Feeling Discouraged

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The few girls that don't think I'm a creep, stop talking to me after they find out I'm in the military. It's really discouraging. It also makes me wonder if its even worth waiting until marriage when it feels like I'll never find a girl that wants a serious relationship
 
A couple notes here.
I've lived near some military bases. Military guys don't seem to have any trouble finding women. Some women seek out military types even. I'm having a feeling that maybe things aren't working out for you because God see's you aren't ready.
You're only 19 and ready to compromise on God and His word because you can't get a girlfriend? That is not the mindset of a man who is ready to be the spiritual head of a family. How can you be so young, barely even legally able to get married, and already be so desperate and ready to compromise and think you're in any mental or spiritual state to lead a wife or children in their spiritual walks?

And you're joining the military, where you could be gone for months at a time. Whats the rush to marry, if you're only going to potentially be away from her for long stretches? Not saying you should never marry because of this, but to be in such a hurry under these circumstances makes no sense.

You seem desperate. Other people can pick up desperation and it is a huge turn off. I wouldn't mind being married, but i've met some women who seem desperate to be married and i can see right through that and want nothing to do with them. I often times don't even like being friends with them because there is always this unspoken pressure from them hoping you'll fall for them eventually.
Also that sense of desperation is bad because it can leave people feeling that they were picked because they were willing, not because they were special. No one wants to be with someone because no one else said yes.

My suggestion to you is stop worrying about marriage for now. Focus on your walk with God, on your military career and also use this time to learn what being a husband, the spiritual head, and if you want kids, a father, really means. Don't just assume you know. Take the time to learn it. Study the bible on these topics, talk to happy married couples, find what works for them. Talk to divorced people to find out what mistakes to avoid. Because based off your post you're no where near the mental or spiritual state for marriage now.
 
I'm not desperate for marriage, what I meant is; sex before marraige. Not even close man lol
 
ChristsWarrior said:
I'm not desperate for marriage, what I meant is; sex before marraige. Not even close man lol
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A man is committed to crucifying the flesh. If you can't control it now, what makes you think you'll be able to control it once you're married and overseas where your wife would never know how many foreign and strange women you boinked?

Learn to control it now.
 
There's no need to be discouraged, really. God's got ur back, and He has a BIG plan for ur life, just be patient and wait on Him... I understand, that through the mist of our troubles, it's hard to c the path that we started walking in, but God will clear the way, when He wants, how He wants, because He is the Sovereign Lord... He does as He please, don't worry and give all your worries over to Him, 'cause He cares... [ 1 Peter 5:7 ]
God bless u.
From a young servant of God...:)
 
I had that problem when at 21 but i had a girlfreind and i was trying to restrain form sexual intimacy because we werent married, I asked my christian coworker my problem, he said whatever you do will show much how devotion you have towards God. Your young brother, Its good to start being devoted at a young age, just Believe that you are the righteousness of God in Christ.
 
ChristsWarrior said:
The few girls that don't think I'm a creep, stop talking to me after they find out I'm in the military. It's really discouraging. It also makes me wonder if its even worth waiting until marriage when it feels like I'll never find a girl that wants a serious relationship
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It must be the town you are in or something because from what I've seen women are usually attracted to guys in the military. Its usually a plus, not a negative.
 
IDK where you're at but i think being in the military is one of the hottest things, besides being a man of God. I'd love to date a military guy.Keep looking. I promise you'll find someone worth having. ^_^
 
Hi,
My name is Amy. Its really sad to hear what you're going through.. the girls you are talking about are not respectful because first of all, you are a human being, and not only that, you fight for their well being.. I highly respect military men and women for everything they have done. Do not be discouraged, because it may not be the time that God wants you to be in a serious relationship.. God is one way or another leading you towards that special person you will one day meet and spend the rest of your life with.. leave it all in the hands of God, and He will lead you.. whenever you want to talk, Im here :)
 
ChristsWarrior said:
The few girls that don't think I'm a creep, stop talking to me after they find out I'm in the military. It's really discouraging. It also makes me wonder if its even worth waiting until marriage when it feels like I'll never find a girl that wants a serious relationship
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In life, we as christians, especially young people, experience different moments in our lives. I'm pretty young, so I'm not to sure about this girl problem, but when a brother is in need of some help, I'm here to encourage. My encouragement for you is to give it up to God. " Give all your cares and worries to God, for He cares about you." -1 Peter 5:7. You're going through a lot, but God has a BIG plan for your life. He'll give youthe right person, He'll fight all your battles for you, just be calm and give all your worries to Him. "The Lord himself will fight for you, Just stay calm." -Exodus 14:14, He loves you, so don't worry about anything. :) God bless you brother in Christ and I'll keep you in my prayers.
 
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