Estanged sister, we really want her back

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RichardInNorway2025

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Its now ten years since my sister Debbie cut off contact with our parents. They are just normal kind people it was so hard to understand, whatever the reason it is ten years now and they are not getting younger. She has two children who now also dont see their grandparents, its such a waste - they all live in the same town as well.

I have prayed that suddenly by surprise she will take contact, and from there build back a relationship. If anyone can add their prayers for this it will mean so much.
 
RichardInNorway2025 said:
Its now ten years since my sister Debbie cut off contact with our parents. They are just normal kind people it was so hard to understand, whatever the reason it is ten years now and they are not getting younger. She has two children who now also dont see their grandparents, its such a waste - they all live in the same town as well.

I have prayed that suddenly by surprise she will take contact, and from there build back a relationship. If anyone can add their prayers for this it will mean so much.
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It could be that your parents are normal kind people but there is at least one issue that has not been resolved between your sister and parents. Whatever it is, it seems to be a big issue. And, you seem to be making light of this issue as well. Your parents can try to make contact again (without being pushy), however they should respect her choice if she doesn't want to respond. Yes, it is a waste.
 
MsMediator said:
It could be that your parents are normal kind people but there is at least one issue that has not been resolved between your sister and parents. Whatever it is, it seems to be a big issue. And, you seem to be making light of this issue as well. Your parents can try to make contact again (without being pushy), however they should respect her choice if she doesn't want to respond. Yes, it is a waste.
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What you say is true thank you for your comments. Perhaps all I can ask / pray for is for wisdom on all sides, that Gods will be done. If this situation has some purpose beyond what I can understand then of course I accept that.
 
RichardInNorway2025 said:
Its now ten years since my sister Debbie cut off contact with our parents. They are just normal kind people it was so hard to understand, whatever the reason it is ten years now and they are not getting younger. She has two children who now also dont see their grandparents, its such a waste - they all live in the same town as well.

I have prayed that suddenly by surprise she will take contact, and from there build back a relationship. If anyone can add their prayers for this it will mean so much.
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My wife hasn't heard from her sister in years, even though, for years they lived 30 minutes from each other. I will offer a prayer for your sister Debbie to return to the fold. Glad to have you onboard with us. Welcome to CC.
 
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RichardInNorway2025 said:
Its now ten years since my sister Debbie cut off contact with our parents. They are just normal kind people it was so hard to understand, whatever the reason it is ten years now and they are not getting younger. She has two children who now also dont see their grandparents, its such a waste - they all live in the same town as well.

I have prayed that suddenly by surprise she will take contact, and from there build back a relationship. If anyone can add their prayers for this it will mean so much.
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It sounds like your sister is an adult. She may have good reasons for not wanting to be in contact. As much as you and your parents may think you know best, I'd just let it be. Sometimes people need space to work things out. If she lives in the same town, have you tried to contact her? Check for a social media presence; sometimes you can see what someone is up to without contacting them. I'll certainly pray for all involved.
 
ResidentAlien said:
It sounds like your sister is an adult. She may have good reasons for not wanting to be in contact. As much as you and your parents may think you know best, I'd just let it be. Sometimes people need space to work things out. If she lives in the same town, have you tried to contact her? Check for a social media presence; sometimes you can see what someone is up to without contacting them. I'll certainly pray for all involved.
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Thank you for your prayers.
As an adult she has a right to her space of course, yet now it has been ten years of the situation, I had in mind that the milestone could be a good point to start again. We are blocked posting on all the media I have tried, but I can see what she posts and her life looks fine, its not like she has gone off the rails in any way. Her daughter is the same age as mine, we have a lot in common. I live in another country now so a chance meeting is off the cards, and I think showing up at her door as a surprise would not be right. I dont want her to think that she is forgotten and not wanted.
 
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