Auto mechanics trying to rip you off because you’re a woman

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So, here the other day I had to take my car down to a garage to get it fixed. I was going to meet with a couple of friends at a local restaurant, so I was wearing normal clothes. You know, a lady pushing 50 and looks the part. Not a uniform or some of my usual crazy outfits this time. I even had a purse.

I went in, bells jingling, and this mechanic kinda type was very nice and listened patiently to my description of the problem. “Uh-hu, Ma’am, you see it ain’t that simple. We gotta take out the engine and the transmission, maybe even do a tune up…gonna set you back with at least 4k”.

Now, that car hasn’t been worth nowhere near 4k in the last ten years, so I told him that I would just scrap it then. But then he started to tell me about what a wonderful classic it would be in mint condition. I might be a woman, but even I know there’s nothing classic, or ever will be, about that rugged old, rusty car. It would be money out of the window.

I don’t think he would have said that to a man..
 
So, here the other day I had to take my car down to a garage to get it fixed. I was going to meet with a couple of friends at a local restaurant, so I was wearing normal clothes. You know, a lady pushing 50 and looks the part. Not a uniform or some of my usual crazy outfits this time. I even had a purse.

I went in, bells jingling, and this mechanic kinda type was very nice and listened patiently to my description of the problem. “Uh-hu, Ma’am, you see it ain’t that simple. We gotta take out the engine and the transmission, maybe even do a tune up…gonna set you back with at least 4k”.

Now, that car hasn’t been worth nowhere near 4k in the last ten years, so I told him that I would just scrap it then. But then he started to tell me about what a wonderful classic it would be in mint condition. I might be a woman, but even I know there’s nothing classic, or ever will be, about that rugged old, rusty car. It would be money out of the window.

I don’t think he would have said that to a man..
What did you take it in for?
 
that why its good to mention family members or friends that they could "look" at the car. its not completely ethical but it often works.
 
So, here the other day I had to take my car down to a garage to get it fixed. I was going to meet with a couple of friends at a local restaurant, so I was wearing normal clothes. You know, a lady pushing 50 and looks the part. Not a uniform or some of my usual crazy outfits this time. I even had a purse.

I went in, bells jingling, and this mechanic kinda type was very nice and listened patiently to my description of the problem. “Uh-hu, Ma’am, you see it ain’t that simple. We gotta take out the engine and the transmission, maybe even do a tune up…gonna set you back with at least 4k”.

Now, that car hasn’t been worth nowhere near 4k in the last ten years, so I told him that I would just scrap it then. But then he started to tell me about what a wonderful classic it would be in mint condition. I might be a woman, but even I know there’s nothing classic, or ever will be, about that rugged old, rusty car. It would be money out of the window.

I don’t think he would have said that to a man..
I bet he would have tried it on me. You can tell by looking that I'm a nerd.

I'm not saying it would WORK on me, on account of I ain't no idjit. But I bet he would have tried it on me.
 
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What year and make/model of car is it? That might confirm it will or will not be a classic.

I mean, is it a 2001 Kia, or an old rusty 65 Mustang? Makes a difference.
 
What year and make/model of car is it? That might confirm it will or will not be a classic.

I mean, is it a 2001 Kia, or an old rusty 65 Mustang? Makes a difference.

It’s an old Hyundai. Probably comparable to a 2001 Kia lol. I don’t think anyone would have offered 1k for it even if it was kinda okay.
 
So, here the other day I had to take my car down to a garage to get it fixed. I was going to meet with a couple of friends at a local restaurant, so I was wearing normal clothes. You know, a lady pushing 50 and looks the part. Not a uniform or some of my usual crazy outfits this time. I even had a purse.

I went in, bells jingling, and this mechanic kinda type was very nice and listened patiently to my description of the problem. “Uh-hu, Ma’am, you see it ain’t that simple. We gotta take out the engine and the transmission, maybe even do a tune up…gonna set you back with at least 4k”.

Now, that car hasn’t been worth nowhere near 4k in the last ten years, so I told him that I would just scrap it then. But then he started to tell me about what a wonderful classic it would be in mint condition. I might be a woman, but even I know there’s nothing classic, or ever will be, about that rugged old, rusty car. It would be money out of the window.

I don’t think he would have said that to a man..


Run, don't walk to the nearest exit.
Then get get a second, third, and forth opinion from recommended sources
I've dealt with scumbags in service industries before . One was a Mohawk wearing submoral piece of work at the Sube Shop. He will continue to get my advertising the rest of my life. It isn't free advertising. It cost me a LOT and my Mom he ripped off and my foolish half brother and a friend who refused to listen to me.

Woman, don't feel bad.
It's a scumbags job to rip off as many people as he can. That's his natural impulse, after all, how do you expect him to buy himself a new truck every year if he doesn't rip people off every chance?
As a woman in a traditional role, you aren't alone. Few men these days know how or have the inclination to learn how to do general maintenance. Most Dads don't pass that knowledge along to their sons like they used to.
When the scumbag sees someone coming through the door, he no longer discriminates. He is an equal opportunity bait and switcher who will gladly serve his needs of ripping off women and men, young and old, healthy and disabled. It's no longer a woman thing. Many garages treat just about everyone alike.
Why?
Because they can and will get away with it.
Especially beware of the fish shops that have the fish logo to draw in Christians with their bait. 🪱 🎣

I have a few short recommendations for the next step, but it's 5:40 AM. Just took a tiny bit of melatonin to get back to sleep and waiting for the effects. Just ask if you want my 2¢ for the Paul Harvey rest of the story.
 
It’s an old Hyundai. Probably comparable to a 2001 Kia lol. I don’t think anyone would have offered 1k for it even if it was kinda okay.

Yep no doubt about it. That car is destined to become...scrap, lol!

Sounds like the Spirit was with you!
 
So, here the other day I had to take my car down to a garage to get it fixed. I was going to meet with a couple of friends at a local restaurant, so I was wearing normal clothes. You know, a lady pushing 50 and looks the part. Not a uniform or some of my usual crazy outfits this time. I even had a purse.

I went in, bells jingling, and this mechanic kinda type was very nice and listened patiently to my description of the problem. “Uh-hu, Ma’am, you see it ain’t that simple. We gotta take out the engine and the transmission, maybe even do a tune up…gonna set you back with at least 4k”.

Now, that car hasn’t been worth nowhere near 4k in the last ten years, so I told him that I would just scrap it then. But then he started to tell me about what a wonderful classic it would be in mint condition. I might be a woman, but even I know there’s nothing classic, or ever will be, about that rugged old, rusty car. It would be money out of the window.

I don’t think he would have said that to a man..
even today, with cameras everywhere, mechanics are taught to bilk you as much as possible thru ways as such: "ma'am, i see you haven't had an oil change in awhile, we should do one" or "you'll need a new battery before winter" or "your engine isn't sounding exactly correct, we'll have to perform a bunch of tests". i know a guy who brought his truck to a mechanic for a tune-up & the mechanic put the truck on the lift & it was up there 3 hours before he did any work. my friend knew that because he went across the street but quite a bit of ways away to the river to go fishing. yes, you guessed it, he brought his binoculars & watch him. so it ended up being 5 hours that the mechanic charged him. my friend explained to him the whole story. the mechanic came up with a bunch of excuses so my friend paid him for 1 & a half hours & told him he would go to the police immediately.
 
A dishonest mechanic will try to rip off anyone who will let them, not just females. Finding an honest shop in the area where you live is time well spent.
fortunately, my mechanic is close to the same as family. he bought the business from my cousin. & blessedly for me, he takes care of me instantly when i'm there because i give him extra money all the time.
 
Something with the gears. Couldn’t go uphill anymore, smoky as h***, reverse wouldn’t work, odor of burnt oil.

I have scrapped the car.
Oh... That sounds like a transmission problem, and 4,000 seems about right for that.

Now whether it is worth sinking 4,000 in it to fix it, that's up to you.
 
I think you would be lucky to keep it under $4000.

There is a shortage of mechanics right now. The ones that still do it ain't cheap! 🤦
 
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It’s an old Hyundai. Probably comparable to a 2001 Kia lol. I don’t think anyone would have offered 1k for it even if it was kinda okay.

Oh!..
I didn't see this part.

Yeah, best to let it go.
 
Something with the gears. Couldn’t go uphill anymore, smoky as h***, reverse wouldn’t work, odor of burnt oil.

I have scrapped the car.


I didn't read past your op last night. Sorry about your wheels.

The information is still valid in most cases, which is why the quality honest mechanics and services are valuable. The Subaru shop I used to go to had an original owner who built the business very well. He was the best I could find and had a fantastic 5 star reputation.
He decided to retire and sold it to his mechanic unfortunately. The mechanic knew how to fix cars but would bait/$witch and lie a LOT, keep your car for a month etc.

This is what I'd do for future reference. Look at everything from Consumer Reports to YouTube mechanic recommendations for reliable brands, models and years. You might already be familiar with exactly what you need/want.
If not, narrow your choices down.

Here's a good channel with a long track record. There are plenty of others too.

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCuxpxCCevIlF-k-K5YU8XPA

Do your homework just like you would for a military test. Spend time in a Chilton and Haynes as if it were a field manual. You can buy them for every make and model at auto parts stores or online.

Car forums are also a good way to get answers and learn about your car issues, pros/cons . A lot of these are shade tree mechanics and guys who like to accesorize, but plenty of good information for the trends that every car has.

These are ways to get as a second, third, forth opinions.

When you need to take your next car to the shop, act like you know what your talking about from spending the effort/ time to diagnose from symptoms. It may be this OR that, but you can tell the garage owner what YOU think it is and why.
Ask the right Qs.

1. Do you give free estimates?
Some don't and some use diagnostic computers. You can and SHOULD DIY at the auto parts store. They will have a basic hand held unit you can borrow for using in their parking lot.
This can give you a code to write down and probably get you in the ballpark if nothing else. Learn on YouTube how to use it or ask an employee. Maybe you'll need the garages more expensive computer and maybe not. They do it and don't loan out. Last I checked it was $50-100+/- depending. Just ask ahead of time because I have had a shop charge a whole lot of money just to do an inspection sticker check.

2. Tell the shop what you think it is and ask how many hours they charge for the job on the make model year. I've what do you charge for a basic brake job? My rotors are good. I just need pads all the way around.

3. Some things can be learned over the phone, like how much they charge per hour. Smaller Rural garages are often lower cost than city. You can learn how much a brake, tire replacement, etc over the phone without driving to the place.

4. Ask family, friends, neighbors, church, local online reviews before entrusting your car to a garage,. That goes double for a dealership.

5, When you first have an unusual noise, etc find out what you can and address it ASAP. The ounce of prevention saying is what can keep big fixes from often being necessary.
You wouldn't believe how many people don't do routine maintenance. It's in the owner's manual, online and in the books I mentioned. Most typical issues are caught and addressed early with the maintenance schedule.

These are just some principles that will take some time and effort, but should save you a lot of money.
Print this post out and file it inside your Chilton or Haynes manual if you think it will help save you $ from getting ripped off.
There's nothing I hate more than ladies getting taken advantage of by unscrupulous service men.
This basic format has helped others. Hope it serves you well.
I hope the Lord provides you just what you need.
 
I can relate.

I won't tell you what a smarmy car salesman did to me - it's too embarassing.

Buying a used car can be like wearing second-hand pair of shoes. Take a male family member with you next time - dad, brother, cousin.

It took me over a year to find the right car.

Sorry if this is old but..I have a lot to catch up on.