Hmm I may not be able to give good input here, but I do know many Christians my age and older that are single.
From my conversations with them, ive learned these few things conribute:
Wanting to find "the one", I can understand this concept but I think its highly risky, as I know its possible that there will be one "perfect" for another, but it also places a lot of unnecessary pressure on finding love.
Waiting until they are "enough", this one makes no sense to me in some ways. Outside of marriage, there is very little you can learn about marriage. You do not fully know somebody until you move in with them, you learn so much about them and yourself. It is overwhelming at times but SO worth it. No amount of being single and trying to work towrds marriage will actually fully prepare you for marriage. Premarriage counseling is always a good idea, and I wish I would have known it was a thing before getting married.
Also it is worth noting that I mention marriage here as I believe that all romantic endeavors should have a final goal of marriage, I do not believe that the concept of dating around its good. But these are my opinions
I got married after two years of knowing my Husband, we mostly talked at church.
Marriage is hard at times, but totally woth it. Love isnt about feeling good, or even about compatibility, those things come and go. We can not build off of the temporary. Love rather is about choices, like unending faithfulness, compassion, truth, flexibility and patience. Communication is also vital.
I know I won't always be loved, just as I will not always love as well as I should. Rather love is a choice.
My advice is old school, find someone you share the same values with and enjoy the company of, get to know them, marry them if you guys have the same core ideals regarding family/faith and then make it work. Counseling is very valuable here, especially pastoral counseling.
Im young, as im only 23, so I could be very wrong about this.
It is also worth noting that some people have been so diminished down by life events and Satan's lies that they accept for themselves things that are NOT ideal in romantic endeavors. This can be worked through in counseling. But marriage is ideally permanent, even if the choice you make isnt ideal(with exception to adultry)
But with the qualities I mention earlier about love, I believe that even bad choices can lead to very happy marriages with Communication, unconditional love and accountability through pastoral counseling.
I feel weird posting this as I am only 23 and I know so many are much more experienced than I am haha. Im sure my age will show here.
From my conversations with them, ive learned these few things conribute:
Wanting to find "the one", I can understand this concept but I think its highly risky, as I know its possible that there will be one "perfect" for another, but it also places a lot of unnecessary pressure on finding love.
Waiting until they are "enough", this one makes no sense to me in some ways. Outside of marriage, there is very little you can learn about marriage. You do not fully know somebody until you move in with them, you learn so much about them and yourself. It is overwhelming at times but SO worth it. No amount of being single and trying to work towrds marriage will actually fully prepare you for marriage. Premarriage counseling is always a good idea, and I wish I would have known it was a thing before getting married.
Also it is worth noting that I mention marriage here as I believe that all romantic endeavors should have a final goal of marriage, I do not believe that the concept of dating around its good. But these are my opinions
I got married after two years of knowing my Husband, we mostly talked at church.
Marriage is hard at times, but totally woth it. Love isnt about feeling good, or even about compatibility, those things come and go. We can not build off of the temporary. Love rather is about choices, like unending faithfulness, compassion, truth, flexibility and patience. Communication is also vital.
I know I won't always be loved, just as I will not always love as well as I should. Rather love is a choice.
My advice is old school, find someone you share the same values with and enjoy the company of, get to know them, marry them if you guys have the same core ideals regarding family/faith and then make it work. Counseling is very valuable here, especially pastoral counseling.
Im young, as im only 23, so I could be very wrong about this.
It is also worth noting that some people have been so diminished down by life events and Satan's lies that they accept for themselves things that are NOT ideal in romantic endeavors. This can be worked through in counseling. But marriage is ideally permanent, even if the choice you make isnt ideal(with exception to adultry)
But with the qualities I mention earlier about love, I believe that even bad choices can lead to very happy marriages with Communication, unconditional love and accountability through pastoral counseling.
I feel weird posting this as I am only 23 and I know so many are much more experienced than I am haha. Im sure my age will show here.
