Theyre always fighting. They dont get along well. But the little one is doing great still
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Theyre always fighting. They dont get along well. But the little one is doing great still
Demi can you tell me who starts the fight and at the beginning of the fight what is it about.
They both start fights. Its a toxic relationship. Id rather not get into the details. Theyre both at fault
Dear Demi,
I hope you are doing well and that everything is okay with you and your family. I have been thinking about your situation and your brother's relationship with Vanessa. I ask you, who started the conflict? Because if two people love to fight with each other, it is almost impossible to fix what is wrong in their relationship. That would mean each person does not respect the other, and ultimately, they hate the person they are fighting with. There are demons involved in the fighting; they both are sacrificing to demons when they fight with each other. The Bible talks about sacrificing to demons. I wish you did not have to put up with violence, arguments, and fighting. It is such a horrible, tragic, miserable, completely unnecessary, evil, and sad fact.
My dad fought with my mother when I was little and throughout their married life, but my dad was an unfair fighter. I used to hear my mom throwing pots and pans around the kitchen at night, and my dad would argue with her about really stupid things that were unfixable or years in the future. As was his habit, he would say the same lies over and over again. If he said it enough, maybe the lies would become true. Anyway, the neighbors and the relatives would believe the lies, and school teachers would give his kids a hard time all day long in the classroom.
My dad's past: He was put in an orphanage at the age of three years old. His mother was 36 when she had a baby at home in Detroit, Michigan.
My dad's mother died shortly after she had her youngest. She got blood poisoning. Now this was just after the depression; people didn't have a lot of money back then, so my grandmother used newspapers as pads in those days. Sadly, because of this, she died of blood poisoning from the ink on the newspapers. Many women have died in the past from this.
Because of this, my dad suffered unthinkable child abuse in the orphanage where he lived until he was 18. Demi, my dad was a survivor of child abuse, and my mother was too. In the orphanage, they tried to kill him many times, and he was sexually abused. Back then, a man could come to the orphanage, pick out a child they wanted, and take them home for the weekend. Nobody cared how the child was treated. What my dad went through scared him for life. When he had his own family with my mother and my two sisters, my dad became the very person he despised. Sadly, he became like the people who raised him—evil.
When my dad married my mother, she had been abused too and because of a brain injury caused by my mother's father, she was special and had the mind of a child. Later, my dad told me that if you marry a stupid woman, the man can run the house anyway he wants.
When my mother was born, she was the second child. The first child, a boy, died because they accidentally overlaid him; it was cold, and they put the boy in between them in their bed. The bedsheet got twisted around the baby's neck, and when my grandmother saw it, she shook Bobby, and he started breathing again, but he later got sick and died. When my mom was born, her parents did not like her, and they did not love her or want her. She never knew what love was from her parents as a baby. Those early years of love and affection are profoundly important.
When my mother was two or three, her dad was splitting wood with a splitting maul outdoors. My grandmother told my mom to stay put and not walk over where her father was splitting wood. He swung the splitting maul behind his back and hit her right on the head. Getting a doctor was out of the question; they let her lie in her crib and cry because of the pain without comforting her. She lived, but she was damaged.
My mother was slow, but she wasn't stupid; she had great abilities in negotiation.
I hope you are doing well and that everything is okay with you and your family. I have been thinking about your situation and your brother's relationship with Vanessa. I ask you, who started the conflict? Because if two people love to fight with each other, it is almost impossible to fix what is wrong in their relationship. That would mean each person does not respect the other, and ultimately, they hate the person they are fighting with. There are demons involved in the fighting; they both are sacrificing to demons when they fight with each other. The Bible talks about sacrificing to demons. I wish you did not have to put up with violence, arguments, and fighting. It is such a horrible, tragic, miserable, completely unnecessary, evil, and sad fact.
My dad fought with my mother when I was little and throughout their married life, but my dad was an unfair fighter. I used to hear my mom throwing pots and pans around the kitchen at night, and my dad would argue with her about really stupid things that were unfixable or years in the future. As was his habit, he would say the same lies over and over again. If he said it enough, maybe the lies would become true. Anyway, the neighbors and the relatives would believe the lies, and school teachers would give his kids a hard time all day long in the classroom.
My dad's past: He was put in an orphanage at the age of three years old. His mother was 36 when she had a baby at home in Detroit, Michigan.
My dad's mother died shortly after she had her youngest. She got blood poisoning. Now this was just after the depression; people didn't have a lot of money back then, so my grandmother used newspapers as pads in those days. Sadly, because of this, she died of blood poisoning from the ink on the newspapers. Many women have died in the past from this.
Because of this, my dad suffered unthinkable child abuse in the orphanage where he lived until he was 18. Demi, my dad was a survivor of child abuse, and my mother was too. In the orphanage, they tried to kill him many times, and he was sexually abused. Back then, a man could come to the orphanage, pick out a child they wanted, and take them home for the weekend. Nobody cared how the child was treated. What my dad went through scared him for life. When he had his own family with my mother and my two sisters, my dad became the very person he despised. Sadly, he became like the people who raised him—evil.
When my dad married my mother, she had been abused too and because of a brain injury caused by my mother's father, she was special and had the mind of a child. Later, my dad told me that if you marry a stupid woman, the man can run the house anyway he wants.
When my mother was born, she was the second child. The first child, a boy, died because they accidentally overlaid him; it was cold, and they put the boy in between them in their bed. The bedsheet got twisted around the baby's neck, and when my grandmother saw it, she shook Bobby, and he started breathing again, but he later got sick and died. When my mom was born, her parents did not like her, and they did not love her or want her. She never knew what love was from her parents as a baby. Those early years of love and affection are profoundly important.
When my mother was two or three, her dad was splitting wood with a splitting maul outdoors. My grandmother told my mom to stay put and not walk over where her father was splitting wood. He swung the splitting maul behind his back and hit her right on the head. Getting a doctor was out of the question; they let her lie in her crib and cry because of the pain without comforting her. She lived, but she was damaged.
My mother was slow, but she wasn't stupid; she had great abilities in negotiation.
I hate abuse, any kind and especially child abuse. I suffered abuse by my dad and mom throughout my childhood. In fact, my dad did everything he could to hurt me mentally, and he tried to hurt me physically, but the Lord Jesus helped me, and no physical harm came to me except for small things, like I was cut by a razor twice and a needle, things of a similar nature. Maybe poison a few times. He even turned most of my grade school teachers against me, so that they did not like me or knew they could abuse me openly in front of the class. I suffered much mental anguish and humiliation because of this. It was not until 4th grade that I went to a church for school because our school was being remodeled, that I realized that my school work was as good or better than the other kids. And none of the teachers hurt my feelings when I went to Saint Gabriel's for school. It was the best school experience I ever had. My dad was an unfair fighter, and until I was older, I did not know the assaults were coming from him. I had dreams as a child of being in the closet with him, and one other dream was that he spit in my mouth. I can't remember the abuse, and I have brain damage from my dad talking so much that if someone starts talking too much, my brain recorder just shuts off. Psychologists say it is a defense mechanism.
Demi, because your sister-in-law and brother fight, their kids are affected by their terrible fights. The babies’ brains are recording all these fights, and when they grow up, the male children will likely fight with their spouses. And the female children will pick abusive husbands who fight with them and do other bad things. It is too bad they can't just love each other the way God intended a man and a woman to love one another in beautiful blissfulness. Instead, they are making it into something ugly and evil. And the fighting will get worse and worse. Maybe one will kill the other one. Or he will kick the wife out and take his children from her. No man likes a woman who will put up with abuse; he will get tired of her at some point. But my dad never tried of being mean to my mother, maybe this will be the case with Vanessa.
Demi, the thing is that my dad never brutally fought with my mother every day. It was all psychological; he had psychology books all over the house.
The fact that he started arguing within weeks of her almost dying suggests that your brother is completely bloodthirsty. In many situations where there is constant fighting or toxicity, it’s often not equally caused by both people. Usually, one person instigates or maintains the conflict to gain control or because of deeper issues. I understand you want to have mercy on your brother, but it’s important to see clearly who caused the harm in the first place. Also, if a woman is fighting back, it’s often because her boundaries or ego have been recklessly hurt, since many women tend to concede unless deeply provoked. Sadly abuse will only get worse.
One cop told of an old story that happened to him when he first became a cop, and they used to be called to a house for domestic abuse. The man and woman were fighting every night, and finally, the police came out, and it was quiet. The police broke down the door, and the man was sitting on his dead wife's chest. Even after her death, he still needs to fight with her.
I knew the young man, and he had a girlfriend who had their baby. This young man was going to kill his girlfriend. But the girl thought that he loved her. This girl was not able to see things as they really were. She probably thought about how they got along, and she thought that because of that, he loved her. I was very worried about her, and I knew the boy, and when I was visiting them at her dad's place, an apartment he let his daughter rent from him, I told the girl what he was doing when she left the apartment and how he ran from widow to widow to look and see if she was driving around the block making fun of him, and he was saying how he was going to kill her for that, and I showed her how anyone could have him by saying "hey baby, do you like me?" and sitting closer to him. This young man was bisexual, who liked men more than women, but he would not say no to anybody. I told her you think he loves you, he does not love you, and he could not love anybody. He is going to kill you, and I told her what he was doing after she left the apartment and how he said he would kill her. She left him that night. And when I saw him again, he was not in the least sad. He had no feelings about her leaving him, and he was not hurt at all; in fact, he was happy she was gone. He was tired of her, and he was greatly relieved she was gone.
Men don't fall in love with women just because she loves him; to him, she is a whore, and they could not love any woman. For they only know hate because he is a homosexual, and the woman should admittedly leave him to save her life and the wellness of her children's minds. Homosexuals hate women, and they love to hurt them, too.
My dad was a homosexual. He hurt my mother any way he could, even taking joy out of how she loved him. My dad would repeatedly make fun of anything she would do. When my dad married my mom, he never had his male friends over because he thought they would try to take his wife from him.
Demi, because your sister-in-law and brother fight, their kids are affected by their terrible fights. The babies’ brains are recording all these fights, and when they grow up, the male children will likely fight with their spouses. And the female children will pick abusive husbands who fight with them and do other bad things. It is too bad they can't just love each other the way God intended a man and a woman to love one another in beautiful blissfulness. Instead, they are making it into something ugly and evil. And the fighting will get worse and worse. Maybe one will kill the other one. Or he will kick the wife out and take his children from her. No man likes a woman who will put up with abuse; he will get tired of her at some point. But my dad never tried of being mean to my mother, maybe this will be the case with Vanessa.
Demi, the thing is that my dad never brutally fought with my mother every day. It was all psychological; he had psychology books all over the house.
The fact that he started arguing within weeks of her almost dying suggests that your brother is completely bloodthirsty. In many situations where there is constant fighting or toxicity, it’s often not equally caused by both people. Usually, one person instigates or maintains the conflict to gain control or because of deeper issues. I understand you want to have mercy on your brother, but it’s important to see clearly who caused the harm in the first place. Also, if a woman is fighting back, it’s often because her boundaries or ego have been recklessly hurt, since many women tend to concede unless deeply provoked. Sadly abuse will only get worse.
One cop told of an old story that happened to him when he first became a cop, and they used to be called to a house for domestic abuse. The man and woman were fighting every night, and finally, the police came out, and it was quiet. The police broke down the door, and the man was sitting on his dead wife's chest. Even after her death, he still needs to fight with her.
I knew the young man, and he had a girlfriend who had their baby. This young man was going to kill his girlfriend. But the girl thought that he loved her. This girl was not able to see things as they really were. She probably thought about how they got along, and she thought that because of that, he loved her. I was very worried about her, and I knew the boy, and when I was visiting them at her dad's place, an apartment he let his daughter rent from him, I told the girl what he was doing when she left the apartment and how he ran from widow to widow to look and see if she was driving around the block making fun of him, and he was saying how he was going to kill her for that, and I showed her how anyone could have him by saying "hey baby, do you like me?" and sitting closer to him. This young man was bisexual, who liked men more than women, but he would not say no to anybody. I told her you think he loves you, he does not love you, and he could not love anybody. He is going to kill you, and I told her what he was doing after she left the apartment and how he said he would kill her. She left him that night. And when I saw him again, he was not in the least sad. He had no feelings about her leaving him, and he was not hurt at all; in fact, he was happy she was gone. He was tired of her, and he was greatly relieved she was gone.
Men don't fall in love with women just because she loves him; to him, she is a whore, and they could not love any woman. For they only know hate because he is a homosexual, and the woman should admittedly leave him to save her life and the wellness of her children's minds. Homosexuals hate women, and they love to hurt them, too.
My dad was a homosexual. He hurt my mother any way he could, even taking joy out of how she loved him. My dad would repeatedly make fun of anything she would do. When my dad married my mom, he never had his male friends over because he thought they would try to take his wife from him.
And to make sure my mother would never leave him, he ruined her face. He was repeatedly raped as a child when he was in the orphanage, and when he stayed at men's houses when they came to pick him up at the orphanage.
And most of my relatives and uncles, cousins are all closeted homosexuals, I think that most men will do it if they get the chance. Only God-fearing men will not commit homosexual acts. My ex-husband is gay, and I did not know when I was married to him. When I found out, I divorced him thanks to my cousin who told me my husband his lover was gay. And my aunt told me that her husband was gay and that she did not care that he was gay and that she stayed married to him. She said as long as he wasn't cheating with another woman, it was her only concern.
The problem is that gay men molest their own children, and it is bad to do that even though the child was a baby; they remember it on some level, and that experience makes them weird. And can ruin their adult lives as far as marriage is concerned.
When I got married, I chose an unsaved and demon-possessed man, and how could I choose anything else? I got a restraining order on him. One night, a cop came to my house and told me they were driving down my street when they saw a man fitting the description of my husband. When they asked him to stop, he dropped a loaded gun on the ground and ran off into the woods. The police said he was coming to kill me. That was another time the Lord Jesus saved me from death.
I hate what fighting does. I hate abuse. I would never tolerate abuse. I would separate. I try to save my children from heartache. I have suffered so much abuse that I could never marry again. It is not worth it to have all your children molested because of your situation. It can easily happen if you were abused.
Lastly, I want to add what my mother once told me: "Some people's love is a fist." When she told me this, I did not understand how love could be a fist. Today, I can love my children. I have three, and they live with me. I hated myself for many years. I hated myself because of my parents' belittling and hurting me emotionally since I was a baby. But Jesus has always been there for me.
There was a little spring inside my stomach, and after my dad or my mom would fight with me, the little spring would spring some pure joy into my stomach, and I would be happy again. I think it must have been the Holy Spirit. I was born knowing and loving God. I knew how to pray to God as a small child. I love the Lord Jesus, and I count all my suffering as nothing compared to Christ and what He suffered on the cross. And I will not complain about my circumstances ever again as long as I know the Lord will keep me in his mercy. Amen regarding people who may be persecuting me because I am a Christian and I love Jesus.
Demi, I have not forgotten you. I have been thinking about you, and with all my heart, I want to help you. I know the Lord Jesus is with you, protecting you. As for me and my house, we will obey the Lord God Almighty and keep His commands. We will love our neighbor as ourselves.
Demi, don't spend your life with people who love to hate. Be filled with love for the Lord your God. The Bible says it is easier to make the whole world than to change one person's heart. My dad, whom I loved and desperately wanted to be saved. Anything is possible with the Lord Jesus, and I believe Jesus can do anything—even save my dad from hell. I hope to see my dad in heaven. I loved my mom a lot, too, and I believe she is in heaven. In fact, I want my whole family to go to heaven. I pray for them all.
Demi, I want to leave you with this: The Lord Jesus knows how hard life is here on earth. He knows there are many demons around trying to tempt us and make us do bad things, including hurting our family members. You can think about Jesus throughout the day, watch the saints movies, read the Bible, recite Scripture out loud and in your head, always be praying, fasting, and crying out to the Lord for your brother's and his wife's change of heart. But remember, the man is the head of the house. You can place a cross on the walls of their houses and put up Scripture. You can say "Get thee hence" when fighting comes your way. Separation might be the best thing for them.
Demi, never forget the Lord Jesus; He can do anything, and He cares about how you feel. If someone fights with you, never fight back. Flee the scene because verbal fighting quickly turns physical, and a man is physically stronger than women and children—unless you take karate, but if he can't beat you that way, he could get a gun, run over you with his car, or beat you with a bat. Why fight? She has already lost to him, and he is no longer in love with Vanessa. It would be better if she left him. It is shameful for her to let him treat her like that, and if he kills her, he most likely would have killed her anyway. Vanessa can buy a gun to give her peace of mind. Demi, you would not think that I would own a gun, but I do. Owning a gun is our right as Americans, and if someone came into the house, I could protect my children from harm.
Demi, God bless you.
Sincerely,
Branch
And most of my relatives and uncles, cousins are all closeted homosexuals, I think that most men will do it if they get the chance. Only God-fearing men will not commit homosexual acts. My ex-husband is gay, and I did not know when I was married to him. When I found out, I divorced him thanks to my cousin who told me my husband his lover was gay. And my aunt told me that her husband was gay and that she did not care that he was gay and that she stayed married to him. She said as long as he wasn't cheating with another woman, it was her only concern.
The problem is that gay men molest their own children, and it is bad to do that even though the child was a baby; they remember it on some level, and that experience makes them weird. And can ruin their adult lives as far as marriage is concerned.
When I got married, I chose an unsaved and demon-possessed man, and how could I choose anything else? I got a restraining order on him. One night, a cop came to my house and told me they were driving down my street when they saw a man fitting the description of my husband. When they asked him to stop, he dropped a loaded gun on the ground and ran off into the woods. The police said he was coming to kill me. That was another time the Lord Jesus saved me from death.
I hate what fighting does. I hate abuse. I would never tolerate abuse. I would separate. I try to save my children from heartache. I have suffered so much abuse that I could never marry again. It is not worth it to have all your children molested because of your situation. It can easily happen if you were abused.
Lastly, I want to add what my mother once told me: "Some people's love is a fist." When she told me this, I did not understand how love could be a fist. Today, I can love my children. I have three, and they live with me. I hated myself for many years. I hated myself because of my parents' belittling and hurting me emotionally since I was a baby. But Jesus has always been there for me.
There was a little spring inside my stomach, and after my dad or my mom would fight with me, the little spring would spring some pure joy into my stomach, and I would be happy again. I think it must have been the Holy Spirit. I was born knowing and loving God. I knew how to pray to God as a small child. I love the Lord Jesus, and I count all my suffering as nothing compared to Christ and what He suffered on the cross. And I will not complain about my circumstances ever again as long as I know the Lord will keep me in his mercy. Amen regarding people who may be persecuting me because I am a Christian and I love Jesus.
Demi, I have not forgotten you. I have been thinking about you, and with all my heart, I want to help you. I know the Lord Jesus is with you, protecting you. As for me and my house, we will obey the Lord God Almighty and keep His commands. We will love our neighbor as ourselves.
Demi, don't spend your life with people who love to hate. Be filled with love for the Lord your God. The Bible says it is easier to make the whole world than to change one person's heart. My dad, whom I loved and desperately wanted to be saved. Anything is possible with the Lord Jesus, and I believe Jesus can do anything—even save my dad from hell. I hope to see my dad in heaven. I loved my mom a lot, too, and I believe she is in heaven. In fact, I want my whole family to go to heaven. I pray for them all.
Demi, I want to leave you with this: The Lord Jesus knows how hard life is here on earth. He knows there are many demons around trying to tempt us and make us do bad things, including hurting our family members. You can think about Jesus throughout the day, watch the saints movies, read the Bible, recite Scripture out loud and in your head, always be praying, fasting, and crying out to the Lord for your brother's and his wife's change of heart. But remember, the man is the head of the house. You can place a cross on the walls of their houses and put up Scripture. You can say "Get thee hence" when fighting comes your way. Separation might be the best thing for them.
Demi, never forget the Lord Jesus; He can do anything, and He cares about how you feel. If someone fights with you, never fight back. Flee the scene because verbal fighting quickly turns physical, and a man is physically stronger than women and children—unless you take karate, but if he can't beat you that way, he could get a gun, run over you with his car, or beat you with a bat. Why fight? She has already lost to him, and he is no longer in love with Vanessa. It would be better if she left him. It is shameful for her to let him treat her like that, and if he kills her, he most likely would have killed her anyway. Vanessa can buy a gun to give her peace of mind. Demi, you would not think that I would own a gun, but I do. Owning a gun is our right as Americans, and if someone came into the house, I could protect my children from harm.
Demi, God bless you.
Sincerely,
Branch
Dear Demi , hello i hope you are doing well.
According to the latest global data from 2023, approximately 85,000 women and girls were intentionally killed worldwide, and about 60% of these homicides (around 51,000) were committed by intimate partners or other family members. This means that one woman or girl is killed every 10 minutes by her partner or a close relative.
Despite some progress, violence against women remains a severe global crisis, with many deaths being preventable through stronger legislation, accountability, and support systems for survivors.
Well when people get violent against each other its just as much of a crisis. There are women like her that are just as bad. Its not all one way. Like saud theyre both bananas
No need for statistics here.
The little one is doing great. Gigging around and her oldee brother is super super proud of his little sister. Very sweet to watch.
Vanessa and my brother. Well theres good days and bad days. My mom is pretty involved too. Same old arguing and stuff but so far at least the kids are well. We had summer break so they were visiting nice places and stuff that the kids like
I see and understand that you are worried etc. But its not THAT bad. I seriously dont think they will zero each other. Everytime things get extreme they turn to my mother or concellors for advice.
One follows the advice better than the other but all in all nobody is in literal danger for their lives.
Please dont turn this thread into a abuse thread. This was intended to be focused on the health of the kids and vanessa. Not abuse statistics etc. That is a whole different topic for a different thread. And what goes on and why who argues and throws a fit in their home is not really something that is appropriate to post on the internet without consent.
Havent heard much about them. Been really busy. Last week my mom just told me everything is ok currently and the kids generlly being very happy. My nephew is really proud to have his sister. Havent had the time to connect with them much.