Funniest joke you made this month (so far) but I wonder how many people got it.That's not a chick flick.
THIS is a chick flick:
(Hint: That's not a knife.)
What Should Happen On a First Date?
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(Hint: That's not a knife.)
I like this movie and found it to be entertaining! And the 2nd one too! I have all the Dundee movies.
Because nothing screams "You must date this classy guy!!!" like one who offers to take you out on a movie date to use up soon-to-expire coupons LOL
To make sure she is fully aware that you are willing to spare no expense, you could promise to buy her a coffee and donut again as well!
J
Jeraboo
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You mean the coffee and donut you won for free from roll up the rim to win? right? lol
Are these meant to be joke threads? .Thank you all for your thoughtful responses.
I actually agree with a lot of this for those who want to go about dating in the traditional way.
Maybe I'm sort of odd. The relationships I've been in have occurred after getting to know each other at work or online, or in high school (my first relationship was when I was 17). After spending time together and finding we liked each other more than just working together or what-have-you, we'd decide to be in a relationship and then the fun stuff began...going on dates and even more flirting and hand holding and smoochies. I like dates that involve picnicking in the great outdoors or walking trails or interesting museums or aquariums. I just never really got into the whole awkward traditional dating stuff. That's just me personally! Not knocking those who are at all. Like I said, I think this is some good advice for those who prefer to go about it that way, except for the part about picking a chick flick. Not all of us women like chick flicks. Of course, if that's your thing don't let me stop you. Meanwhile, imma sneak over to the action or horror or some other movie
Carrie, is it possible we are long-lost cousins or something?
When I read the OP my first thought was "If a man can talk to me for an hour over donuts and coffee and still think my first choice of movie would be some vapid Chick flick, he's probably not the right man for me". And I saw on your profile that you like spiders and true crime and old cemeteries. NOBODY seems to get why I like old cemeteries! lol. So we need to both find men who are weird enough to potentially understand us, then we can take them on a double-date through the woods to picnic at an old cemetery that is covered in spiders. Then finish with a psychological thriller movie based on a true crime story. And if they're still interested by the end of the date (and haven't run away screaming!), they just might be the right men for us! @Mr. Epperson: I appreciate what you are trying to do and I like how you were presenting dating and "flirting" as healthy interactions that Christian men and women should not be afraid of. Those of us who came of age during the era of "I kissed Dating Goodbye" often struggle with that, myself included. But most of us here on this forum are still single either because we're content with it, or because we're a bit unconventional and the cookie-cutter scenarios you're presenting just won't work for us; if we identified with the status quo we would have gotten married a long time ago. So I wonder if your perspectives would be better received if you held back a bit and just joined in the discussions with your personal experiences and perspective, rather than coming across like you are enlightening us. Pull up a chair, ask some questions, and really listen to the answers. We all have something to add!
Cheers!
Carrie, is it possible we are long-lost cousins or something?
That sounds like an excellent date and the scenery sounds incredible! I'm certainly down for a psychologial thriller based on a true crime story.
Btw, I picnicked at a nearby cemetery on Halloween night. The atmosphere was peaceful. I wasn't on a date though. I think I've ran plenty of men off with my interests lol. Especially when it concerns spiders. I remember one time a guy mentioned me in a forum (on another site that I don't visit anymore) and said, "Do you realize that people find you scary?"
Just call me Scary Pie!
I mean... Don't think I go out of my way to squish them. Anything that eats mosquitoes is a friend of mine, as long as it doesn't invade my space.I wince when I see/hear the word squish when it concerns spiders
I hate poison ivy. Very annoying stuff. I haven't had it in years, but one never forgets that stuff.
I like spiders for the same reason I like bats. The enemy of my enemy...
But it's hard to be afraid of them.
If Sharon is indeed a true Christ follower, I'm sure she would show a bit of grace in this matter, don't you?
Personally, I wouldn't mind the "I have some coupons that are about to expire" line, as I've often said my family treats saving money like an Olympic sport: "Oh yeah? I bought this spaghetti sauce on sale, buy-one-get-one free, with a coupon, on a cashback credit card, AND it earned me discount fuel points!"
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
I just don't think that having coupons expire soon would be seen as an indication of
how interested you are in taking that special someone out on a first/second date...
Of course, if Sharon is already interested in said suitor, he could invite her to watch paint dry or grass grow and she would agree...
Watching a movie together does not really afford much opportunity for getting to know each other, though.
Maybe that's why lunch/dinner dates and/or walks on the beach are so popular.
Note to self: Stop talking about the good deals you found at the salvage grocery.Personally, I wouldn't mind the "I have some coupons that are about to expire" line, as I've often said my family treats saving money like an Olympic sport: "Oh yeah? I bought this spaghetti sauce on sale, buy-one-get-one free, with a coupon, on a cashback credit card, AND it earned me discount fuel points!"
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
I mean Seoul is a long, long way away from me... But why take a risk?
to me, on a 1st date, & the next 3 or 4, it would be more like an inspection, interrogation & discernment meeting. but even before that, totally now-a-days, get as much "pre" information as possible from a pastor, hopefully. by course, always get Jesus on the job. yea, you guessed it, like an application. & guys, don't spend money on her too soon. girls, put into motion, all you're "mother's" intuition, & instinct but with an occasional smile.
Yes i see thisI'm right there with you, CarriePie!
I hate most chick flicks. Lovelorn woman goes gaga for a guy who barely says hi to her and then they wind up almost immediately sleeping together. BLEH.
I mean, c'mon. He hasn't even taken the time to learn the names of her 20 cats yet!
I miss the days of 80's and 90's macho movies. An ideal date movie to me would have involved the likes of Stallone, Schwarzenegger, or Van Damme, with a lot of things being blown up and a whole lot of bad guys getting their due. Big guns, explosions, and helicopter kicks -- OH YEAH, BRING. IT. ON!
My favorite storyline was when the big, macho tough guy was assigned to guard some plucky, independent woman (I'm not into the helpless damsel vibe,) and, despite himself (and his arms being twice the size of her neck,) he just can't help but falling for her!
Now THAT'S a good chick flick right Discover here.
But then again, I guess I'm dating myself self (as in, not taking my actual self out, but letting it slip that I'm from a time that's obviously long past yonder.)
Just try and go out and enjoy it make the most of it .
M
Mwestton
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Wow. Instructions. I'm going to be the honest approach. Be me. We both know the real each other. I believe in being hospitable and serving. Always showing interest yes. If somebody's so picky about each and every little thing I do and that ain't the one for me I'm going to be meWell, your pastor might look at this question and say, "NOT MUCH!"
But, all kidding aside, it's best to look at the first date as not really a "date" at all, at least not in the traditional sense. When we say "date," it usually conjures images of the guy going to the woman's house to pick her up. They may go to a nice restaurant for dinner, a movie, or both. After the movie, the guy brings her back home and walks her to her door; she fumbles for the keys, and he at least attempts to kiss her.
However, nothing like this should ever happen on the first date. Why? Because neither of you knows each other well enough to make the date successful. At the very least, you should have chatted for a little while to see what kinds of food and movies you like. Also, it would be a borderline tragedy to find out that neither of you could stand the other halfway through dessert!
This is where the first date comes in. It goes something like this:
You have said hi and flirted with Sharon a few times before Sunday church services. She's been receptive enough to laugh at a few of your corny jokes, and now, in the church community room, you are getting up the nerve to talk to her again.
"Oh no, have we run out of donuts this morning?" You ask her.
"Only the yucky ones are left," she says.
"I have an absolutely brilliant idea, and most of my ideas are brilliant."
"And what exactly is that?"
"Let's meet at XYZ Donuts for coffee and those extra gooey raspberry-filled things with the fifteen pounds of powdered sugar they sprinkle over them."
"Now?"
"Yes, of course, now. Who knows what might happen if I don't get my sugar fix today. It will be my treat."
Sharon hesitates.
"Besides, you said you moved here from California, and I would be interested in learning about the differences between here and there. "
"Well, okay," she says. "But I don't have much time before I have to go feed my cats."
"I understand. Cats be needn' feedn'" (You smile. She smiles. Everyone eavesdropping in on your conversation smiles).
You both get to the donut place at about the same time. OF COURSE, YOU OPEN THE DOOR FOR HER.
You are at the counter and let her choose WHATEVER she wants. Sharon is a lovely lady who doesn't want to rob you of your life savings, so she orders one donut and a cup of coffee.
Now is not the time for you to pig out. Show some control!
You pay for both hers and yours. This is non-negotiable. The man always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, pays! She can be a doctor, lawyer, businesswoman, or the President of the United States. You still must pay for all dates.
Why you ask?
It has to do with her perception of you, mostly. Do you want her to perceive you as just another one of her male friends who she pals around with once in a while or a romantic tiger who can sweep her off her feet and eventually become so in love with you that she has no other choice but to say yes to marriage?
In the next post, I'll explore the differences between being relegated to just her "friend" and being the man of her dreams. For now, suffice it to say you need to pony up the $9.29 for the coffee and donuts.
Welcome to the first date. You will spend no more than one hour with her with the following objectives in mind:
1. Show each other that neither of you is a raging psychopathic ax murderer
2. Delve (a very little bit) into what she does and a bit about her family (plenty of time for that on other dates as well)
3. Find out if you have anything in common (besides a love for Christ)
4. Show your romantic interest (super duper, extremely important!)
5. Getting the second date
Things NOT to talk about
--The weather
--Computers, quantum mechanics, or doctrinal differences between denominations
--Politics
--Your past failures with women
--Her cats (Get off of that subject as quick as possible. It's bad enough having to compete with other men, let alone her cats!)
What to talk about on a first date
--Which do you find more beautiful, the sunsets here or in California?
--What's the best vacation you've ever taken?
-- How inspired you were when your parents finally told you how they met and fell in love. What about her parents?
--What's the most romantic movie you've ever watched?
The list is only limited by your imagination and the feelings you want to elicit from her. Remember, women are all about feelings, feelings, feelings, so talk about things that will make her feel good. Conversely, avoid discussing things that elicit sadness, distress, or grief. There will be plenty of that kind of talk when you start having children.
Setting up the second date
Never ask a woman, "Hey, would you like to go out again sometime?" That only works in the movies and sitcoms.
Instead, say this:
"I've really enjoyed our time together, but I have to go, and I know you have to get back to your lovely cats. So, I was thinking... I have two movie passes that are going to expire soon, which would be a shame. I've been wanting to see (pick any chick flick or, better yet, an inspiring spiritual movie). I certainly don't want to go alone. Would you like to go with me this coming Saturday?"
Always be as specific about the date as possible. Never offer up any ambiguity. Never say, "You wanna get together sometime?"
When she says yes, get her phone number and say you will call her the night before to confirm. It will be a 30-second call to ensure she has not come down with COVID or something since your last encounter. Also, it's not a time to tell her how bad your week has been going or to see how she feels about the latest Fox News poll on the upcoming election.
Once she says she's still going, tell her you look forward to seeing her tomorrow. Then say goodbye and hang up!
The less you talk at this point, the better.
Ah, Steve. He was a lot of fun. He knew everything and argued a lot with everybody.
If you have a lot of time to kill, you should look up some of his other posts. That was quite an entertaining time here on the forum.
But I don't think he's hanging around any more to answer you. He got fed up with all us ignorant people arguing with his pellucid prose. I believe he has moved on to berate people on other forums.