Let's Have a Very Controversial Conversation About: Haircuts! Do You Want Your Barber/Hairdresser to Talk to You the Whole Time?

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Hey Everyone,

I enjoy listening to a few social commentary channels on YouTube, and one of the latest topics has been about barber shops. The first wave of commentary was about how some barbers are charging $100 a cut because they say their skills are worth it, with owners saying they were providing a first-rate, luxury experience at their shops.

Then came the inevitable fallout, with footage of now-empty shops. Former customers said there was no way they were paying that kind of money for a cut, and many men stated several reasons things they didn't like about "modern" barber shops.

Two things that stood out to me was when they said they didn't like having to make appointments (I guess traditional barber shops were mostly walk-in's?) As a woman, I've almost always made appointments for haircuts, unless I just stopped into a place like Supercuts on a whim. And the second thing was that some of the younger men said they didn't like barbers who talked during the entire cut. One young man said he had to listen to people yap all day, so he just wanted a barber to stay silent and cut his hair, plain and simple.

However, as the video host (a wise, middle-aged black man) pointed out, the chatter and camaraderie found at many traditional barber shops was an integral part of the whole social and cultural experience. It made sad to see this brand of community dying out.

And it also got me wondering what other people are doing about getting their hair cut.

I normally post "Let's Have a Controversial Conversation" threads in the Family Forum, and while everyone is welcome to answer this thread, I'm especially interested in what singles think about getting their hair cut.

For many of us singles, this is the only times another human being has physical contact with us. And no, I'm certainly not trying to make this into something weird or perverse, but I know for me, it can feel very strange to have someone get close enough to touch my hair -- which is why I prefer to keep going back to a hairdresser I'm comfortable with.

I always choose to go to a female hairdresser. I did go to a Supercuts-type place and was given a male hairdresser years ago, and it felt strange. Not because I somehow don't trust men and definitely not because I don't like men (some of my best friends are men!), but touching my hair feels very personal, and so I have a "regular" gal that I go to. Because I've gotten to know and trust her, I now find getting my hair washed and cut to be very relaxing.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Maybe it's just me. But does anyone else find getting their hair done a little a little bit uncomfortable, because it's close contact you're not used to?

And since haircuts have become outrageously expensive, I'm really interested in hearing what other people are doing.

* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

Getting our hair done can seem like a rather mundane part of life -- but I'm very interested in the different experiences, costs, and opinions people have about how it should go. 💈💇🏼‍♂️🪮
 
Hmm... I just take some powered clippers and buzz cut my hair.

But when I did go to a barber, I never really cared. Man, woman, talkative, reticent, whatever. I can hold up my end of a conversation, or I can think about stuff on my own.
 
I hope I won't upset anyone for saying this, but I've always wanted to visit -- and perhaps become a regular -- at a black barbershop. I'm talking the real, genuine, cool kind I've (unfortunately) only seen in movies and on TV.

Forget clubs and bars -- as a kid, the barbershops, at least in the entertainment I saw -- always looked like the happenin' place to be!

I always thought that all the banter, with people all knowing each other and acting like brothers and cousins, just seemed so cool, and like such a genuine, family-typed atmosphere.

Now I realize this is a bit of a stereotype -- but if anyone has stories from real barbershops -- and can either confirm or deny that their experiences were anything like the movies and shows, I would really love to know! :D
 
I had a hairdresser who did my hair exactly as I had envisioned. I was so happy with it I would've paid whatever price she asked and planned on keeping her forever and ever. I even made note of her name and have not forgotten it even now, 40 years later. She really didn't say very much at all as she washed, conditioned, cut, wrapped, rinsed, dried, and styled my hair, but that she listened and understood how I wanted my hair to look was the most lovable thing she could have ever 'said.' Unfortunately, I don't know where she went to after that, as she was also in her last week(s?) of pregnancy at the time and wasn't there anymore the next time I asked after her. Come to think of it, she had taken my walk-in and no one else was in the shop...and I wonder if she was actually just an angel. Her name was Calissa, which means "beautiful one" and may be linked to the Hebrew root "kal" for "light" or "to shine." :unsure::giggle:
 
Hey Everyone,

I enjoy listening to a few social commentary channels on YouTube, and one of the latest topics has been about barber shops. The first wave of commentary was about how some barbers are charging $100 a cut because they say their skills are worth it, with owners saying they were providing a first-rate, luxury experience at their shops.

Then came the inevitable fallout, with footage of now-empty shops. Former customers said there was no way they were paying that kind of money for a cut, and many men stated several reasons things they didn't like about "modern" barber shops.

Two things that stood out to me was when they said they didn't like having to make appointments (I guess traditional barber shops were mostly walk-in's?) As a woman, I've almost always made appointments for haircuts, unless I just stopped into a place like Supercuts on a whim. And the second thing was that some of the younger men said they didn't like barbers who talked during the entire cut. One young man said he had to listen to people yap all day, so he just wanted a barber to stay silent and cut his hair, plain and simple.

However, as the video host (a wise, middle-aged black man) pointed out, the chatter and camaraderie found at many traditional barber shops was an integral part of the whole social and cultural experience. It made sad to see this brand of community dying out.

And it also got me wondering what other people are doing about getting their hair cut.

I normally post "Let's Have a Controversial Conversation" threads in the Family Forum, and while everyone is welcome to answer this thread, I'm especially interested in what singles think about getting their hair cut.

For many of us singles, this is the only times another human being has physical contact with us. And no, I'm certainly not trying to make this into something weird or perverse, but I know for me, it can feel very strange to have someone get close enough to touch my hair -- which is why I prefer to keep going back to a hairdresser I'm comfortable with.

I always choose to go to a female hairdresser. I did go to a Supercuts-type place and was given a male hairdresser years ago, and it felt strange. Not because I somehow don't trust men and definitely not because I don't like men (some of my best friends are men!), but touching my hair feels very personal, and so I have a "regular" gal that I go to. Because I've gotten to know and trust her, I now find getting my hair washed and cut to be very relaxing.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Maybe it's just me. But does anyone else find getting their hair done a little a little bit uncomfortable, because it's close contact you're not used to?

And since haircuts have become outrageously expensive, I'm really interested in hearing what other people are doing.

* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

Getting our hair done can seem like a rather mundane part of life -- but I'm very interested in the different experiences, costs, and opinions people have about how it should go. 💈💇🏼‍♂️🪮
I can have a conversation or not. I'm more concerned with getting a decent haircut. I've even had an opportunity to witness to a hairdresser.

As an aside, I detest the latest men's hairstyle that shaves the side of the head and leaves the hair on top. I suspect that men have watched too many war movies and want to look like marines. Ladies, what do you think?
 
I'm married, just to be clear. I cut my own hair, I have most of my life. Mainly the reason is that I don't trust them to do what I want. Much love!

Hi @markss, thank you very much for taking the time to post!

We have lots of married friends who post here in Singles, as it's kind of become the default place for hanging out.

Normally I post these threads in Family to make our married friends feel more comfortable, but for this subject, I was curious about the singles angle, but I'm very happy to see our married friends still posting.

Thanks for stopping by, and hope to see you again! :)
 
I had a hairdresser who did my hair exactly as I had envisioned. I was so happy with it I would've paid whatever price she asked and planned on keeping her forever and ever. I even made note of her name and have not forgotten it even now, 40 years later. She really didn't say very much at all as she washed, conditioned, cut, wrapped, rinsed, dried, and styled my hair, but that she listened and understood how I wanted my hair to look was the most lovable thing she could have ever 'said.' Unfortunately, I don't know where she went to after that, as she was also in her last week(s?) of pregnancy at the time and wasn't there anymore the next time I asked after her. Come to think of it, she had taken my walk-in and no one else was in the shop...and I wonder if she was actually just an angel. Her name was Calissa, which means "beautiful one" and may be linked to the Hebrew root "kal" for "light" or "to shine." :unsure::giggle:

Oh my goodness.

Our hair can really make or break our self-confidence, and while I try not to be picky, I know exactly what you mean.

I found a girl who did my hair for a few years, and then suddenly, she just wasn't there anymore. I think I'd even tried to tell her that if she went anywhere else, to tell me, because I would follow her there (this was long before cell phones.) I realize they most likely can't say due to competition (every time I ask someone, anyone, in a professional field to tell me where they're going... it seems they can't, unfortunately.)

I'm really thankful to have the phone number (or at least the one she uses for clients) of the girl I go to now, so I can contact her independently of the salon, dangling the carrot of hope in front of me that I can follow her if she leaves!

I know a woman who has been through a lot (especially when illness or cancer is involved, etc.) and has rather difficult hair, so I understand how means when a stylist can live up to what someone envisions.

This is why I worry about people in service industries like this -- God has TRULY gifted people in these fields and I want to see their businesses thriving.

I LOVE the thought of an angel doing your hair 💖, and I pray He will send you another one!
 
I've never had a professional haircut or style. I hate making appointments and paying people to mess up my hair, I can mess it up myself for free. My parents cut it when I was a kid and I've always cut it myself as an adult. However.....

One of our youth group girls is planning to attend cosmetology school so I told her I'd grow it extra long so she could have the practice. I will be her fourth victi... err.... "client".

It's looking kinda raggedy so probly gonna go down this Saturday..... yall pray for me! 🙏😬🙏

@Gideon300 I can't stand the shaved-sides-of-head-but-long-on-top look either, bleh!
 
I can have a conversation or not. I'm more concerned with getting a decent haircut. I've even had an opportunity to witness to a hairdresser.
As an aside, I detest the latest men's hairstyle that shaves the side of the head and leaves the hair on top. I suspect that men have watched too many war movies and want to look like marines. Ladies, what do you think?

It's awesome that you got to witness to your hairdresser! :) Many kudos to you, @Gideon300!

But I have to admit that I'm usually concentrating most on getting my hair done "right"! (Although I have been looking for opportunities to gently talk about beliefs with my hairdresser. I'm praying for a more natural conversation and not anything that sounds forced.)

As for modern men's haircuts... I can't say I'm particularly crazy that make men look like a stalk of broccoli...

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But I'm pretty open-minded when it comes to personal style.

My basic gist is that as long as it's clean, well-kept, and he likes it, well... I guess I can learn to adjust! :LOL:

Broccoli and all. :geek:
 
Oh my goodness.

Our hair can really make or break our self-confidence, and while I try not to be picky, I know exactly what you mean.

I found a girl who did my hair for a few years, and then suddenly, she just wasn't there anymore. I think I'd even tried to tell her that if she went anywhere else, to tell me, because I would follow her there (this was long before cell phones.) I realize they most likely can't say due to competition (every time I ask someone, anyone, in a professional field to tell me where they're going... it seems they can't, unfortunately.)

I'm really thankful to have the phone number (or at least the one she uses for clients) of the girl I go to now, so I can contact her independently of the salon, dangling the carrot of hope in front of me that I can follow her if she leaves!

I know a woman who has been through a lot (especially when illness or cancer is involved, etc.) and has rather difficult hair, so I understand how means when a stylist can live up to what someone envisions.

This is why I worry about people in service industries like this -- God has TRULY gifted people in these fields and I want to see their businesses thriving.

I LOVE the thought of an angel doing your hair 💖, and I pray He will send you another one!
Ever since, if I went to any stylist, I've come home and "fixed" it myself, so I haven't patronized any salons in quite some time. It a good thing, for some reason, I very closely noted Calissa's technique. :cool:
 
It's awesome that you got to witness to your hairdresser! :) Many kudos to you, @Gideon300!

But I have to admit that I'm usually concentrating most on getting my hair done "right"! (Although I have been looking for opportunities to gently talk about beliefs with my hairdresser. I'm praying for a more natural conversation and not anything that sounds forced.)

As for modern men's haircuts... I can't say I'm particularly crazy that make men look like a stalk of broccoli...

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But I'm pretty open-minded when it comes to personal style.

My basic gist is that as long as it's clean, well-kept, and he likes it, well... I guess I can learn to adjust! :LOL:

Broccoli and all. :geek:
I'm too old for that. It grates on me like fingernails on a blackboard (remember them?)
 
Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

The barber shop I go to has an old school look to it. I go in for the haircut and to listen to whatever the conversation is. It's a chance to relax for a moment.

There was a lady who used to cut my hair (she moved on) that I really liked visiting. I would go in, she would talk about random things, sometimes she would sass me a little. She enjoyed talking about her family. I miss the atmosphere of her shop.
 
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It's awesome that you got to witness to your hairdresser! :) Many kudos to you, @Gideon300!

But I have to admit that I'm usually concentrating most on getting my hair done "right"! (Although I have been looking for opportunities to gently talk about beliefs with my hairdresser. I'm praying for a more natural conversation and not anything that sounds forced.)

As for modern men's haircuts... I can't say I'm particularly crazy that make men look like a stalk of broccoli...

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But I'm pretty open-minded when it comes to personal style.

My basic gist is that as long as it's clean, well-kept, and he likes it, well... I guess I can learn to adjust! :LOL:

Broccoli and all. :geek:
Getting back to the opportunity to witness, kudos to Lord Jesus. There was a bit of banter going on about age. I was going to say my little joke about asking life's important questions. "Why am I here......... in the kitchen...... I came in here for something..." I did not get to the punchline. The hairdresser took me seriously. She said, "I've been asking that myself". That opened the door to say that I knew the answer, Jesus. That's the much abbreviated version.

It amazes me what Lord Jesus can use to create a way where there is none humanly speaking.
 
Hey Everyone,

I enjoy listening to a few social commentary channels on YouTube, and one of the latest topics has been about barber shops. The first wave of commentary was about how some barbers are charging $100 a cut because they say their skills are worth it, with owners saying they were providing a first-rate, luxury experience at their shops.

Then came the inevitable fallout, with footage of now-empty shops. Former customers said there was no way they were paying that kind of money for a cut, and many men stated several reasons things they didn't like about "modern" barber shops.

Two things that stood out to me was when they said they didn't like having to make appointments (I guess traditional barber shops were mostly walk-in's?) As a woman, I've almost always made appointments for haircuts, unless I just stopped into a place like Supercuts on a whim. And the second thing was that some of the younger men said they didn't like barbers who talked during the entire cut. One young man said he had to listen to people yap all day, so he just wanted a barber to stay silent and cut his hair, plain and simple.

However, as the video host (a wise, middle-aged black man) pointed out, the chatter and camaraderie found at many traditional barber shops was an integral part of the whole social and cultural experience. It made sad to see this brand of community dying out.

And it also got me wondering what other people are doing about getting their hair cut.

I normally post "Let's Have a Controversial Conversation" threads in the Family Forum, and while everyone is welcome to answer this thread, I'm especially interested in what singles think about getting their hair cut.

For many of us singles, this is the only times another human being has physical contact with us. And no, I'm certainly not trying to make this into something weird or perverse, but I know for me, it can feel very strange to have someone get close enough to touch my hair -- which is why I prefer to keep going back to a hairdresser I'm comfortable with.

I always choose to go to a female hairdresser. I did go to a Supercuts-type place and was given a male hairdresser years ago, and it felt strange. Not because I somehow don't trust men and definitely not because I don't like men (some of my best friends are men!), but touching my hair feels very personal, and so I have a "regular" gal that I go to. Because I've gotten to know and trust her, I now find getting my hair washed and cut to be very relaxing.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Maybe it's just me. But does anyone else find getting their hair done a little a little bit uncomfortable, because it's close contact you're not used to?

And since haircuts have become outrageously expensive, I'm really interested in hearing what other people are doing.

* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

Getting our hair done can seem like a rather mundane part of life -- but I'm very interested in the different experiences, costs, and opinions people have about how it should go. 💈💇🏼‍♂️🪮

No need for a barber, I cut my own hair…even the back.

I’m kinda “skilled” I guess…

My mom was also a hairdresser for a while, so I guess I learned from her.
 
When I retired I wanted to find out how little we could live on. I had a wife and 4 young children at the time and our $$$ had taken a nose dive. I started cutting my own hair as part of that. Turned out I could do it just fine and have never stopped. Turns out I can cut my hair in less time than it takes to drive to a barbershop, and I get it cut the way I want it every time.

I cut my kid's hair too. I believe my two boys both cut their own hair now. One of my girls probably cuts hers as well.

If I was going to go to a barber I wouldn't want to have to make an appointment, and I sure wouldn't want to wait a long time before a chair opened up for me. I raised my boys telling them that the less time they spend primping themselves the better. I see men who have fancy haircuts, jewelry, etc., as feminized. Primping is for ladies.
 
When I retired I wanted to find out how little we could live on. I had a wife and 4 young children at the time and our $$$ had taken a nose dive. I started cutting my own hair as part of that. Turned out I could do it just fine and have never stopped. Turns out I can cut my hair in less time than it takes to drive to a barbershop, and I get it cut the way I want it every time.

I cut my kid's hair too. I believe my two boys both cut their own hair now. One of my girls probably cuts hers as well.

If I was going to go to a barber I wouldn't want to have to make an appointment, and I sure wouldn't want to wait a long time before a chair opened up for me. I raised my boys telling them that the less time they spend primping themselves the better. I see men who have fancy haircuts, jewelry, etc., as feminized. Primping is for ladies.
I agree. I used to be that guy in high school; my friends couldn't stand it. Now it takes like 10 minutes at max to do my hair and beard, and like 7 minutes or less for a shower.
 
NO! even the best beauticians can lose concentration especially if you are conversing on their favorite subject. i keep quiet but tell a joke or 2 when done.
 
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Hi @markss, thank you very much for taking the time to post!

We have lots of married friends who post here in Singles, as it's kind of become the default place for hanging out.

Normally I post these threads in Family to make our married friends feel more comfortable, but for this subject, I was curious about the singles angle, but I'm very happy to see our married friends still posting.

Thanks for stopping by, and hope to see you again! :)
That's like at our church. The singles group does all the fun stuff, but they invite my wife and I to join that, so that's cool!

Much love!
 
* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word


I may not have much expertise in this one...
I went to a hairsalon once, it was my first and last time. She did talk something, I don't remember if she talked much, just a few points she made few times I will remember. I left there hating the cut and my face, but I actually liked the cut after some time and some thinking..

I don't own a corgeous locks so I also do not want to pay to cut those few strands :ROFL:
So my mom cuts my hair, I just want it simple, chop the ends off. I'll wear a hair clip or ponytail anyway.

I do cut my brothers hair, shorter in the sides and a bit longer on the top. That has been his hairdo for ages. He is very specific how he wants his hair, and I am not pro yet.. after all these years of cutting, he always goes to the mirror (actually I send him there..) to check if one strand of hair is still longer on the top and I have to fix it :LOL:
I do chat with my bro on some parts, but I need to concentrate, and he also needs to shut up in some areas, behind the ears for example.. or he will get a new hair design by me :sneaky:

I also cut my mom's hair. She used to go to a hairsalon, they once managed to do her hair the way she wanted, but after that same hairdresser did not succeed so good. Her hair is more easy to cut than my brothers tho.

Ever since childhood I got used to mom cutting my hair, also my brother's, my dad's, her own hair too.




As for mens hairdo, I do not mind the shorter sides and longer top, as it is not actually long long. One for me is I do not care so much about is a long hair on a man.