As many of you know, I am currently going through A lot myself. However, in the midst of it all, I have a friend who is also struggling with a dilema of their own and seeking guidance. While I know for a fact they would never reach out and ask for help, I can ask for opinions for them. She slept with her close friends husband. She feels guilty and doesn't know what to do. I have suggested she come clean, eat the consequences and go from there. She loves their young daughter and is afraid of being taken out of her life due to this scenario. Any advice?
Looking for answers for a friend
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Yeah, pray for her but stay out of it. That would be my advice. If she's not one to reach out for help, that probably means she's not looking for help.
I guess what I meant by that, is she won't reach out for help outside of her small circle. I'm gonna keep praying and stay out of it myself, but I told her I was going to make this post to hopefully uplift her and maybe even get her to join the community. I personally had great results with my first post. The positivity continues to help me, and I'd like to see the same for her.
She needs to get saved, confess her sin to her husband and wear the consequences.
Wonder how that young girl would feel if she knew daddy was sleeping with mommies supposed friend
No sympathy for her or him , just for the children and injured parties .
Hi Alex, I'm glad that things are looking up for you!
Regarding your friend, I do not judge her personally, Jesus was merciful to the woman caught in adultery even though the crowd wanted to stone her.
However.....He did tell her not to sin any more and our sinful actions will always have consequences, both for ourselves and often for others as well.
In your friends case, her personal consequences will be either guilt and fear of people finding out (if she doesn't tell), or losing friendship, trust, and possibly access to the child she loves (if she does tell)
But really, her own feelings and fear of consequences shouldn't be a factor. If she is married she should definitely tell her own husband first and foremost. If she is not married then her (and his) actions have still potentially broken up a marriage. At the very least they will affect trust, intimacy and bond for the married couple, and will likely affect them for years to come, even if they decide to stay together.
Whether she "should" come clean to her friend or not, I couldn't say. But I CAN say that based off of what you've told us, it doesn't sound like your friend is at a place where a confession/apology would sound sincere. Her main concern seems to be what SHE might lose. She needs to fully repent to God first and worry about pleasing Him, ask Jesus to cleanse her heart and help her consider others before herself.
As far as what would minimize damage in her friends marriage, a confession and sincere apology from the husband is the best-case scenario, and your friend should accept whatever fallout may come as a result.
TLDNR: Friend needs to repent and ask Jesus to make her heart right, tell her own husband if she has one. Husband who cheated needs to come clean to his wife (though I realize you may not have any influence there). He also needs to repent of course, but no idea where he is spiritually... obviously not doing great.
It's sweet of you to care and want to help your friend! Definitely a delicate situation so I'd try not to get personally involved. Prayer is always good!
