a man God and would be with me for life. Eleven years later I was crying myself to sleep with nothing but my pillow to hug. If I have to spend the next 60 years alone, I will never let that happen again. Where God leads, I will follow.
 
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Chrissy77

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Descyple said:
I, too, am very easy to get. A woman just needs to walk up to me and shove a chocolate bar into my mouth, and I will propose to her right there on the spot!!!

So, do any women here on CC have a chocolate bar handy???
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Didn't someone post a huge chocolate bar in one of the other threads?
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Descyple said:
I, too, am very easy to get. A woman just needs to walk up to me and shove a chocolate bar into my mouth, and I will propose to her right there on the spot!!!

So, do any women here on CC have a chocolate bar handy???
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Descyple!! OOOHHH, the stories you tell. I recall an incidence with chocolate malted milk balls... and I received NO marriage proposal. HHHHMMMMPPPHHHH!!!! *storms off to the corner and waits*

Of course, perhaps he's just meaning a GENERAL proposal... such as, a proposal to ride carousel horses or a proposal to wash his car or a proposal to go to Walmart... We shall see.
 
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