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[shittim]

@shittim brother are you jealous of me?
Sorry I don't get offended by people who don't know the Lord or who strive to live in sin, I believe they can make it as I made it out of sin. I just wanted to know if there is something I can do to tone that down so I may not get myself in trouble in trying to do evangelism.

Me who thought you were a big man of God who does miracles every week and a friend of mine . Don't worry I still am not offended because you don't know me.

You did it again, for a Christian, if the words, "I, me, mine" and such are in our vocabulary we are not where we are supposed to be. We are no longer our own when we are in Him.
Jesus modeled how we are to live in Him, He was not focused on Himself, He only did and said what He saw the Father do and say.
best wishes
goodbye

 

[PennEd]

There is no new post so I want to talk about this.

The fact that men easily think I am into them because I smile and speak kindly to them especially when they know I am single.

I met a man in a Taxi a couple of weeks ago and we started talking and exchange numbers. In my mind I have a potential candidate for heaven and in his mind he has a woman would help him in adultery. after insisting to invite him to church without any avail I decided to take his RDV. When we meet I am talking of a Jesus, he is talking of boyfriend girlfriend. when I ask to know why he said I had given him signs and was insisting that if I can have time for God I should have time for him.
He isn't the first. at the seminary a friend I used to share meals with once placed a hand on my thigh and I lifted it and warned him. another one did something similar.

Now with all the misinterpretation

I wonder if I should be tense and not talk to people. but my ministry is meeting people talking to them and introducing the Good news of salvation. I can only smile at them.
what advice would you give me.

Ya know, as I'm reading this, it hit me that MAYBE that's partially why Paul talked about not allowing women to teach to men.

I think women need to understand that men are wired differently. It honestly doesn't take much for us to think women want more than what they think.

NEVER a good idea to give your number out to strangers, especially men. Did this guy tell you he was married?

There may be opportunities to spread the Gospel to those of the opposite sex, and I'm not suggesting you can't be nice and polite, but be cognizant that what you are thinking is likely vastly different than what he is thinking.

 

[shittim]

"Women react with emotion, men react with reason".
blessings

 

[Charlesiii]

There is no new post so I want to talk about this.

The fact that men easily think I am into them because I smile and speak kindly to them especially when they know I am single.

In my opinion, it's how men are wired. If you were married, they would likely focus more on conversing with your husband, but if you are single and they like you, a romantic relationship is how they (we) are wired to advance the friendship in many cases.

I met a man in a Taxi a couple of weeks ago and we started talking and exchange numbers. In my mind I have a potential candidate for heaven and in his mind he has a woman would help him in adultery. after insisting to invite him to church without any avail I decided to take his RDV. When we meet I am talking of a Jesus, he is talking of boyfriend girlfriend. when I ask to know why he said I had given him signs and was insisting that if I can have time for God I should have time for him.
He isn't the first. at the seminary a friend I used to share meals with once placed a hand on my thigh and I lifted it and warned him. another one did something similar.

Now with all the misinterpretation

I wonder if I should be tense and not talk to people. but my ministry is meeting people talking to them and introducing the Good news of salvation. I can only smile at them.
what advice would you give me.

Get married and witness with your husband? Witness with a male relative you trust? Focus on women in your witnessing endeavours? Wear a wedding ring when you witness and display it prominently?

 

[33Michael33]

It's the that REALLY tells ya how she feels! .

Hi @Edith I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, I know it can be really stressful. As a single woman who does talk to strangers about The Lord, here are a few tips:

If the man you are talking to is married, be sure to reference his wife a lot, if you pray for him out loud then be sure to pray for his wife and his marriage (and kids if he has any). Maybe ask God to bless his marriage and give him wisdom to be a good husband and father. It sets a good tone for the conversation and is a good thing to pray for anyway. If you invite him to church or Bible study be sure to invite him to bring his wife too.

I wouldn't exchange contact info with a married man unless you REALLY think you are being led to do so. And even then I would keep messages very brief, like info where the Bible study is being held. I generally prefer to talk to married men on a group chat with at least one other person included. If the man is insisting that he wants spiritual follow-up then maybe you can give him a male minister's number?

Regarding single men, that's a little trickier as you don't want to treat them like they are icky, it can really hurt a guy. But I would still be careful about giving your contact info. Because it sends the message you want to talk more. I know sometimes its really hard, small things like a smile or remembering a guy's name can really leave an impression when you don't really mean to. Try not to let it darken your outlook but pray for wisdom as well .

For me personally, the most effective fix was getting old . I decided to keep the silver streaks in my hair, and now there is a whole flock of younger prettier girls that the guys are focused on. It took some getting used to but does save a lot of hassle lol .

I Actually really like the Silver Streaks.

 

[33Michael33]

There is no new post so I want to talk about this.

The fact that men easily think I am into them because I smile and speak kindly to them especially when they know I am single.

I met a man in a Taxi a couple of weeks ago and we started talking and exchange numbers. In my mind I have a potential candidate for heaven and in his mind he has a woman would help him in adultery. after insisting to invite him to church without any avail I decided to take his RDV. When we meet I am talking of a Jesus, he is talking of boyfriend girlfriend. when I ask to know why he said I had given him signs and was insisting that if I can have time for God I should have time for him.
He isn't the first. at the seminary a friend I used to share meals with once placed a hand on my thigh and I lifted it and warned him. another one did something similar.

Now with all the misinterpretation

I wonder if I should be tense and not talk to people. but my ministry is meeting people talking to them and introducing the Good news of salvation. I can only smile at them.
what advice would you give me.

Hey @Edith No matter how you carry yourself a Man or Woman for that matter is going to act how they are going to act regardless. I was that Man not to long ago. I have had to learn the extremely hard way. God has Corrected me from my sexual driven sin. Even when I was married I wasn't getting what I needed from my Wife. And I led myself to believe that was the problem with my marriage. But of course that was not true. It was other things and that was my excuse to cope. I chased sex right after we were separated. And God has shown me that His Word is Fact. Sex outside of marriage only leads to destruction. Now that I am corrected by the Lord I still have the desire thankfully. However, I am no longer driven by it. I don't look at women and have the same thoughts that I once did. What I used to chase and imagine, is now vile to me. I am sharing all of this to say that it took all of that to show me that I was wrong and to correct me to where that I am. I am now somewhat scared that I may never be able to have a healthy relationship again. Especially concerning sex, where once it was so important to me. And to be clear, I have always been monogamous with the woman that I Loved. It was just the first thing that I was after and then the relationship became second. Now I am at no sex until marriage and it is the other way around. You keep being you, of course use discernment and be careful. And I agree, there is a very Good reason for separate Men's and Women's Groups. Especially within the Church.

 

[Edith]

Ya know, as I'm reading this, it hit me that MAYBE that's partially why Paul talked about not allowing women to teach to men.

I think women need to understand that men are wired differently. It honestly doesn't take much for us to think women want more than what they think.

NEVER a good idea to give your number out to strangers, especially men. Did this guy tell you he was married?

There may be opportunities to spread the Gospel to those of the opposite sex, and I'm not suggesting you can't be nice and polite, but be cognizant that what you are thinking is likely vastly different than what he is thinking.

I wonder if God will reject all the men I have been evangelizing to .

Thank you for you advice

 

[Edith]

Hey @Edith No matter how you carry yourself a Man or Woman for that matter is going to act how they are going to act regardless. I was that Man not to long ago. I have had to learn the extremely hard way. God has Corrected me from my sexual driven sin. Even when I was married I wasn't getting what I needed from my Wife. And I led myself to believe that was the problem with my marriage. But of course that was not true. It was other things and that was my excuse to cope. I chased sex right after we were separated. And God has shown me that His Word is Fact. Sex outside of marriage only leads to destruction. Now that I am corrected by the Lord I still have the desire thankfully. However, I am no longer driven by it. I don't look at women and have the same thoughts that I once did. What I used to chase and imagine, is now vile to me. I am sharing all of this to say that it took all of that to show me that I was wrong and to correct me to where that I am. I am now somewhat scared that I may never be able to have a healthy relationship again. Especially concerning sex, where once it was so important to me. And to be clear, I have always been monogamous with the woman that I Loved. It was just the first thing that I was after and then the relationship became second. Now I am at no sex until marriage and it is the other way around. You keep being you, of course use discernment and be careful. And I agree, there is a very Good reason for separate Men's and Women's Groups. Especially within the Church.

Thank you dear brother. For the encouragement. I am really touched.

 

[OLDBUTNEW]

@Edith : I'd say keep up your good work, sister; Just watch out for 'friendly" men! Sadly, a lot of we men are bloody hopeless, when it comes to controlling ourselves with pretty women who are single!

 

[Edith]

You did it again, for a Christian, if the words, "I, me, mine" and such are in our vocabulary we are not where we are supposed to be. We are no longer our own when we are in Him.
Jesus modeled how we are to live in Him, He was not focused on Himself, He only did and said what He saw the Father do and say.
best wishes
goodbye

What is with the Goodbye Shittim we won't stop being friends because you keep saying Bizzare things I don't understand.
Christ does help me, always He does. However fleeing from sin and even getting advice like I am getting now is my responsibility and I think a pathway to growth.

 

[Magenta]

@Edith did not say that she was offended, she said she was confused.

I found your post confusing as well, and (unlike edith), I am a native English speaker. Please take that into account
and show some grace, because your post did read like a thinly veiled insult, which is surely not what you intended.

Shittim's insults are rarely thinly veiled....

 

[Edith]

@Edith : I'd say keep up your good work, sister; Just watch out for 'friendly" men! Sadly, a lot of we men are bloody hopeless, when it comes to controlling ourselves with pretty women who are single!

Thank you so much, your words are encouraging. thank you

 

[OLDBUTNEW]

Thank you so much, your words are encouraging. thank you

@Edith : You're always very welcome, sister.

 

[Lynx]

What is with the Goodbye Shittim we won't stop being friends because you keep saying Bizzare things I don't understand.
Christ does help me, always He does. However fleeing from sin and even getting advice like I am getting now is my responsibility and I think a pathway to growth.

Shittim be like that. We just ignore him when he gets like that.

I'm one of the ones he calls a goat, so you ain't alone. Just know that it ain't you, it's him. Definitely him.

 

[enril]

You did it again, for a Christian, if the words, "I, me, mine" and such are in our vocabulary we are not where we are supposed to be. We are no longer our own when we are in Him.
Jesus modeled how we are to live in Him, He was not focused on Himself, He only did and said what He saw the Father do and say.
best wishes
goodbye

I love Jesus
My Savior
"My father's house."

 

[shittim]

I love Jesus
My Savior
"My father's house."

said the passive aggressive ......

 

[Magenta]

I love Jesus
My Savior
"My father's house."

John 14 v 1-3 Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and welcome you into My presence, so that you also may be where I am.

 

[Lynx]

said the passive aggressive ......

Said the one who perfected passive aggressive as a flippin' art form.

You pose an interesting contradiction. Most people like you don't last long on this forum. They find something to get offended about and leave in a huff. Sometimes many huffs. But you seem to eat up such things. Your ego feeds on what they get in a huff about.

Almost... Nah.

Well, maybe...

Almost like you ENJOY putting people down.

Nah. Couldn't be.

 

[tourist]

For me personally, the most effective fix was getting old . I decided to keep the silver streaks in my hair, and now there is a whole flock of younger prettier girls that the guys are focused on. It took some getting used to but does save a lot of hassle lol .

Some of those younger prettier girls might be hollow inside. Some guys focus on the wrong things. These are the type of guys to avoid.

 

[tourist]

said the passive aggressive ......

Is this a good quality or a bad quality?