are you the type to tell someone good advice or that they are doing something wrong? that is, with proper Christian intentions. & to assist them in correction. i remember decades ago; the 60's thru early 80's, you could speak someone good advice, correct them or teach a better way & the person would listen with all intentions of accountability, & apply proper advice. now-a-days, people generally, feel offended & or, that you are scolding or chastising them. so this is what occurred: a neighbor has crashed her vehicle 3 times in the past 2 years. a couple of days ago, i saw her make a right turn on the grass of someone's lawn & it was pretty far into the lawn. i thought i should tell her husband to tell her to be more careful & pay attention more astutely so no dramatic accident would occur. my wife says i shouldn't say anything because they are private people. i chat with her husband when we see each other & we do get along fine. tell me your thoughts on this particular event. thank you all.
"would you tell someone......"
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Your wife is right , he won't appreciate u criticizing his wife ( why were u watching her etc ) and she won't appreciate u talking about her behind her back , leave it b
.hold on Suze. 1st, why do you think i'm criticizing her? there's ways of telling people needful information with a Christian heart. the word "criticize' has been overused with the meaning that someone is deriding or disparaging someone else. think of teachers correcting students or parents correcting kids. i do not correct people with a mind of criticism. 2nd, the reason i was looking out the window was to se if the clouds were raining. it happened to be timed perfect that she was driving that way. also, it's the 1st time i saw her car ( she was driving a loaner for that time ), in 3 weeks because she had to get it fixed from the crash & i said: "that might be......" 3rd, "talking behind her back" has a connotation of mockery, vengeance, cruelty, backstabbing etc. have you ever heard of anyone talking behind someone's back with beneficial intentions? probably not. it's always negative. if no one says anything what do you think could happen? yes! you guessed it. she could crash big time & pass on! imagine parents & teachers never showing care when the students or kids are learning wrong or behaving wrong. & what do you think the Holy Spirit does for us? he comforts, corrects, teaches & advises us. besides all that, her husband is a pastor!!! i have given advice to him in the past & he listened with a pure clean Christian heart & mind. he never once hinted that i was talking behind her back. he agreed with all the advice i gave him. aren't Christians supposed to be always ready to assist, teach or correct? the answer is yes! 40 years ago, no one behaved like today. they listened with intentions to learn corrections.Your wife is right , he won't appreciate u criticizing his wife ( why were u watching her etc ) and she won't appreciate u talking about her behind her back , leave it b
Nonono ! U missunderstand ! I'm so sorry ! I don't think that u r criticizing her ! But her husband might , and she might ! So sorry ! I should have made that clearer , please forgive me
unless u know them very well indeed , to the extent that u know they won't take offence , that's what I meant and should have specifically said , I'm so sorry 
now that's a Christian mature woman with a Christian mature response. thank you Suze! remember, above, you said, "u ( meaning me ), criticizing....." i do not believe you are a criticizer but that you are a fine Christian girl. you & i both know that for decades, the "soft senseless condescending blameless attitude" creeps into people's minds subconsciously & objectively & before you know it, someone thinks, speaks & acts that way without wisdom. apology accepted Suze! i don't know them well but as much as they will allow because they are private people. in fact, when i moved here, i was always the one to say "hi" 1st. after a couple of years, i told my wife, " i don't think they like me". she said that they prefer to be private. well, after 4 years, he started to say "hi" 1st. he watches our house when on vacation & likewise when they are gone. Psalm 118:24- "this is the day the Lord hath made, we will rejoice & be glad in it" keep on performing the Lord's work Suze!!!!!!Nonono ! U missunderstand ! I'm so sorry ! I don't think that u r criticizing her ! But her husband might , and she might ! So sorry ! I should have made that clearer , please forgive me
I'm so glad u understy
I'm so glad u understand , I do try to b as succinct as I possibly can buy , sometimes this means that I miss important bits out , thank you for showing me such grace
If I dont have the kind of relationship that is open to such advice, I pray for that person then leave it to God. I never know what part of a persons life God is focusing on. I have found that if a person isnt a Bible Believing Chistian they wont believe they need correction. People have gotten very Evil over the last 60 years IMO. Looks like "The Last Days". Truthfully, its one of the reasons I left the US.
