What do you bring to the table?

[tourist]

No pudding anymore. Blood sugar, you know.

I make gallons of chili at a time though.

Are you still down with the sourdough bread? I heard that it is the bestest.

 

[Magenta]

Well it is deer chili, so yeah. Kidney beans, tomato sauce, mustard, a pinch of brown sugar and then I have some fun with my spice rack. Somewhat better than the average chili pot with Walmart ground beef and a chili seasoning packet.

Deer chili! Oh dear! Where do you get the deer?

 

[Magenta]

Are you still down with the sourdough bread? I heard that it is the bestest.

It is my fave... with green olives. Yum!

 

[Edith]

Recently, I have seen multiple Youtube videos of men "walking away" from dating and marriage due to their distaste of the "modern woman", feminism, etc. This is a separate discussion of its own. However, one thing these men want to know from their dates early on is what these women bring to the table. In fact, some men even directly ask the women what they bring to the table, and the women are often shocked and offended.

What do you think of this question, and how would you react? I think it is a valid question, but seems very transactional and probably not a good way to start a relationship. Especially, if a woman asks a man this question, I am certain a man would not like a woman questioning him this way.

And, to both men and women, if your date asked you this question, how would you respond?

Two questions to those who talk about the table.
1. do you have a table
2. How big is the table.

It is not a bad question but it should not be priority. Love is a watch word in Christianity. And who ever loves gives. sometimes I reflect on past relationships and ask why I was so stupid. No I just loved so I gave. So the question is not if i bring things to the table. The question is how much do I love you to want to bring things to the table. sure you know that if I love you the table is gonna break because the moon, sun, what else do you want, that too will be on the table.

 

[Edith]

Recently, I have seen multiple Youtube videos of men "walking away" from dating and marriage due to their distaste of the "modern woman", feminism, etc. This is a separate discussion of its own. However, one thing these men want to know from their dates early on is what these women bring to the table. In fact, some men even directly ask the women what they bring to the table, and the women are often shocked and offended.

What do you think of this question, and how would you react? I think it is a valid question, but seems very transactional and probably not a good way to start a relationship. Especially, if a woman asks a man this question, I am certain a man would not like a woman questioning him this way.

And, to both men and women, if your date asked you this question, how would you respond?

Considering the table aspect I am a woman and the man is the head of our home, and what I bring on the table reflects what he wants. However I bring laughter, fun, love, care, support spiritually, physically, financially, I bring a bit of my stupid jokes, complicity, and many other things.

 

[Magenta]

Two questions to those who talk about the table.
1. do you have a table
2. How big is the table.

I have not mentioned any table yet, but I was raised in a large family that ate together at a table that easily sat a dozen .

Now I eat off my lap LOL I down sized years ago and the kitchen table was one of the first things that went bye bye .

 

[Edith]

I never have looked for a girl, mostly.

I am still single for the same reason I am still using a Windows 10 computer. Both my computer and my life are still doing exactly what I want them to do. I see no reason to change something that is working so well for me.

Or I'm just hopelessly lazy.

Maybe both.

Spirit of Laziness out out out out! Sincerely You have what it takes to make a good husband. The other day you said you have gone through the Bible 8times and counting. A man who has the word is capable of treating women right. I am so sure there are single ladies in your community eyeing you so please don't be lazy grant a woman her heart desires

 

[Lynx]

Two questions to those who talk about the table.
1. do you have a table
2. How big is the table.

It is not a bad question but it should not be priority. Love is a watch word in Christianity. And who ever loves gives. sometimes I reflect on past relationships and ask why I was so stupid. No I just loved so I gave. So the question is not if i bring things to the table. The question is how much do I love you to want to bring things to the table. sure you know that if I love you the table is gonna break because the moon, sun, what else do you want, that too will be on the table.

This is a cogent point. When Grandma was alive I did a few things that were just useless, but Grandma wanted it.

Every morning I raised the curtains in front of the big window in the living room, where she sat all day. But as soon as it got just a little dark outside, she insisted on the curtains being put back down. It was almost like she was afraid of the dark that was outside the windows or something. She never could articulate WHY it was so important to her to put the curtains down, but boy was she insistent about it. So every evening, or late afternoon in the winter, I'd put them down when she started getting nervous.

So I imagine there might be one or two things I will do for my wife, because she wants it.

 

[Lynx]

Spirit of Laziness out out out out! Sincerely You have what it takes to make a good husband. The other day you said you have gone through the Bible 8times and counting. A man who has the word is capable of treating women right. I am so sure there are single ladies in your community eyeing you so please don't be lazy grant a woman her heart desires

That was seoulsearch who said eight times. I've read through it less than that. More than three, I know, but I am certain less than six.

But if you're ever in southwest Tennessee, let me know.

 

[Magenta]

This is a cogent point. When Grandma was alive I did a few things that were just useless, but Grandma wanted it.

Every morning I raised the curtains in front of the big window in the living room, where she sat all day. But as soon as it got just a little dark outside, she insisted on the curtains being put back down. It was almost like she was afraid of the dark that was outside the windows or something. She never could articulate WHY it was so important to her to put the curtains down, but boy was she insistent about it. So every evening, or late afternoon in the winter, I'd put them down when she started getting nervous.

So I imagine there might be one or two things I will do for my wife, because she wants it.

When it is dark outside and the lights are on inside, people see in easily...

Letting the light in during the day makes sense and so does keeping prying eyes out at night.

 

[Edith]

That was seoulsearch who said eight times. I've read through it less than that. More than three, I know, but I am certain less than six.

But if you're ever in southwest Tennessee, let me know.

oh I see, sorry Seoul attributing your credits to Lynx. Six times is still very commendable.

I may never see Tennessee Lynx.

 

[Lynx]

Deer chili! Oh dear! Where do you get the deer?

Aunt Diane loves to hunt. And there are lots and lots of deer around here. She takes out 40 from her property alone.

 

[Magenta]

Aunt Diane loves to hunt. And there are lots and lots of deer around here. She takes out 40 from her property alone.

Forty every how often? I don't think I have ever eaten venison. Maybe once in a foggy bygone era. Do you call it venison?

Does your aunt use a rifle or bow and arrow? The latter would be a cool way to hunt deer in the woods...

If one was a hunter, that is.

 

[Lynx]

Oh yeah... 40 per year. Sorry, that's an important part, the year.

Rifle is her preference.

 

[seoulsearch]

Oh yeah... 40 per year. Sorry, that's an important part, the year.

Rifle is her preference.

40??

Good golly.

What does she have in her yard to lure them in... A salt mine?!

 

[tourist]

Considering the table aspect I am a woman and the man is the head of our home, and what I bring on the table reflects what he wants. However I bring laughter, fun, love, care, support spiritually, physically, financially, I bring a bit of my stupid jokes, complicity, and many other things.

All good things indeed to bring to the table.

 

[Lynx]

40??

Good golly.

What does she have in her yard to lure them in... A salt mine?!

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We just got a lot of deer round here.

 

[seoulsearch]

oh I see, sorry Seoul attributing your credits to Lynx. Six times is still very commendable.

Yeah, Lynx is definitely no slouch when it comes to the Bible. I call him and @cinder my own personal Walking Concordances. I can remember key words, but not many passages in full or their references.

I will regularly put out a message saying, "Hey guys, I need to find a passage that talks about X, Y, and Z... Here's the key phrase I'm thinking of..."

It's not a matter of IF they can answer, but who is able to answer first. Sure, I could just Google it, but it's A LOT more fun asking them.

The reason I have to read the Bible over so much is because my primitive little smooth brain doesn't hold on to much of what I read!

 

[seoulsearch]

Yeah, Lynx is definitely no slouch when it comes to the Bible. I call him and @cinder my own personal Walking Concordances. I can remember key words, but not many passages in full or their references.

I will regularly put out a message saying, "Hey guys, I need to find a passage that talks about X, Y, and Z... Here's the key phrase I'm thinking of..."

It's not a matter of IF they can answer, but who is able to answer first. Sure, I could just Google it, but it's A LOT more fun asking them.

The reason I have to read the Bible over so much is because my primitive little smooth brain doesn't hold on to much of what I read!

I know the Singles Forum gets a bad rap for not quoting Scripture in every post, and that the people here are often seen as lesser or even non-Christians because of it.

The people I have met here are EXTREMELY knowledgeable regarding the Bible -- they just choose not to put it on display.

I always say that the threads I write are the "Fellowship" part of Sunday Service.

Sure, go on over to the Bible Discussion for the lesson -- that's great! But then come on over to Singles or Family for the Coffee And Donuts after hours, where we talk about actually living out our Christian lives.

Sure, some people would like to see the preachers continue right on preaching even during Fellowship Hour, but personally, I need both times of spiritual lesson and times of spiritual fun in order to grow.

 

[Blue155]

What do I bring to the table? I’d hope I could bring the love of Jesus and the fruit of the Spirit to the table.